Would you make a good parent

[KiaKaha]

If you dont have kids do you think you would make a good parent?
If you do, do you think you are a good parent?

I am not sure myself - I would like to think I would, but truthfully the whole idea of raising a child terrifies me. I am in no way ready at all. If I did though, I would try my best - and in particular learn from my mistakes (and my parents mistakes) to try and ensure that they had a good life - in particular nurtuting inner resolves and strength.

What are your thoughts? Would you make a good parent?

 

[hidwell]

I think I would struggle especially in this era with pester power, bullying at school cyber bullying and all that peer pressure crap, and I think I would feel guilty for having children in the first place.

 

[kihira]

I enjoy being a parent, particularly did so when they were young, its hard but rewarding. I think I'm good enough as a parent and I've tried to avoid mistakes that my own parents made. I'm not looking forward to the empty nest thing :/

 

[MikeyC]

I think I would make a horrible father and that is one of the reasons why I don't want kids.

Parenting would be too much stress for me to handle, even at the best of times, I think.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I felt since I was about 12 or so-- that my only purpose in life may be as a parent.
Not that I was ready to rush out and get pregnant; that's never been a temptation- but I've been a parent to my younger brother and to step-siblings since I was 6 years old and I find it's probably the only thing in the world that I could be good at.
I am very patient, a good teacher and listener and I take joy in watching babies grow to be toddlers who grow to be bad little children who grow to be functional teenagers with their own quirks and issues.
It's a fascinating thing to watch someone grow up and to be there to nurture them and help them flourish in their own way.

I think I've done a pretty good job with my brother.
Having my own children would be very different and it will probably never happen but I'd like to think I would be a type of fun, active and understanding parent.

 

[Silatuyok]

I would be pretty much the worst mother ever.

 

[hidwell]

I would be pretty much the worst mother ever.

I think not, there is just too much competition for that dubious honour.

 

[KiaKaha]

I would be pretty much the worst mother ever.

I dont think that that would be true. That is a pretty harsh comment to place on yourself.
The *worst* mother...? - that would be a pretty difficult acomplishment....even for the most neglectful.

 

[Nathália]

Hi.
Im kind of ify about it.
I helped raise my neices for 10 years.
So playing the care giver was my job. Yes I started at 11 taking care of babies.
It was fun until they learned how to talk.


Then a few new borns came into the picture in my mid to late teens.
The thing is, already my nerves are shot. I had to handle other peoples kids and they didn't want to teach them manners. I had to stop being a care giver for that reason.

I tried to teach them, but there homes were not right, so I couldn't do anything.
It drove me crazy. Idk. Not anytime soon that's for sure.

 

[Kat]

I’m pretty sure some people on here would do a pretty good job I’m motherly in some respects but unfortunately not towards children.

 

[Hoppy]

I would think that someone who is unsure of themselves and put in some extra effort would make a better parent than someone who thinks they know all.

(Advice from someone who has only once in my life held a baby for a few minutes.)

 

[1BlackSheep]

I would be pretty much the worst mother ever.

I think we'd be tied for that title! :: I'm missing the maternal instinct gene!

 

[Hellhound]

Pfft, I'd be the sh*ttiest parent ever. I don't even like kids.

 

[Canis lupus]

Absolutly not. They'd probably end up shooting down half the school since all their life they would constantly hear how bad humans are and that they don't deserve to live. I would raise one hatefull kid even if I don't want to. Luckily I'm against having children since that's the most harmfull/polluting thing you can do and I don't really have to worry about it since to have children you have to have sex and that's never going to happen unless it's with a prostitute.

 

[Ignace]

I think so, I just have my serious doubts though about the social aspect .. It should be the parents taking out the children and not the other way around.

 

[kilojoule]

Yes I do. Im pretty confident on that front.

Id constantly be terrified and Id be completely overbearing haha but theyre trademarks of a mother right.

I played a big part raising my sister (10yr age gap) my mum was a single parent working several jobs and rarely ever home. That was a long time ago. My sisters now 18 and our mother's RIP and my sister treats me very much like a rebellious child treats their parent.

I have a huge tendancy to fuss over people, my friends call me the mammy. Alas I have no kids and Im not even nearly in a position to have any.

 

[MrJones]

I don't know if I want to be one, but I would like to be able to rise someone properly, just to know I can do it.

Instead of ma ma/da da, my kid's first word would probably be "fvck" or god knows what else. So..no. Just no.

LOL Would your kid be awesome like his/her mother?

 

[DeadmanWalking]

^Shivering with excitement Vamp::? Or happiness?

No, I would never be a good parent. As selfish as it is, I like my freedom; I like to have the ability to do what I want, when I want. A baby is just too constricting in that manner; when they are born, everything becomes about them (not that it's a bad thing) and your actions could have a backlash effect on them. That level of responsibility would be hard to coax out of me. Besides, I don't really like children; I love my nieces and nephews to death, but they, like all children, make me really uncomfortable.

Man, this makes me sound a lot more darker and crueler than I am (or at least more than I think I am:.

 

[Lea]

Instead of ma ma/da da, my kid's first word would probably be "fvck" or god knows what else. So..no. Just no.

Haha mine too.

 

[Waybuloo]

I have been told by many parties that I am a good mother. I don't actually feel that I am maternal or mother material because I am impulsive, impatient, tempestuous, moody, and inconsistent. However children think I am very entertaining, charismatic and comforting, and I love to give affection. On balance though, with the right support (which I have), I've managed to be a reasonably good parent.

By the way, before I had my kid I never could think of myself as a parent. The thought of looking after and being responsible for another human being was and still is inconceivable to me. It can get pretty surreal. The interesting realisation upon reflection has been that my bad qualities are not reflected in kiddie. She has proved my suspicions wrong, she is an exceptionally happy and invigorating child and this is beyond my wildest expectations. Maybe this just proves that what I am really like is not bad at all, beneath all the bull crap that is my problem.