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DeadmanWalking
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Yes:
:. They were usually with my brother and always ended up with me losing. One day, though, I'm going to win a fight against him. However, I almost got into a fight with a girl (who was older than me and had it coming, so don't start). She was picking on my friend who got bullied by almost everyone and I stepped in to save him; after pulling off my belt (which, now that I think about it, was completely stupid:, my friend threw a rock (which was a fairly big one, if I remember right) and nailed me dead center in my forehead instead of her. I only started crying once I saw my blood and my older brother nearly kicked my friend's a*s for doing that. Well, that rock gave me my scar on my forehead, but, as long as I was keeping my friend safe, I don't care what happened.
:. They were usually with my brother and always ended up with me losing. One day, though, I'm going to win a fight against him. However, I almost got into a fight with a girl (who was older than me and had it coming, so don't start). She was picking on my friend who got bullied by almost everyone and I stepped in to save him; after pulling off my belt (which, now that I think about it, was completely stupid:, my friend threw a rock (which was a fairly big one, if I remember right) and nailed me dead center in my forehead instead of her. I only started crying once I saw my blood and my older brother nearly kicked my friend's a*s for doing that. Well, that rock gave me my scar on my forehead, but, as long as I was keeping my friend safe, I don't care what happened.
MikeyC
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There have been a few times where people have wanted to hit me, but being the wuss that I am, I never retaliated.
There was one incident where I ran over someone's dog (completely an accident and something I couldn't avoid, I promise you) and the male in the house came over to me and started swinging punches. He was that worked up that nothing connected.
Nearly got into a few fights at school, but I knew I would lose and I never initiated a punch-up.
So the answer to the question is "almost".
However, now that I'm in my mid-20's and I look back to high school, I do sometimes wish I had fought back against some of the bullies. I can't say it would've made my life easier there, but I would've felt a little bit better knowing I could defend myself and I wouldn't be the overly-passive person I am today, fighting in my head.
There was one incident where I ran over someone's dog (completely an accident and something I couldn't avoid, I promise you) and the male in the house came over to me and started swinging punches. He was that worked up that nothing connected.
Nearly got into a few fights at school, but I knew I would lose and I never initiated a punch-up.
So the answer to the question is "almost".
However, now that I'm in my mid-20's and I look back to high school, I do sometimes wish I had fought back against some of the bullies. I can't say it would've made my life easier there, but I would've felt a little bit better knowing I could defend myself and I wouldn't be the overly-passive person I am today, fighting in my head.
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For the most part people with SA avoid confrontation/fight at all cost.
For the most part people with SA avoid confrontation/fight at all cost.
KnuffleBunny
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Yes, several mostly in elementary school, and a few in middle school.
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I sometimes feel that getting into a fistfight could provoke a catharsis and liberate me of my anxieties. lol no?
Rembrandt Broam
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At school yes, but not as an adult.
this_portrait
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Almost, though it wasn't because someone else wanted to hit me. Rather, it was a violent reaction to things others said. This really all took place when I was 14. I had a worse temper than I do now, and some boys were picking on me, so I retaliated by threatening to beat the hell out of them (and in some cases starting to chase after them like I was going to beat them up).
Yeah, I was a real hot head back then.
Yeah, I was a real hot head back then.
MikeyC
Well-known member
I'm going to be honest, I do think about fights with people, but if it ever came down to the crunch, I would retreat.
When I do think about it, I tend to get a rush of emotion, and I reckon it would be liberating. However, fighting is quite lame and it proves nothing so I'm keen to keep the stashes in my head and never out in the open.
Solitudes_Grace
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Yes
1. One day in the 5th grade, a bully was calling me names, so I pushed him down. That was the extent of the fight. I do not know if that even really counted as a physical fight.
2. In 9th grade, a kid on my bus was throwing balled-up pieces of paper out of the window. My friend, who was sitting next to me, told him to stop because he was littering. He responded by calling my friend a bad name, so I started hitting him. I was going through a lot of crap at that point in my life, and I remember being incredibly stressed out and on-edge that particular day. That kid pushed me over my breaking point.
3. I have had a few physical fights with my brother when we were kids.
1. One day in the 5th grade, a bully was calling me names, so I pushed him down. That was the extent of the fight. I do not know if that even really counted as a physical fight.
2. In 9th grade, a kid on my bus was throwing balled-up pieces of paper out of the window. My friend, who was sitting next to me, told him to stop because he was littering. He responded by calling my friend a bad name, so I started hitting him. I was going through a lot of crap at that point in my life, and I remember being incredibly stressed out and on-edge that particular day. That kid pushed me over my breaking point.
