lyricalliaisons
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Lol the only thing adult about my life is paying the bills, etc.
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Lol the only thing adult about my life is paying the bills, etc.
Pink_Paula
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I know what you mean, if it wasn't for those pesky bills i could still pretend i was young
Corsendonk
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Sorry to hear what happened to your mom. Must be awful to deal with something like that. Does your mom say these things when you're around or do you overhear her saying it?
I don't like lying either, but sometimes bending the truth a bit saves me humiliation on the spot. Fair to say it don't happen that much, cause i've been quite good at avoiding. I see danger from miles away, so to speak.
lyricalliaisons
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Thanks
Sometimes she says them in front of me, sometimes when she's on the phone with people & I overhear, & sometimes, she tells relatives when she's at their homes & I find out later. She's told people of things I never wanted them to know before, things that are none of their business.I avoid everyone. If I see someone I know when I'm away from home, I hope they don't see me because I'm always afraid of the questions they're going to ask. I get scared when they talk to me & when they do, I automatically tell the truth, no matter how humiliating it is.
Corsendonk
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I avoid everyone i know as well . Unless it's a safe person. Someone i know who won't ask personal questions. When i run into someone and can't avoid, i try to act like i'm in a hurry, change the topic, or tell the truth.
The last time i overheard (i was in the kitchen playing a game with my nephew) my mother when she's asked the question. 'what is he (me ) upto? i put my fingers into my ears. I predicted my mom would call me the loser of the family.....still curious what she actually said now. Contradicting i know
The last time i overheard (i was in the kitchen playing a game with my nephew) my mother when she's asked the question. 'what is he (me ) upto? i put my fingers into my ears. I predicted my mom would call me the loser of the family.....still curious what she actually said now. Contradicting i know
I think once I have kids and see how they are, then I'll realize, hey Im an adult lol..
Kitana
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I'm 23 and still feel like I'm in highschool.. only more depressed and pathetic.
I remember a time when I was in the 3rd grade.. I grabbed and pad of paper and a pen and started doing the math to see what year I would turn 20. I remember being so scared of getting older, of my parents dieing and me being alone.
Now, I try not to look at the calender so the days pass by faster.
I remember a time when I was in the 3rd grade.. I grabbed and pad of paper and a pen and started doing the math to see what year I would turn 20. I remember being so scared of getting older, of my parents dieing and me being alone.
Now, I try not to look at the calender so the days pass by faster.
GreenEyedRedHead
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Wow, you're just like me! I've never been anywhere alone either. The couple times I've had the house to myself overnight I stayed awake all night because I was scared of the the dark like a kid! I feel like a teenager too and also missed out on going out with friends because of SA. I'm 35 and have a 16 year old daughter. I'm careful to let her go places and make her do things herself so she can make a smooth transition when she moves out. When I moved out of my parent's house, I didn't know how to pay a bill or pump gas! I've had to learn to do things for myself out of necessity, but I still feel like people my own age are way older than me. At least I'll feel at home with all the younger people when I start college in the fall.
Yes, definitely. I'm 27 years old, but in many ways, I feel as though I am still a little kid. I have never lived on my own, never had a real job, and stay hidden in my room most of the time except when I go to my college classes, which my mom or cousin must drive me to because I don't have a license.
Bo592
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I know I am 28 year old and still having trouble enjoying adult things driving and having girlfriends was the ownly thing that made me want to growup. but I don`t have none of them never had not one of them. I still watch cartoons and play video games and have trouble with reading and writing as you guys probly could tell. But I don`t see it as wrong to still like childish things because what important is that you can pay the bills and be responsible and stick up for yourself you can still watch cartoon and play video games and still be able to do those things. I can be a Kid and still be a tough guy
Invisibleman
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im not an adult but im almost there. But I can relate for sure. I never feel as old as I am(17) I feel like a child most of the time.
Its just that pretty soon im going to be moving off to college and I dont think I could be more unprepared for living by myself. Like seriously I dont know how to do anything!I have no idea how to use a credit card,no idea.Im the only one in my grade that doesnt have a job yet,I dont know how to do a resume. I dont know anything about bank accounts or money or anything! how the hell am I going to live by myself!? I have a drivers licence,but I have a fear of driving so I cant even drive like everybody else.
I look around and I see all of the other kids my age doing all of these things and I feel so stupid. I love my parents but it makes me think why the hell havent they explained any of this to me? My sister always made fun of me that il be living with mom 'til im 30.It used to be a laugh,but now I literally go into a rage when she says it because im carrying out my self-fulfilling prophecy. I used to be so confident that I could make it on my own but now my hope is diminishing.
