Does being a loner, or liking to spend most of your time alone, mean that your selfish?
I agree, but I guess I just feel guilty sometimes about not wanting to be more social with other people. :sad:I don’t think so, it’s more of a self-preservation thing for me.
People drain me very fast, even family and friends.
I have to recharge my batteries in a cool, dark, place.
Don’t beat yourself up about it too bad. You’re not being sadistic.I agree, but I guess I just feel guilty sometimes about not wanting to be more social with other people. :sad:
Be careful what you ask for, right? ha haIn some cases I am probably doing the world a favour by not inflicting myself on it.
Not at all. For me, it means I got tired of being lost in the crowd, of having my ideas ignored and my input ridiculed. Basically, I got tired of being treated as if I was invisible. It's just much easier and simpler for me to be independent (a loner) and I find that I am happier for it. I think it would be selfish of anyone to expect me to hang out with them or their group if all they are going to do is treat me like I'm a non-factor. I have better ways to spend my time.Does being a loner, or liking to spend most of your time alone, mean that your selfish?
Yep, I've been to one or two parties where no one was pleased to see me, and the mood plummeted. One party in the block of flats I live in was a great example. Since then I have performed a public service and abstained.Be careful what you ask for, right? ha ha
I’ve been in situations where people wanted me to show up, and then when I did, you can just see the look on their faces go from “It’s great to see you after all this time!” to “Holy shit, they weren’t kidding, he’s a weirdo now.” in very short order.
Which one are you?Made me think of this:
The Four Faces of Introversion
1. Shy-secure people: Don’t have a strong need to be around people, and don’t tend to worry about talking to new people. They can soc.i.a.l.i.se if they need to, but they general prefer to be by themselves and to do things on their own.
2. Shy-withdrawn people: Suffer from social anxiety. They are highly sensitive to perceived rejection, are anxious of negative evaluation, and are afraid of doing something embarrassing. They suffer more anxiety than people who are shy-withdrawn.
3. Shy-dependent people: Are overly helpful, accommodating, self-effacing and compliant. They have a strong need to be with other people but they feel they are inferior or “not good enough”. They have good social skills and are pleasant company – but they give up their true self in their desire to fit in.
4. Shy-conflicted people: Vacillate between wanting to be around other people and then pulling back (as social situations are a real source of stress). This group of people experience the most stress and anxiety.