Have you ever been in a physical fight?

[vj288]

No, never even close. I've gotten physical on the soccer field before but it's a physical game.

I would never want to hurt someone else, even if they hurt me first. If someone punched me in the face I wouldn't return punch even if some would argue they "deserve it." Punching them would not make my face feel any better, it would just hurt theirs, and make me feel as bad on the inside as I already would on the outside.

 

[anxiety1408]

@NathanielWingatePeaslee

For the most part people with SA avoid confrontation/fight at all cost.

This speaks true for me. I try to avoid confrontation/fights at all costs. And When I think about it, its not because Im scared to fight, but more to do with my SA acting up, I just dont want to be embarrassed/look like a total idiot lol

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

Two fights as a child. I was defending my sister. I won both

 

[Eyv]

I once slapped a bully boy that was one year older than me as a kid. He bugged off ::

 

[MikeyC]

Unless you count my time spent in an abusive relationship

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This speaks true for me. I try to avoid confrontation/fights at all costs. And When I think about it, its not because Im scared to fight, but more to do with my SA acting up, I just dont want to be embarrassed/look like a total idiot lol

Yeah, I always think I will lose a fight so I'll never enter one. Not to mention fighting is really stupid.

I've seen fights between drunk men before and you just have to shake your head....

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Yes.
Thankfully, I've been able to avoid it as an adult.

 

[takethislife]

Just once which I remeber
Wish I had the courage to stand up for myself later on. I had a milion chances

 

[panicsurvivor]

I've been in fights, yeah. A long time ago. Truth is there are many situations scarier than fights. If you're in a real fight, there's adrenaline and other things going on to alter your state of mind. Being scared of someone is worse than fighting them. Asking a girl out is harder than being in a fight. A job interview is harder than a fight. Physical pain is easier to deal with than emotional pain--for me anyway.

Whether being in fight would provide catharsis depends on the situation, but as a rule isn't likely. That happened to me only once. I had a 'fight' with my roommate which ended up relieving some tensions. We didn't throw punches so much as wrestle and throw each other around and smash some furniture and an aquarium. It definitely wouldn't provide any long-term solution for anxiety problems if that's what you're thinking.

Really?
A real fight is so much worse than a job interview or asking a girl out. The most common reaction to a real fight is fear. I don't know what kind of job interview's you have been on, or girls you want to aproach, but having someone actually beat you till you actually **** your pants is a little worse. I really don't think you know what real violence is about if you are actually making a statement like that. There is so much tension in a violent situation, especially if it has been built up. Like when someone is actively stalking you, telling everyone they know that they are going to find you and beat your ass. You run around looking over your shoulder, and avoiding places. Or when someone pulls a weapon on you. I am sorry but I really doubt that you know what you are talking about.

 

[panicsurvivor]

I sometimes feel that getting into a fistfight could provoke a catharsis and liberate me of my anxieties. lol no?

Not violent encounters on the street, but you might get what you are looking for joining a mma gym. You get to train, and fight the other students. They are real fights but you get to wear gloves, and after the fight is over, everone is friends. There is no hatred involved just competition. Its fun I would recommend it.........except it does hurt though. LOL.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

Really?
A real fight is so much worse than a job interview or asking a girl out. The most common reaction to a real fight is fear. I don't know what kind of job interview's you have been on, or girls you want to aproach, but having someone actually beat you till you actually **** your pants is a little worse. I really don't think you know what real violence is about if you are actually making a statement like that. There is so much tension in a violent situation, especially if it has been built up. Like when someone is actively stalking you, telling everyone they know that they are going to find you and beat your ass. You run around looking over your shoulder, and avoiding places. Or when someone pulls a weapon on you. I am sorry but I really doubt that you know what you are talking about.

Thanks for that. Not everyone is the same, you know. I suppose I could explain in detail, but you've clearly made up your mind here, and you're being needlessly unpleasant as well.

 

[panicsurvivor]

Thanks for that. Not everyone is the same, you know. I suppose I could explain in detail, but you've clearly made up your mind here, and you're being needlessly unpleasant as well.

I am sorry but I have had earth shattering panic attacks in job interviews. It was awful. But getting robbed at gunpoint, and then burned with ciggarettes on my face after being kicked repeatedly was quite a bit worse. Or the guy that actually said he was going to rape me after he kicked the **** out of me. Those weren't his real words but I couldn't post what he actually said on this site, and trust me nobody really wants to know anyway. Fortunatly I put that guy in the hospital. You made the statement REAL FIGHT, real fights are a nasty business, and as scary as you may find it to ask a girl out, it doesn't compare at all. For anyone. I suppose tussling with someone you know, might not be so bad, but that is not a real fight. If you think I am being unpleasant I am sorry, but how do you think the guy who's jaw I broke in front of his girlfriend felt. Don't you think that he would rather have been in a job interview?
I know everone is different. I actually have known people who loved hurting people. Fights weren't something scary, or even a rush. It was fun for these guys to hurt and scare people. I even knew a guy who got sexually excited when he kicked someone's ass, the same guy who later tried to attack me. Dealing with these types of people is frightening, to say the least. It makes any job interview seem like the most peaceful and relaxing way to spend an evening.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

You're not going to troll me. I won't play.