Now thoughts of me being 40 living in my moms basement,pumping gas for a living are taking over my head. Im scared of fulfilling the expectations of all the kids at school. They all think im born to be nothing and I cant stop picturing myself as just that....
Its just that pretty soon im going to be moving off to college and I dont think I could be more unprepared for living by myself. Like seriously I dont know how to do anything!I have no idea how to use a credit card,no idea.Im the only one in my grade that doesnt have a job yet,I dont know how to do a resume. I dont know anything about bank accounts or money or anything! how the hell am I going to live by myself!? I have a drivers licence,but I have a fear of driving so I cant even drive like everybody else.
I look around and I see all of the other kids my age doing all of these things and I feel so stupid. I love my parents but it makes me think why the hell havent they explained any of this to me? My sister always made fun of me that il be living with mom 'til im 30.It used to be a laugh,but now I literally go into a rage when she says it because im carrying out my self-fulfilling prophecy. I used to be so confident that I could make it on my own but now my hope is diminishing.
Now thoughts of me being 40 living in my moms basement,pumping gas for a living are taking over my head. Im scared of fulfilling the expectations of all the kids at school. They all think im born to be nothing and I cant stop picturing myself as just that....
EscapeArtist
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Hmm, good thread. Yeah, it scares me that i'm now recognized as an adult. Although some people still treat me like a child, while that scares me also it feels more comfortable..
I'm not really sure what that is, I know for me that I've hidden from the child in me since I was 10, so it kind of cut off at 10 and I feel still like i'm 10 years old in some ways. At 10-13 years old is when I felt very abandoned and started using defense mechanisms, lost touch with the child part of me, and I guess it stayed 10 years old.
If there are some things that you are not over from your childhood it's good to sort through them and treat yourself like a child, be there for that child in you like a good parent would. Everybody has a child in them but you want to also have a respectable parent in there also. If you just realize that quality is in you (the strong adult personality) and tell yourself that, it's a start. Then practice using your stronger, more initiating qualities.
For me, maybe it sounds crazy but it helps to kind of split myself into child and adult personalities and even kind of get them to speak to eachother and mimmick a healthy parent-child connection, I mean you have to give yourself what you can't get from others. It really helps and I think it's one good way to have that child grow up a little with the support of yourself
I'm not really sure what that is, I know for me that I've hidden from the child in me since I was 10, so it kind of cut off at 10 and I feel still like i'm 10 years old in some ways. At 10-13 years old is when I felt very abandoned and started using defense mechanisms, lost touch with the child part of me, and I guess it stayed 10 years old.
If there are some things that you are not over from your childhood it's good to sort through them and treat yourself like a child, be there for that child in you like a good parent would. Everybody has a child in them but you want to also have a respectable parent in there also. If you just realize that quality is in you (the strong adult personality) and tell yourself that, it's a start. Then practice using your stronger, more initiating qualities.
For me, maybe it sounds crazy but it helps to kind of split myself into child and adult personalities and even kind of get them to speak to eachother and mimmick a healthy parent-child connection, I mean you have to give yourself what you can't get from others. It really helps and I think it's one good way to have that child grow up a little with the support of yourself
maiato
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It seems everyone is adult here, 27 and 28, i'm the last one...28 : P And I feel pretty much the same. Maybe cause of standards as u say....both the truth is that there's lots of people out of the standards and feel good with themselves! And that's a great difference....we are as u are...either we achieve what others achieves...the most important is try to reduce the pressure in ourselves and get the best of life!
WeirdyMcGee
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Hm... well maybe the fact that I can't do most things for myself has slowed things down for me... but on the other hand, I've felt like an adult since I was 12 and started looking after my brother full time.
Mom would go to work 2-3 jobs and be gone all day and night and I would wake him up in the morning, feed him breakfast, pack a lunch, walk him to school, check on him in between classes, walk him home, get him an after school snack, keep an eye on him until dinner and wait for mom to come home.
My older sister who was 16 at the time had nothing to do with him, really.
Then I started working a year later to help pay the bills.
It all sounds so silly though, considering I was just a child, but I guess if I had the want to be a kid and to fart around (which I didn't really...) I could say that I grew up too fast.
I guess it's catching up with me now; being agoraphobic and unable to do anything on my own.
haha
I'm not in denial about growing up though.
I rather enjoy having responsibilities when I can handle them... and just because you're an adult, it doesn't mean you don't make mistakes still.
You're still learning every day as an adult- just like you did when you were a child. You're just expected to be more composed than a child while doing it.
Mom would go to work 2-3 jobs and be gone all day and night and I would wake him up in the morning, feed him breakfast, pack a lunch, walk him to school, check on him in between classes, walk him home, get him an after school snack, keep an eye on him until dinner and wait for mom to come home.
