ImNotMyIllness
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How are you in Relationships?
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ImNotMyIllness
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You're human. No one is perfect. You'll mess up and so will she. Part of life. Don't be afraid!
ImNotMyIllness
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I think I'm also needy in the sense I want to be emotionally and physically close and I like/need a lot of affection. I need someone who is unselfish and giving because I am the same way.
Unfortunately, I can be insecure and get jealous easily. (not in a psycho way).
Monogamy and faithfulness are musts for me!
Unfortunately, I can be insecure and get jealous easily. (not in a psycho way).
Monogamy and faithfulness are musts for me!
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catrin87
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In my last relationship which ended about 2 and a half years ago I was fine in the early stages when it was light hearted and fun and no pressure but then once we started to get more serious my insecurities started shining through and thats when the cracks started to show in the relationship. For example when we would meet up with his parents or his close friends I would be so timid and shy and I think they thought I was being rude when really I was just horribly anxious! So it made it quite hard for us because my ex hadn't really seen that side of me and I don't think he had been aware of how shy I could be in certain situations.
Also when I was with him I was on the contraceptive pill which, in hindsight, had serious negative effects on my mental health and I still think it is to blame for starting my panic attacks. I was not myself for the 3 years I was taking it and its actually quite upsetting, even now, to think that I put myself through that for that long. I was a mess- I would cry for no apparent reason, I accused him of cheating when I know that he would never have done that to me, I started huge unnecessary arguments in public. I know that it wasn't just me, it was definitely the hormones that I was pumping into myself, because I can see now how completely unreasonable I was. It was a dark time for me. I still feel that I am mainly to blame for the breakdown of our relationship because I didn't realise that anxiety/depression and the pill was not a good mix, at all! Luckily though we are still very close friends and it didn't mean we had to lose each other completely.
Generally speaking though, I think I am quite good in relationships as long as the other person can be patient with me in terms of getting to know their friends and families. I am not a jealous person, I think if you are with the right person then you shouldn't have a reason to be jealous. I do need quite a bit of time to myself though due to being a massive introvert and so I could never be with someone who was too clingy or needy.
Also when I was with him I was on the contraceptive pill which, in hindsight, had serious negative effects on my mental health and I still think it is to blame for starting my panic attacks. I was not myself for the 3 years I was taking it and its actually quite upsetting, even now, to think that I put myself through that for that long. I was a mess- I would cry for no apparent reason, I accused him of cheating when I know that he would never have done that to me, I started huge unnecessary arguments in public. I know that it wasn't just me, it was definitely the hormones that I was pumping into myself, because I can see now how completely unreasonable I was. It was a dark time for me. I still feel that I am mainly to blame for the breakdown of our relationship because I didn't realise that anxiety/depression and the pill was not a good mix, at all! Luckily though we are still very close friends and it didn't mean we had to lose each other completely.
Generally speaking though, I think I am quite good in relationships as long as the other person can be patient with me in terms of getting to know their friends and families. I am not a jealous person, I think if you are with the right person then you shouldn't have a reason to be jealous. I do need quite a bit of time to myself though due to being a massive introvert and so I could never be with someone who was too clingy or needy.
mikebird
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Thanks for asking
Girls are generally clingy and dependent on me. All 4 years younger. They all squeal with me. They like me. I make 'em laugh in ways they never expect. I do this with all friends, by being unique.
I've never got to know any girl while at school
Since starting uni, I was the one with entrepreneur dreams
before Grad I was enjoying pizza delivery - the one who came home off shift with free Dominos for all, as my colleagues did - therefore they were an addition to the house of 5 and their partners.
After about 6 years on a reasonable salary which increased, life was good. As her mum said, life & relationships are all about money, and problems are rooted in that. Nothing else. After breaking up because I invested in small property which put her off. I had a car, to make life good. This has changed. Many years without license or vehicle.
Next girls have done all the driving & earning, and while I've been unemployed a lot!! Since 2001, no chance to get anyone to move in with me for any longer than a few months. Good relationships with those from different countries to study / work in London, when I am working.
Had 3 cars and my current one is the best - supplied by an ex who her company moved her to Dubai & now San Francisco, who left the car with me.
