PhantomPod
Well-known member
When they very clearly have no intention of actually hanging out at all!! I get that they're just trying to be nice or something, but I think it's a lot nicer to just say "Hi, hope you're doing well" and leave it at that. You don't have to be fake and phony and act as if you really want to hang out.
A girl who I haven't seen since college started a game of Words With Friends with me and there's a chat feature where you can IM the person. So she IM'd me and told me how she moved and is living in my area now. Then she says that we should meet up sometime soon to catch up. I just said "Yeah, for sure" not really thinking too much of it because I know people say that damn thing all the time with no intention of actually meeting up. But then she started asking me what my hours were at work and when I was usually free, etc. I ended up trying to take the initiative (I do like her and wouldn't mind catching up quite honestly) and asked what she liked to do in her town and said maybe we could meet up somewhere in the middle to get lunch or dinner. And she just dropped the conversation. Like, she still plays the game with me but she never responded again to our IM conversation after I said that. WTF, man?
Honestly, I never say, "we should hang out soon and catch up" to people because I know that it is never going to happen. I just go for a, "Hey, hope you've been doing well" type comment.
That issue happened three weeks ago now, but I just thought of this again because now a girl who I haven't seen since high school just friended me on Facebook asking how I was doing and was I still in town and saying that we should get together soon. It's just a pet peeve of mine because never have I ever actually gotten together again with the types of people who say this phrase.
A girl who I haven't seen since college started a game of Words With Friends with me and there's a chat feature where you can IM the person. So she IM'd me and told me how she moved and is living in my area now. Then she says that we should meet up sometime soon to catch up. I just said "Yeah, for sure" not really thinking too much of it because I know people say that damn thing all the time with no intention of actually meeting up. But then she started asking me what my hours were at work and when I was usually free, etc. I ended up trying to take the initiative (I do like her and wouldn't mind catching up quite honestly) and asked what she liked to do in her town and said maybe we could meet up somewhere in the middle to get lunch or dinner. And she just dropped the conversation. Like, she still plays the game with me but she never responded again to our IM conversation after I said that. WTF, man?
Honestly, I never say, "we should hang out soon and catch up" to people because I know that it is never going to happen. I just go for a, "Hey, hope you've been doing well" type comment.
That issue happened three weeks ago now, but I just thought of this again because now a girl who I haven't seen since high school just friended me on Facebook asking how I was doing and was I still in town and saying that we should get together soon. It's just a pet peeve of mine because never have I ever actually gotten together again with the types of people who say this phrase.