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Adults??

Started by lyricalliaisons · Apr 1, 2010 · 69 replies

#1
Does anyone else here have trouble accepting the fact that they're adults (the people who actually are adults)?? Does the way your life is keep you from fully being able to be a real adult & from leading an "adult" life? Does it keep you from feeling like an adult?

That's how it is for me. I turned 28 two months ago, but I still feel like a kid in most ways. I have very little life experience & am nothing at all the way I'm "supposed" to be, according to societies standards.
#2
dont worry about it lol im 45 and i still play on the swings at the park wheeeeeee great fun 😀
#3
I never really thought about it I guess. My process of going from "kid" to "adult" was very gradual. High school, then college, then marriage...

It totally freaks me out that I'm going to be a mom in a few short months though....
#4
Emily_G said: ↑
I never really thought about it I guess. My process of going from "kid" to "adult" was very gradual. High school, then college, then marriage...

It totally freaks me out that I'm going to be a mom in a few short months though....

congrats on the baby lol , bet you make a great mom :😛:
#5
I feel the same way. I turned 28 this year also and felt in alot of ways much younger. While I feel mature I feel inexperienced at the same time. *runs off to watch fave cartoons*
#6
I still feel like I am an 18 year old, until I look in the mirror that is
#7
Remus said: ↑
I still feel like I am an 18 year old, until I look in the mirror that is

its funny you should say that a lot of people who are middle aged like my self feel like that , its like you forget how old you are , the dredded mirror reminds you lol
#8
Remus said: ↑
I still feel like I am an 18 year old, until I look in the mirror that is

Hey 18 is considered an adult. :😛:
#9
It's a mix with me. I feel like I'm 30 years older than I ought to be. But then I examine someone like my father, and I realize I am a neophyte in the important things.
#10
Im 25 and I think due to my SA and shyness I feel very much like a child and due to inexperience in alot of areas.
I see other people/friends my age married with kids and the way they act with alot of confidence and I still feel like kid really not wanting any of that stuff (and think come accross child like from that sense aswell being very timid)
kinda hard to explain
#11
teandtoast said: ↑
Im 25 and I think due to my SA and shyness I feel very much like a child and due to inexperience in alot of areas.
I see other people/friends my age married with kids and the way they act with alot of confidence and I still feel like kid really not wanting any of that stuff (and think come accross child like from that sense aswell being very timid)
kinda hard to explain

I think I see what you mean. I feel the same.
#12
i often wish i was still a child. life was just so much easier, no worries, no responsibility's
#13
It depends. Sometimes I'm like a child between five and seven, other times I'm a teen, other times i'm more adult, and other times my age is non existant... like a ghost. It gets confusing at times not knowing who or what the heck you are.
#14
davidburke said: ↑
i often wish i was still a child. life was just so much easier, no worries, no responsibility's

I agree. Things were so much easier then in a lot of ways.
#15
davidburke said: ↑
i often wish i was still a child. life was just so much easier, no worries, no responsibility's

Me too, and things didn't hurt me as much emotionally back then. I'd cry then get over it the next day, whereas now things play on my mind for months. I want to go back to when my hardest decison was picking which pokemon to use to beat my brothers pokemon lol. :😮:
#16
But then you would have to go through high school (secondary school) all over again - that I would hate.

As for me, I don't feel like an adult in social situations or in regards to my general life experience, though I am sensible.. for the most part :😛:.
#17
teandtoast said: ↑
Im 25 and I think due to my SA and shyness I feel very much like a child and due to inexperience in alot of areas.
I see other people/friends my age married with kids and the way they act with alot of confidence and I still feel like kid really not wanting any of that stuff (and think come accross child like from that sense aswell being very timid)
kinda hard to explain

I feel exactly the same. I'm 22 and I feel like I have not advanced socially since the age of 15. Everyone around me is getting married, having kids, or are in serious relationships and I have yet to go on my first date. It's pretty sad really.

I really hate the idea of being an adult I just feel like being an adult makes things more depressing and boring and has too many things to stress over. I really hate responsibility. That's probably why I'm still living at home right now. lol 🙄
#18
yeah, i know...i'm 23 and jobless and without almost any social life (due to my SA). i still depend on my parents a lot...and that makes me feel bad. sometimes i forget that i'm already 23 years old. and when i remember my real age, i hate myself. how can i be like this at this age??? how i wish i really was still a kid so i wont feel this bad to still be depending and relying on my parents....
#19
When I was 15, I felt like I was much older. Now I feel like I'm much younger.

Basically, I don't feel like I've aged at all for 30 years.

Except for that mirror thing - damned thinning hair and grey beard!
#20
I still feel like a teenager in many respects. It goes hand in hand with a lack of accomplishment or experience with certain things. In many ways my life is still the same as it was when I was 18, so on some level it feels as though I have not truly started my life yet. It's as though I'm still waiting for something, some event or milestone to pass in order for me to feel as though my adult life has begun.

On the flip side of that though, I have changed since I was 18. I am not nearly as bad off mentally as I was then. I have definitely matured and have overcome many of my problems since then. Situationally I may still be 18, but for the most part I do feel my age.

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