By the way, I couldn't start it this morning. I tramped all the miles across to town to my favourite supermarket with rucksack in freezing winds. It's on the 5th new battery I gave it last July. They die within a year when supposed to last 3 years. ? is that meant to be a relationship? :sarcastic:
I've looked after this old machine, with full services, tyres, brakes, exhausts, learning how to replace the wipers. Never had to wash it, however dirty it gets, because its metallic paint and hard rain takes care of that - no garage - off road parking. It has my sound system transferred from all cars with upgrades. Today I tried my backup mobile battery which always works. Been through 2012 and until recently, interviewing all over the UK in that car. Without funds, this motor might die. I don't have the social ability to ask any of the people in these apartments for a jumpstart, who all have cars. Mine is the oldest by a wide margin. Not even up to calling someone in town to do me a favour anymore.
I'm all DIY. I see reliance on others as weak - the type of people who are religiously-heavy, with family
Girls are generally clingy and dependent on me. All 4 years younger. They all squeal with me. They like me. I make 'em laugh in ways they never expect. I do this with all friends, by being unique.
I've never got to know any girl while at school
Since starting uni, I was the one with entrepreneur dreams
before Grad I was enjoying pizza delivery - the one who came home off shift with free Dominos for all, as my colleagues did - therefore they were an addition to the house of 5 and their partners.
After about 6 years on a reasonable salary which increased, life was good. As her mum said, life & relationships are all about money, and problems are rooted in that. Nothing else. After breaking up because I invested in small property which put her off. I had a car, to make life good. This has changed. Many years without license or vehicle.
Next girls have done all the driving & earning, and while I've been unemployed a lot!! Since 2001, no chance to get anyone to move in with me for any longer than a few months. Good relationships with those from different countries to study / work in London, when I am working.
Had 3 cars and my current one is the best - supplied by an ex who her company moved her to Dubai & now San Francisco, who left the car with me.
By the way, I couldn't start it this morning. I tramped all the miles across to town to my favourite supermarket with rucksack in freezing winds. It's on the 5th new battery I gave it last July. They die within a year when supposed to last 3 years. ? is that meant to be a relationship? :sarcastic:
I've looked after this old machine, with full services, tyres, brakes, exhausts, learning how to replace the wipers. Never had to wash it, however dirty it gets, because its metallic paint and hard rain takes care of that - no garage - off road parking. It has my sound system transferred from all cars with upgrades. Today I tried my backup mobile battery which always works. Been through 2012 and until recently, interviewing all over the UK in that car. Without funds, this motor might die. I don't have the social ability to ask any of the people in these apartments for a jumpstart, who all have cars. Mine is the oldest by a wide margin. Not even up to calling someone in town to do me a favour anymore.
I'm all DIY. I see reliance on others as weak - the type of people who are religiously-heavy, with family
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ImNotMyIllness
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Car problems suck (having one myself). Sounds like you have a bad alternator. (according to my very limited knowledge on cars)
rosewood
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i am extremely loyal to those i profess my love for. even after i break with them, i may disagree with them, but should anything happen to them i am right there for them.
maybe i come off as clingy becuase my SA limits who i interact with? not sure
i would have to ask them
maybe i come off as clingy becuase my SA limits who i interact with? not sure
i would have to ask them
What relationships :veryangry:
ImNotMyIllness
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SA also limits who I interact with. I think that's why I yearn for very close relationships. I love the concept of us or we. Although, everyone needs some alone time.
Golem
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Horrible :sarcastic: I am very anxious as Woody Allen. I can't sleep with other people and i like travel and going out alone.
My social skills sucks, i don't like parties or social events.
I have a difficult personality to have girlfriend :bigsmile: My last girlfriend was with me one year and i left her because we got very bad together :sad:
My social skills sucks, i don't like parties or social events.
I have a difficult personality to have girlfriend :bigsmile: My last girlfriend was with me one year and i left her because we got very bad together :sad:
ImNotMyIllness
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I doubt I would get along well with a social butterfly. Social events and parties suck! I avoid gatherings if I can.
I prefer just me and her or a few close friends.
ImNotMyIllness
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That's really nice of her. Sounds like a great girl!
Pacific_Loner
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Honestly, I don't remember. 
LazyHermitCrab
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Catrin 87" I was fine in the early stages when it was light hearted and fun and no pressure but then once we started to get more serious my insecurities started shining through and thats when the cracks started to show in the relationship. For example when we would meet up with his parents or his close friends I would be so timid and shy and I think they thought I was being rude when really I was just horribly anxious! So it made it quite hard for us because my ex hadn't really seen that side of me and I don't think he had been aware of how shy I could be in certain situations."
Same.
Same.
THeCARS1979
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Im not in a relationship and I really never been in one but two really short ones a long time ago
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