My older sister who was 16 at the time had nothing to do with him, really.
Then I started working a year later to help pay the bills.
It all sounds so silly though, considering I was just a child, but I guess if I had the want to be a kid and to fart around (which I didn't really...) I could say that I grew up too fast.
I guess it's catching up with me now; being agoraphobic and unable to do anything on my own.
haha
I'm not in denial about growing up though.
I rather enjoy having responsibilities when I can handle them... and just because you're an adult, it doesn't mean you don't make mistakes still.
You're still learning every day as an adult- just like you did when you were a child. You're just expected to be more composed than a child while doing it.
I feel just the same as everyone here too in this way.
The thing is, I don't like adult life anyway. So I'm OK with the fact I am still basically a kid/teenager.
I don't agree with having to look at others at a certain age and think "I should be just like them too", or feel you have to "grow up". Just be you. Well that my outlook anyway.
IMO age is a state of mind. Like a belief. And I'd rather stay how I am TBH than have a life "adults" are expected to have.
OK there may be dissadvantages too. But I feel too in touch with my kid self.
I do think it may be becasue I haven't had a "normal" "teenage" time. For one thing going to an all boys school, and also being very shy anyway.
But this isn't completley a bad thing I don't think, the fact of still having that spark/desire.
It does hurt abit I find, when you get the feeling that youre now expected to be different, and more adult, to match what society wants. Wen you're like "but I'm just a kid/teen really, this doesn't match me yet haha". (As much as I hated school, I feel I could go back and feel in place, as much s before. Not that I fit in there ever. I just mean, feel in place hah)
But you do create your own reality really and if you still feel more a kid/teen, like myself, to you, inside you, that can be what IS.
I don't get satisfaction out of the thouhgt of what is supposed to be an "adult life" either really. I mean, I don't desire a "good", well paid job. I don't want to be married and have kids. These things mean nothing for me. I get more enjoymen out of little things like working on music, playing games, reading stuff, going for walks.
I mean time doesn't really exist in a way when you get right down to it I don't think. Since there is only now, and you're brain puts things in a chronological order.
The thing is, I don't like adult life anyway. So I'm OK with the fact I am still basically a kid/teenager.
I don't agree with having to look at others at a certain age and think "I should be just like them too", or feel you have to "grow up". Just be you. Well that my outlook anyway.
IMO age is a state of mind. Like a belief. And I'd rather stay how I am TBH than have a life "adults" are expected to have.
OK there may be dissadvantages too. But I feel too in touch with my kid self.
I do think it may be becasue I haven't had a "normal" "teenage" time. For one thing going to an all boys school, and also being very shy anyway.
But this isn't completley a bad thing I don't think, the fact of still having that spark/desire.
It does hurt abit I find, when you get the feeling that youre now expected to be different, and more adult, to match what society wants. Wen you're like "but I'm just a kid/teen really, this doesn't match me yet haha". (As much as I hated school, I feel I could go back and feel in place, as much s before. Not that I fit in there ever. I just mean, feel in place hah)
But you do create your own reality really and if you still feel more a kid/teen, like myself, to you, inside you, that can be what IS.
I don't get satisfaction out of the thouhgt of what is supposed to be an "adult life" either really. I mean, I don't desire a "good", well paid job. I don't want to be married and have kids. These things mean nothing for me. I get more enjoymen out of little things like working on music, playing games, reading stuff, going for walks.
I mean time doesn't really exist in a way when you get right down to it I don't think. Since there is only now, and you're brain puts things in a chronological order.
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Agent_Violet
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My demanding nature is that of a child.
My logic and common sense is 30 years ahead of my true age.
The fact that I cry when i'm angry and/or frustrated makes me a child.
I'll be 29 in a few weeks.
My logic and common sense is 30 years ahead of my true age.
The fact that I cry when i'm angry and/or frustrated makes me a child.
I'll be 29 in a few weeks.
I was just realizing that rationally I know I'm an adult, but when I look around at other adults (even ones that I know are younger than I am), I'm thinking of myself as a child (or at least younger) when relating to them. I feel like even 18 year olds are more mature, handle situations better than I do/would, and have better judgment than I do.
MrJones
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I'm 20 years old. I know that some of you will say that I'm still young and that I should live life and that stuff. But when I see that people my age or even younger having such mature lives, making decisions, moving on... they have lives. They're grown up people. I'm still the same I've always been, I feel like a 10 year old kid.
It wouldnt be so bad, but I don't see a change in the future...
It wouldnt be so bad, but I don't see a change in the future...