JamesSmith
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I've noticed that people throughout our lives have told us to "be more positive," "be yourself," or "don't change yourself for other people. You are fine the way you are."
Well, you know what, I'm not fine the way I am. I'm a 27 year old grown man, yet last night I cried like a little child. I've "been myself" around people, and you know what? Myself sucks. I'm severely quiet, and even my friends were bothered by it. Being myself has only brought me down. Now, I'm alone with nobody; no friends, no g/f, nothing.
Be more positive? Is that what you tell someone who is suffering from an illness? I think SAD is worse than many illnesses. For example, would you tell someone with a torn ACL to be more positive when they can't even walk? There's nothing to be positive about when you have nothing socially! That's what people don't get.
You should feel bad when things are going badly. If you lose a championship game, do you go around celebrating saying, "things will get better, everything's fine!" Of course not. It sucks, you lost a big game. It's okay to not be positive. You shouldn't be celebrating a crappy time in your life.
It looks like changing yourself for other people is the only way to go. Just doing what I've wanted to do has gotten me nowhere. I'm alone because I did what I wanted to do and what I was comfortable doing: being quiet and isolating myself. I'm tired of people telling me "it's okay to be shy, it's okay to be quiet." It's not! Why? Because it's stopped me from having personal relationships throughout my life, which is one of the top most important things in life besides having a home, food and water so you can survive.
Let's face it, you have to be someone else (be outgoing and socially aggressive) if you ever want to change your life. It's either that, or be a loser like I am right now.
Well, you know what, I'm not fine the way I am. I'm a 27 year old grown man, yet last night I cried like a little child. I've "been myself" around people, and you know what? Myself sucks. I'm severely quiet, and even my friends were bothered by it. Being myself has only brought me down. Now, I'm alone with nobody; no friends, no g/f, nothing.
Be more positive? Is that what you tell someone who is suffering from an illness? I think SAD is worse than many illnesses. For example, would you tell someone with a torn ACL to be more positive when they can't even walk? There's nothing to be positive about when you have nothing socially! That's what people don't get.
You should feel bad when things are going badly. If you lose a championship game, do you go around celebrating saying, "things will get better, everything's fine!" Of course not. It sucks, you lost a big game. It's okay to not be positive. You shouldn't be celebrating a crappy time in your life.
It looks like changing yourself for other people is the only way to go. Just doing what I've wanted to do has gotten me nowhere. I'm alone because I did what I wanted to do and what I was comfortable doing: being quiet and isolating myself. I'm tired of people telling me "it's okay to be shy, it's okay to be quiet." It's not! Why? Because it's stopped me from having personal relationships throughout my life, which is one of the top most important things in life besides having a home, food and water so you can survive.
Let's face it, you have to be someone else (be outgoing and socially aggressive) if you ever want to change your life. It's either that, or be a loser like I am right now.