 

[vexatiousmind]

I am sorry but I have had earth shattering panic attacks in job interviews. It was awful. But getting robbed at gunpoint, and then burned with ciggarettes on my face after being kicked repeatedly was quite a bit worse. Or the guy that actually said he was going to rape me after he kicked the **** out of me. Those weren't his real words but I couldn't post what he actually said on this site, and trust me nobody really wants to know anyway. Fortunatly I put that guy in the hospital. You made the statement REAL FIGHT, real fights are a nasty business, and as scary as you may find it to ask a girl out, it doesn't compare at all. For anyone. I suppose tussling with someone you know, might not be so bad, but that is not a real fight. If you think I am being unpleasant I am sorry, but how do you think the guy who's jaw I broke in front of his girlfriend felt. Don't you think that he would rather have been in a job interview?
I know everone is different. I actually have known people who loved hurting people. Fights weren't something scary, or even a rush. It was fun for these guys to hurt and scare people. I even knew a guy who got sexually excited when he kicked someone's ass, the same guy who later tried to attack me. Dealing with these types of people is frightening, to say the least. It makes any job interview seem like the most peaceful and relaxing way to spend an evening.

You don't have to get the **** beat outa you for it to be considered a real fight. He might have won.

and some people like to fight, I do. I would also rather get into a fight, then go to a job interview.

Fear of the unknown is also one of the greatest fears. If you what getting your ass kicked feels like, it's not as scary.

 

[panicsurvivor]

You're not going to troll me. I won't play.

Whoa!!! Troll you. I was just talking. If you don't want to talk anymore that's fine. But troll you? Violence is a topic that I know well. I disagree strongly with your statement so I was talking to you in the forum. But I did NOT insult you. Nor did I threaten you or any such nonsense.

 

[panicsurvivor]

You don't have to get the **** beat outa you for it to be considered a real fight. He might have won.

and some people like to fight, I do. I would also rather get into a fight, then go to a job interview.

Fear of the unknown is also one of the greatest fears. If you what getting your ass kicked feels like, it's not as scary.

No you do get desensitized to it. But once you have really gotten used to it, and then used to hurting others, you end up either realizing it later, and having some issues with what you see when you look in the mirror. Or you turn into one of them. The people that love to cause others pain.
Why do you like to fight Vex?

 

[vexatiousmind]

No you do get desensitized to it. But once you have really gotten used to it, and then used to hurting others, you end up either realizing it later, and having some issues with what you see when you look in the mirror. Or you turn into one of them. The people that love to cause others pain.
Why do you like to fight Vex?

Fighting is an art, it's a good way to test your own and your opponents skills. Whether in the streets or not.

 

[panicsurvivor]

Fighting is an art, it's a good way to test your own and your opponents skills. Whether in the streets or not.

Well you know I agree with the first part. But not the second part. The streets are not a place to play. Both of the pro fighters that I have known have told me that they would never fight on the street, unless they got attacked. I TRY to follow this example myself.

 

[panicsurvivor]

A technical discipline is art. There is artistry in, say, Wushu or other such fighting ideology. You'll never convince me there is art in intimidating others, losing control of your worst emotions and the ensuing intent to harm or kill others. That isn't art, it's a vile disease in our society. Art is creation, fighing as prescribed here is destruction... the complete antithesis.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

 

[MikeyC]

A technical discipline is art. There is artistry in, say, Wushu or other such fighting ideology. You'll never convince me there is art in intimidating others, losing control of your worst emotions and the ensuing intent to harm or kill others. That isn't art, it's a vile disease in our society. Art is creation, fighing as prescribed here is destruction... the complete antithesis.

Well said, mate.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

I guess I am going to play.

Whoa!!! Troll you. I was just talking. If you don't want to talk anymore that's fine. But troll you? Violence is a topic that I know well. I disagree strongly with your statement so I was talking to you in the forum. But I did NOT insult you. Nor did I threaten you or any such nonsense.

You've strongly implied that I must either be a liar or a poser. That's pretty insulting. I never said you threatened me, either--where did that come from? You've made assumptions about both myself and the situations I've been in--also in an insulting way. I'm generally disinclined to share such personal things, and certainly less so now. I've little doubt that if I did, you'd do your best to one-up any stories I had about fights. Heck, you've already been trying and I didn't even say anything specific.

Dude, seriously.