3. I have had a few physical fights with my brother when we were kids.
MikeyC
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That sounds more like intimidation, but the act of pushing him down is physical fighting, I suppose. Either way, at least it didn't escalate.
Why don't you tell the poor Road Runner that?
MrJones
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No, if I can survive without it, I do (and I always did).
Everytime someone wanted to hit me I defended myself with either words (when possible) or only self-defense, never offense. Maybe it would have been better if I fought back, but I'm not really someone who do such things.
I never wanted to hit someone.
Everytime someone wanted to hit me I defended myself with either words (when possible) or only self-defense, never offense. Maybe it would have been better if I fought back, but I'm not really someone who do such things.
I never wanted to hit someone.
I've been in fights, yeah. A long time ago. Truth is there are many situations scarier than fights. If you're in a real fight, there's adrenaline and other things going on to alter your state of mind. Being scared of someone is worse than fighting them. Asking a girl out is harder than being in a fight. A job interview is harder than a fight. Physical pain is easier to deal with than emotional pain--for me anyway.
Whether being in fight would provide catharsis depends on the situation, but as a rule isn't likely. That happened to me only once. I had a 'fight' with my roommate which ended up relieving some tensions. We didn't throw punches so much as wrestle and throw each other around and smash some furniture and an aquarium. It definitely wouldn't provide any long-term solution for anxiety problems if that's what you're thinking.
Whether being in fight would provide catharsis depends on the situation, but as a rule isn't likely. That happened to me only once. I had a 'fight' with my roommate which ended up relieving some tensions. We didn't throw punches so much as wrestle and throw each other around and smash some furniture and an aquarium. It definitely wouldn't provide any long-term solution for anxiety problems if that's what you're thinking.
KiaKaha
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Yes I can recall three times where I have been in a fight. One time was at a party when I was 18, where this guy kept telling me that he wanted to 'smash my face in'... for some reason...as he got drunker the more aggressive he became and eventually I retaliated. Him and his friends beat me up as soon as I did.. ahh memories.
One other time was at school - I used to get bullied a lot and retaliated against one guy who was twisting my arm during gym class, because it really hurt. I punched him square in the face.
The last time was during a counter protest against the national front years ago... that was stupid of me because It was supposed to be peaceful but I got caught up in the excitement. I got into a lot of trouble for that.
Nothing else since though.
One other time was at school - I used to get bullied a lot and retaliated against one guy who was twisting my arm during gym class, because it really hurt. I punched him square in the face.
The last time was during a counter protest against the national front years ago... that was stupid of me because It was supposed to be peaceful but I got caught up in the excitement. I got into a lot of trouble for that.
Nothing else since though.
MikeyC
Well-known member
Generally, yes, as physical pain disappears if it's not too severe. Emotional pain needs to be dealt with psychologically, not with bandages.
Gray
Member
Last time i was in a fight was in secondary school, that was over a good 10 years ago. That was down to me defending myself against some cocky bullies who bit off a bit more than they could chew that day.
Since then i've never had the real urge to fight, sure, some of it maybe down to me never really going on nights out in and around town, but it's avoiding any potential conflict so i'm fine with that i guess.
Suppose school is there for any fighting but once you finish school it's better to stay on the straight and narrow ;.
Since then i've never had the real urge to fight, sure, some of it maybe down to me never really going on nights out in and around town, but it's avoiding any potential conflict so i'm fine with that i guess.
Suppose school is there for any fighting but once you finish school it's better to stay on the straight and narrow ;.
Invisibleman
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Ive been in many at school,most were just small altercations but some were fights. Ive only lost once,I smashed a kid in the face with a snowball and his older brother came at me,I tryed to fight back but he beat the $#!t out of me::
But honestly ive lost count how many full on brawls ive been in with my cousin though,I dont know why but ever since we layed eyes on each other theres been bad blood. One time we were at the beach and we just started going at it. He grabbed on to me and I bit his arm as hard as I could and he went down bleeding. I got on top of him and started trying to drown him before my nan broke us up. Im 17 hes 20 so we dont fight anymore but hes still a b@$tard lol
: But honestly ive lost count how many full on brawls ive been in with my cousin though,I dont know why but ever since we layed eyes on each other theres been bad blood. One time we were at the beach and we just started going at it. He grabbed on to me and I bit his arm as hard as I could and he went down bleeding. I got on top of him and started trying to drown him before my nan broke us up. Im 17 hes 20 so we dont fight anymore but hes still a b@$tard
lol