A preterm birth

[Falkor]

Hello everyone,
I'm a Preterm birth, I was born 2 months before the actual date of my birth. (I could have been a summer kid)
This caused a lot of difficulties in life, I have many anxiety disorders, I was a very shy kid, always timid, and I am a really high sensetive person. I have a form of autism and I have eating problems and I'm bipolar and have just got diagnosed with Borderline.

I can't be confident, I am always afraid of what people think of me (Social Anxiety)
I am afraid of dentists,hospitals, other scary stuff. (Just a lot of anxiety)
I have a difficulty making friends. (Shyness)
I feel a very huge sense of emotions and it overwhelms me (HSP)
My mood can change every single moment from happy to depressed and depressed to extremely joyful. (Bipolar)
and I have a lack of socialising due to my Autistic Characterisms.
I feel empty, lost and I'm in a crisis situation sometimes. (Borderline)
I am very skinny (eating problems)

I have been leading a life of suffering, due to all my probs.
Some I can call a gift, being HSP, which is good feeling like an empath.
But I'm absorbing all the pain and I realise all my struggles are caused by heavy emotions (failure: afraid of friends , insecurity: can't even approach them, mood swings: painful emotion habit)

I'm just wondering if this is all caused by my birth, this question has always been on my mind. I don't know, do you guys think it is related? I'm just curious if it is possibly related.
Because I almost didn't survive, I did survive and I was on television and all, so it's not just a normal birth, it's actually a miracle since I fought myself through it, as a baby.

A lot of people with autism,hsp are prematures though.

Well, thanks for reading.
Sassy

 

[Feathers]

Hey Saskia,

You wrote a lot, you didn't write you are also a wonderful creative lovely young lady!!

Sometimes we can forget we are much more than any 'labels'...

Maybe some of the things could be related. A relative was prematurely born (difficult birth, they almost thought it was a 'miscarriage') and he had some 'brain damage' and went to 'special school' - he's quite social (albeit lonely a lot, he lives outside of town and doesn't go to work), he doesn't seem to have anxiety and such... Maybe it's different in each case...

I think it can be more important if it was 'trauma at birth'/difficult birth or for autism some people suspect vaccines or nutrition etc.
Some things can maybe be influenced by nutrition of mother, or environment factors (eg pollution) etc.

There are always a lot of factors, these may be just a tiny part. Genetics + environment (family, community, country) + self-activity (nutrition, lifestyle) all these things can be a factor...

Anxiety and HSP and some people also say bipolar can also be eg from lack of magnesium or other vitamins/minerals etc.

The most important are the factors one can influence: what you do yourself, what you eat, going for a walk, exercise, doing things you love doing...

There was a time when I too tried to find 'cause/s' of my problems... It can be good to know, usually there are always many factors, not just one...

((hugs))

 

[alspacka]

Hello,

I've also been born preterm (~2months+). As far as I know, I've only got an eating disorder, social anxiety and I've been depressed for a significant part of my life.

The effect that preterm birth has are quite subjective so I can only speak for myself, but to me it feels like it was more of a catalyst than a cause. It has just made me more susceptible to various illnesses.

There doesn't seem to be a lot of information on the subject as a matter of fact. this link offers a small bit of palpable information, but I haven't really found that much more.

 

[doubleM]

ive never heard of autism or anxiety being linked to premature birth. autism has been linked to deficiencies of magnesium, boron, and vitamin B6. its never been officially proven but autism is thought to have something to do with mercury exposure at a young age.
things you could try for anxiety: magnesium(not oxide), vitamin b3(niacin), valerian, and vitamin d. i think if anxiety has anything to do with the physical, its a deficiency.

 

[Phoenixx]

I was also born premature, 2 1/2 months early to be exact (Supposed to be a summer baby, too). While I do have quite some health problems, I wouldn't consider my social anxiety to be a result of when I was born. The only things I have that could possibly be a result of being born early are food allergies/sensitivities and why my body can't handle certain things, a cleft-palate (I don't have a full one, only partial. You wouldn't even know I had one unless I told you), the fact I only had two wisdom teeth (I really don't know if that has anything to do with prematurity; I say I just got lucky. ) and... maybe my small size?

I don't really like to talk about how I was when I was born because I always get this shocked look whenever I tell them, like this >>> . Yeah, I almost died, and spent quite the time in the hospital before my parents could bring me home, but I made it.

 

[dottie]

i doubt it. i was "well done" when i came out and i am still neurotically shy.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Perhaps it has something to do with anxiety...? Maybe not so much.

I, on the other hand- was born 1 week late; a natural birth. (spring kid)
I wasn't a shy kid, I was very loud, friendly and outgoing, as I am when I'm not in an agoraphobic funk.
I was (and probably still am) hyper sensitive. (HS)
I became socially anxious around 13-14
Agoraphobic at 15
Developed panic disorder by 16
I developed some physical health problems when I was 16 that have effected my eating patterns and general outlook on life - (so I've had eating problems/binging/psychological purging, as well as constant depression and OCD.)
I don't think I have any autistic characteristics, though.

So really, I'm not so sure if you can say it's all related or not.
But I think all of this pain we go through should prove something to all of us-- we're strong. We're still alive, somehow and we should just do what we want to do and nothing less.
Alot of the best people I know are socially anxious.

 

[Hoppy]

One of the people I was at school with was born 3 months premature. And she is an extrovert and twice as wide as I.

And on the other hand I was born normal.

 

[Newtype]

On the day that I was born, the doctor said that I was able to do things that normally newborn babies can't do, so I doubt there's a link with your birth.

 

[we_r_eternal]

being born two months premature does'nt cause mental disorders.premature birth can cause medical problems but not two months premature. being born at 5 months can cause physical problems but not mental issues. these types of mental issues generally come about because of how you were raised and or treated in your formative years 0-3 years old. parents have a lot to do with it. the way they act, the way they treat you, and also the genes they pass down to you. but they can also arise from traumatic experiences that happen at any age.