I like your straightforward, realistic approach. There's truth in the things you say, maybe it's not always what people want to hear, but there's great wisdom in your words.
sounds like a beautiful evening. it's been a long time since i sailed. i love being out on the water. yes, that my cottage in the photo album, the bay is just a short walk away.
I read your post in the how are you feeling thread.
That truly sucks. I fear I am in a similar position. Not doing something that is in line with your values cant make you feel all that great. I hear you. I'm sorry - that really sucks.
No one is perfect, but that doesn't give him the right to turn a deaf ear to your opinions and feelings. Try to work on the problems that you have and see if he will improve. If he doesn't, then you need to make a decision on whether or not you want to go to relationship counseling or leave him, because this cannot continue.
dottie, if you look at yourself nonbiased-ly, can you say that you come at him agressively and accuse him like he says. It looks, to me, like this relationship won't have a good ending if this keeps up. He needs to change. Or you need to leave.