How many people on this forum live on their own

[lonely_drummer]

I don't live with my parents anymore, we don't really get along. I live in a house with close friends who like me and understand me. Living at home was a lot more stressful. My parents had a life plan for me and when I finally stood up for myself and didn't accept their plan, my dad kicked me out. So I think this was for the good, living with my folks just held me back even more than I hold myself back. Maybe one day my dad will come around but I doubt it.

 

[Aletheia]

I'm 40 and living with my aging father. Everybody worries much less about him, with me to take care of him, and I like to do so, it's rewarding. We get on well; he's a fascinating person to talk to. I'm really grateful that I've had this opportunity to get to really know him, because I'm well aware he isn't going to be around for ever. And *hangs her head* while I pay him board, it is much less than the rent I was paying, and has enabled me to sort my finances out. I'm ashamed of this.

I love him, but part of me would love to be back in a place of my own, one that is an expression of me, one in which I can entertain. One in which I can take charge of my own life.

 

[Richey]

I know how you feel, I have never gotten on well with my sister. Luckily for me she moved out 18 years ago, and I rarely see her.

same here, my sister is the successful career gal. never puts a foot wrong and will always have good steady employment, she is just wired for it in every way and has a big ego so it all fell into place. she has no problems putting me down in front of people in terms of bragging about it. I just calm the conversation down and change the subject.

 

[Mokkat]

I live in an apartment alone, which is possible because the financial aid was increased when I turned 25. I still feel Im living off my parents though - they paid the initial fee for renting the place, and they probably will again if I want to move to start an education or something. Feels bad

 

[BlueDays]

My mother kicked me out of home when I was unemployed, so I had to swim or I'd sink. Never forgive her for that.

My depression got worse, I did not even know social anxiety had it's own name back then. You do end up learning how to do everyday things real quick, I only managed because I knew I could always come home after shopping etc and escape from the world in my dark little cave (my apartment).

It's the lonliness that gets harder to bear year after year.

I envy people who have supportive parents who understand how difficult it would be for their anxiety-ridden child to live alone. I would never kick any child of mine out of home if I knew they suffered bad anxiety.

 

[Iluv]

Well I'm working my way to my own house. Still in school and don't have the money to live by myself. My shopping addiction has consumed my job money lol ::

 

[Phoenixx]

I'm 18, almost 19, and still live with my parents, as well as my older brother and my cousin. I was looking at apartments last month to move in with a friend, but she got cold feet, and it was cheaper for us to live at home still, so we didn't end up getting one. Emotionally, I feel ready to move out and be on my own. College last semester helped with that when I stayed on campus, as hard as it was. Financially on my own? Not a chance! I think it's going to be another year before I move out. I think I'd like to get my license first and then get a job before I move out. Can I do that within a year? We'll see. For the last year and a half though I've been saying the same thing, "I'll get my license and I'll see if I can get a job." Obviously hasn't happened yet.

 

[Zav]

I moved out when I was 18 and lived with two then one roommate for about five years, and I lived alone for a short while during that time. Now I'm moved back in with my parents for the time being until I find another place. Ultimately, even though it's kind of lonely, I liked living alone.

 

[MikeyC]

Emotionally, I feel ready to move out and be on my own.

I've been emotionally ready since your age, too, and I'm 25 now and I still haven't done it. Can't afford it now. Anyway, hopefully you get your license and a job and things can move forward for you.

 

[she1slander]

I've been emotionally ready since your age, too, and I'm 25 now and I still haven't done it. Can't afford it now. Anyway, hopefully you get your license and a job and things can move forward for you.

Same!! I'm old enough to be living on my own but I'm too broke to move out... unless the rent is free (which is not possible) and is only a walking distance from my parents' house, then I'd be ready to move!

 

[MikeyC]

Same!! I'm old enough to be living on my own but I'm too broke to move out... unless the rent is free (which is not possible) and is only a walking distance from my parents' house, then I'd be ready to move!

Let's hope something good comes for both of us.

 

[JRT]

Ihave lived alone for about 3 yrs now.

just bought my 1st house last year, with the help from family, couldnt have done it without them.

how do i deal with it? well i have always been 'on my own' i guess ie no friends so the being alone part i guess is just normal to me . thank god i have a job to go to so that helps too , being out half the day.

i have my dog for compony and to cuddle up to. Also my brother visits me sometimes so that helps too. But i do miss the days when we all lived together growing up.

 

[Kiwong]

Living on my own is a huge positive in my life, I enjoy it. The independance and privacy it affords me is something I would not want to change. I can retreat from the world into my safe place and that feels wonderful. I can't imagine living with another person, I don't want to. In fact eventually I'd prefer to become more solitary than what I am currently.

I deal with living alone very well, it is my preferred way to live.

 

[N0D]

23 still living with my dad, with no hope of moving out on my own in the foreseeable future...causes me endless shame to by dependent on other people...and more shame to not be able to do anything about it...::

 

[MikeyC]

I can't imagine living with another person, I don't want to. In fact eventually I'd prefer to become more solitary than what I am currently.

I actually spoke to my therapist about this today and I told her I couldn't live with other people, and I really want to live on my own, at least for a little while to experience it. I'm glad your situation is working out well for you, Kiwong.

 

[nafadda]

I moved out at 17 right after I graduated from High School ,that was a long time ago.I never regreted it.It really helped make me stronger a person I believe.I don't even want to think how I would have turned out if I had stayed in my childhood home::

sure I made plenty of mistakes along the way but I learned from them,IMO that is what life should be,a learning experience.

 

[Kiwong]

I actually spoke to my therapist about this today and I told her I couldn't live with other people, and I really want to live on my own, at least for a little while to experience it. I'm glad your situation is working out well for you, Kiwong.

Mikey, I really enjoy living on my own, but I find it difficult when trying to interact with people, like I am out of practice. I need to find that balance between independence and being able to feel comfortable interacting with people as I must do.

 

[MikeyC]

Mikey, I really enjoy living on my own, but I find it difficult when trying to interact with people, like I am out of practice. I need to find that balance between independence and being able to feel comfortable interacting with people as I must do.

Yeah, you would be out of practice, but I feel the positives would outweigh the negatives here. Even if that's not the case, I want to try it.

 

[ilovenoodles]

I move out next week.

 

[Illusions]

I live with my family. For most Asians it's uncommon for people to move out until they get married/engaged anyways.

I could cope with living alone though. I'm independent like that.