You're afraid of social situations, BUT. do you LIKE social situations?
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Not at all, my SA was so severe at one point last year that I literally made myself sick at the thought of having to go anywhere. Everything became this fight about whether to go out with my friends or just stay home, in which I usually chose the latter. I do enjoy going out though, I did even though I couldn't bring myself to do it. Now that I can better manage my anxiety things are fun and I go out with my friends all the time, my weekend are most normally full unless I just feel like staying home with my family.
Although it's easier to go places, I do feel much better being with my friends when I do, SA is still in the back of my head. I try to teach myself to focus on what we're doing and enjoy it. Before if we were waiting in line for something I would most likely scan the crowd to look for people who might be staring at me or something. I always found someone to get my nerves worked up on, feeling like they were making fun of me but I try hard to not focus on them, I slip once and awhile but it's for the most part a successful tactic but one I have to train myself to do. Not care.
Although it's easier to go places, I do feel much better being with my friends when I do, SA is still in the back of my head. I try to teach myself to focus on what we're doing and enjoy it. Before if we were waiting in line for something I would most likely scan the crowd to look for people who might be staring at me or something. I always found someone to get my nerves worked up on, feeling like they were making fun of me but I try hard to not focus on them, I slip once and awhile but it's for the most part a successful tactic but one I have to train myself to do. Not care.
nopark
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Not really. From time to time sure, but I'm very introverted by nature. When I want to be social, and if it's around people I'm comfortable with, I'm really really laid back. The problem is just finding new people to be social with, on those occasions I feel like being around people.
alex7
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i thrive off social interactions. I love parties, going to bars, going to friends houses, etc. It really is something i cant live without. However, SA does suck the fun out of it sometimes. I remember this one time i was hanging out with my friends, and i got all awkward and people were asking me what was wrong with me. I felt so embarrassed that on my way home, i parked my car and felt sorry for myself for a few hours. It really does ruin an evening, or even a week if it gets bad enough.
This is pretty much how I am. I require only relatively low doses of socializing. No matter how well it's going, after a while I've simply had enough. Kind of like drinking coffee.
I have a small clutch of good friends, none of whom live anywhere near me at the moment. I'd prefer to be able to get together more often than I do, but only to a point.
lyricalliaisons
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I don't like social things. I never have, even when I was very little. I don't like being around lots of people. Just the thought of it makes me feel claustrophobic.
DownInAHole
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Yes i do like socializing, I think that's why it bugs me so much.. I feel like I'm held back.
Nope. Just the thought of parties makes me annoyed at the people in them.
FountainandFairfax
in a VAN down by the RIVER
I used to like doing social things with friends. More than anything I think I miss watching them have fun.
Iseesky
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I only like social situations in which nobody knows me. Kinda strange, I guess. I love to go out with my friends to dinner or the movies, but I don't feel comfortable going unless we drive to the city where nobody knows anyone. I like talking to people I've never met before and might never see again. They have no expectations. Those are the situations I like.
I don't like and don't care for situations like going to a party with the kids in my graduating class. I don't enjoy myself at all and would rather be at home by myself.
I don't like and don't care for situations like going to a party with the kids in my graduating class. I don't enjoy myself at all and would rather be at home by myself.
I like to go the theater, cinema or concert. Next week I will go to Rammstein rock concert and it will be filled with thousands of people. I cant imagine how this will be but I will go because its my favorite band and I must see it. I also go to the academic meetings, its stressful for I must act polite but I am not a polite kind a guy.
I have mixed feelings about social situations. I like the idea of social situations, and I feel incredibly happy if I miraculously manage not to humiliate myself and manage to act like a normal person for a few hours. But most of the time I end up regretting ever attending the social situation and getting hideously drunk by myself.
evil feline space cadet
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I love social stuff too. Like i've no problem going to a club or party but once im there i worry!!!