Can someone be a loner/inrovert and happy?

[Chief_]

What do you think?

 

[InvisaLady]

Yes, I think so. I am happy most of the time to be by myself working on my art. But there are still some times that I would like to be with someone else and that is when I am unhappy.

 

[Gaucho]

i can't, but i believe some people are able to.

 

[jonpeters]

I'm behind the idea that hapiness is a state of mind. Personally for me it relies on a combination of given factors at any moment. For me, it comes and goes. This is coming from someone who's been introverted all my life. Ive actually delved deeper into it the last couple years, and can take or leave most of my so called friends.

 

[Hoppy]

I'm at my happiest when I am alone.

 

[da_illest101]

You don't need people to be happy, but for most people it's impossible. I like to spend most of my time alone, but even for me it would be impossible to only be happy by myself all the time.

 

[Daniel089]

I'm the same as da_illest. I feel I would only be happy among others.

The thing I feel when I slaughter more and more people in a video game is not happiness it's just joy that passes away eventually.

I had the chance to be happy in the past, for example in high school but back then I was a weirdo.

Since I can't accept that I am a loner, I can't be happy as a loner either. I would be happy if I'd belong somewhere or especially to a special someone. Even though I never really have.

 

[Steppen-Wolf]

Yes, but only when it's a choice, not when it's imposed upon you by something out of your control.

That's the issue with SA, not that introvertion is negative per se, but the fact that none of us choose to be like that and most of us remain unable to experience life in any other way.

 

[MrJones]

I know a lot of people like that, and some seem to be happy. Smile, laugh, hang out with friends, etc.

Anyway 100% of the times I've talked to them and they are not happy. At all. Like that one guy in my therapy group. He seems just normal and happy and... he is just miserable on the inside.


I guess some people could still be happy.

 

[Kiwong]

Yes. I spend most of my time alone, and have been happy.

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

Anything is possible.

I am an introvert but very unhappy with my loner status. I feel better when I am with people--though I do like my alone time too. But I am depressed and anxious so that is the struggle.

Many people are unhappy...even those extroverts. It really just depends on the person and what they are going through.

 

[Predacon]

Of course you can be happy, hell I'm at my most relaxed alone, but it depends on a person's temperament some people can't handle being alone and the need the presense of other people. It just depends on the person.

 

[takethislife]

For starters, loner and introvert are most definetly not the same things. Introverts can be perfectly happy.
And for loners it's possible.
If you live on a desert island. Or some other place where you can't see how people who're not loners have incredibly more.

 

[MikeyC]

I am an introvert but very unhappy with my loner status. I feel better when I am with people--though I do like my alone time too.

I'm sorry you feel this way. I am of a similar temperament where I love my alone time, but I do like to spend time with people on occasion.

It depends on my mood, but I can feel my best when I'm on my own. I would love to live by myself soon.

 

[A86]

They may be a minority but there are people all over the spectrum.

There will always be people who find happiness surrounded by other individuals.
There will always be people who find happiness by themselves.
There will always be people who find happiness somewhere in between.

If your asking this question, it implies to me you are unsure of that possibility and what you are really asking is "is it possible I can be happy as a loner/introvert?" - a very circumstantial/relative question.

 

[9407]

I can't. Back when I was younger, I never hung out with my school friends during summer break so I basically didn't talk to anyone besides my mom or brother for 2 months. Since my mom and brother work, I was basically alone in the house 80% of the time. Although I wasn't depressed, I definitely wasn't happy. I don't think people can go long periods of time alone.

 

[Hellhound]

I don't see why not o:

 

[shakethelight]

I think Ive convinced myself that I am happy alone because most of the time being around people just makes me anxious. Being alone is less stressful but unfulfilling.

 

[Minty]

I loner by definition is happiest when alone, so yes.

An introvert can be either happy or sad, a loner or a social butterfly, shy or comfortable in the spotlight. They just differ from extroverts because they draw energy from alone time, so they have to leave the party a little earlier.