kindashyguy
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yea that happens to me alot, year after year I sort of devolp a new crush on a girl, but I don't really make the effort to try, it's just the same routine.
"Crush-Addiction"
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WeirdyMcGee
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I've never had a crush before... so I don't understand how it works.
Maybe what you're thinking are crushes are just something else entirely?
...then again, if they're 'something else', whatever they are- lust, infatuation- are the very definition of a crush?
-__- jeez... I haven't helped at all.
haha
Maybe what you're thinking are crushes are just something else entirely?
...then again, if they're 'something else', whatever they are- lust, infatuation- are the very definition of a crush?
-__- jeez... I haven't helped at all.
haha
nightcrawler
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Yes I often get crushes, particularly at work. I'm a postman so get to meet members of the public every day, often girls/women who are attractive. All it takes is one conversation or a smile and I can't stop thinking about them for the rest of the day! Usually though it's people who aren't "available" though for whatever reason. At the moment I really fancy 2 women who couldn't be more different. One is in her 50's (I'm in my late 30's) but I find her incredibly sexy and have a huge crush on her (but she's married :
, the other is a very attractive asian girl who has an amazing smile but she's only in her early 20's so there's too much of an age gap But just seeing one of my crushes makes my day, and getting a conversation and/or a smile is a bonus.
, the other is a very attractive asian girl who has an amazing smile but she's only in her early 20's so there's too much of an age gap But just seeing one of my crushes makes my day, and getting a conversation and/or a smile is a bonus.
da_illest101
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all the time, but to make things worse it's my idea of them that I like but not the actual person
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BleedTheFreak
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I usually don't speak to people long enough to develop a crush or any type of feelings, really. The few times I did get a crush was in school (just seeing someone and hearing someone talk every day...even if they weren't talking to me). Every time I've had a crush it has left me in agony since I can never act on my feelings, so I try not to even get that far with people anymore.
madmike
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Well, at least they're not hard to get over!
And i do think it's just loneliness, it happens to me as well when i have nothing better to do with my time- i start to obsess over girls and think whether or not they might feel the same about me. Somewhat pathetic i guess, but really quite harmless. And borderline personality disorder, seriously???
And i do think it's just loneliness, it happens to me as well when i have nothing better to do with my time- i start to obsess over girls and think whether or not they might feel the same about me. Somewhat pathetic i guess, but really quite harmless. And borderline personality disorder, seriously???
LazyHermitCrab
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it's nice to think about one guy maybe two so it's not obsessive i don't there was a time i didn't like someone though
i don't there was a time i didn't like someone though
goldenholds
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I think maybe many people fall for people who are "unavailable" because the opposite scares us too much. If actually being close to someone makes you anxious, then falling for someone who IS available will make you anxious, and therefore you will tend not to do this. It is natural to be interested in someone, our brains are wired for it, so therefore you still fall for people, but just the "safe" unavailable ones.
A person who is not necessarily afraid to be close to someone, but IS afraid of being serious or afraid they may not be able to leave the relationship, may tend to fall for people who are already in a relationship. This just gives them some closeness with someone, but a way to keep it not serious or a way to easily get out. They may also fall for people who are not available emotionally for a relationship, as this will also serve the same purpose.
Just my thoughts, anyone else?
nightcrawler
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Yes I think you made some good points there. I think falling for someone who is unavailable probably feels "safe" because you know nothing will actually come of it. Whereas falling for someone who is single means you may actually be expected to act upon your feelings, which for most shy people (myself included) is terrifying! For this reason any feelings you have for someone who is single are more likely to be suppressed.
goldenholds
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Yes, I am guilty of this myself. And even if I do rarely get the courage to try to act upon a crush who is single, the terror escalates exponentially and I mess everything up in very short order.
Yeah, I've had some crushes too...
It's funny how they sometimes end abruptly too.. I mean I was watching this Shane Dawson video, and the previous ones were kinda cool, and then I saw the new ones, and it was: Ew, no! lol
So, the end of a crush - in just one day (beginning & end, within less than 2 hours. haha) Okay, nuff shall be said. lolol
Sometimes the crushes can be distractions from other things in life one does not wanna think about, yup.
It's funny how they sometimes end abruptly too.. I mean I was watching this Shane Dawson video, and the previous ones were kinda cool, and then I saw the new ones, and it was: Ew, no! lol
So, the end of a crush - in just one day (beginning & end, within less than 2 hours. haha) Okay, nuff shall be said. lolol
Sometimes the crushes can be distractions from other things in life one does not wanna think about, yup.
Metal_isthe_Answer
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Sometimes I would see something that was never there, or somones niceness will spur it, theres someone I work with I wouldnt mind hooking up with, of course shes married, and I would never let her cheat on her husband for me, I think the idea of something you cant have may start the attraction
LonelyWonders
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I guess you could say I have that. I am prone to what you described..
I can kinda relate.
I can't seem to look at women as women but as all being potential mates that may like me.
And that's where I then fail to be able to talk to females because I'm too "love-shy".
I remember this one girl back Freshmen year that liked me, and I think that's when I developed this shyness. After finding out she liked me it became increasingly hard to talk to her, even though I was able to talk to her beforehand.
I can't seem to look at women as women but as all being potential mates that may like me.
And that's where I then fail to be able to talk to females because I'm too "love-shy".
I remember this one girl back Freshmen year that liked me, and I think that's when I developed this shyness. After finding out she liked me it became increasingly hard to talk to her, even though I was able to talk to her beforehand.