Women are just as proud and afraid of rejection as men are. There are many reasons why a woman may actively pursue a man.
In some cultures, at least where I'm from, it's considered inappropriate for women to ask men out or pay for dates. The reasoning behind this is the belief that women don't have to be active in finding a mate unless they are desperate or of low morals. It is only appropriate for them male to be the "hunter". Then we have the issue in which women's sexual needs aren't acknowledged. A woman who has a voracious sexual appetite, openly admits to her desire/need of sex, or pursues men is not considered a woman to be taken seriously. Not an "honest" woman to take home to your mother. Women have to play hard to get and wait to be courted if they want to be seen as "good, honest women". A "nice girl" doesn't want or need sex. She only needs love, affection and romance. This seems extreme to some people, but it's a reality in many cultures.
Then there's the problem of some men being intimidated by women who ask them out. It takes confidence and courage to face possible rejection, and some people are afraid of that confidence/courage.
women asking men out is like the loch ness monster, some people claim to have seen/witnessed it but its largely a thing of fiction
So, since you've never been asked out by a woman, this qualifies you as an expert on how to get asked out by women?women never asked me out, and there's a .001% chance that you will ever be asked out by one unless you are super-outgoing and make them laugh 24/7.
I agree, depending on how you qualify groundwork. It's certainly not going to happen if someone rarely leaves the house and doesn't say a word when they do. In any event simply waiting for some girl to ask you out is not what I would call a sound plan.It can happen, but you need to do the groundwork first.
That's going a bit far I think. I had no clue and minimal social skills the first couple of times women asked me out, and I do not have the looks of a model. I'm a skinny dork who's into computer games and crap.You need to be able to sell yourself as an attractive person with great personality that the woman finds irresistible.
That sound about right, but: sometimes a woman's taste just can't be accounted for. They are indeed puzzling creatures at times.Unlike men, woman are very choosy and you need to stand out from the crowd in order to gain a womans attention.
I've met the Loch Ness a few times then. *Gasp*...
I think I missed that. Link?@Nathaniel: Lol... the loch ness turned out to be surprisingly pretty! I'd even put my painting of her up here once.
But I think the best is if no one really asked the other out... things just happened naturally if that makes any sense...
I have come to the conclusion that the only time I will be able to "date" or have a "relationship" is if a woman asks ME out. Part of my demented brain tells me that this is the only way it will work.
From a strictly biological perspective, this is the plain fact of the matter. I can't be arsed to google the studies at the moment, but in our species it actually is the female who initiates mating in the majority of cases--by means of subtle and frequently unconscious social signals which many of us on the forum are too clueless to recognize, sadly.What often happens is this: a woman signals to a man that she wants him to approach her - that's the first move.
All the guy has to do is respond - simple.
(of course, as was mentioned earlier - you have to go out there and mix it up, or women will never notice you or send the signal in the first place)