upndwn
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Today I got to be a fly on the wall as several of my female friends gathered to discuss what they wanted in a man (some of them whom I have been infatuated with in the past), and came to the realization that my fears of being undesirable as a romantic partner has been confirmed. Here is a list of observations from their confessions (these are all grown women from the ages of 25-35).
*A man has to be sexually experienced (not very true for me, my experience is mostly limited sometimes with years between experiences)
*A man has to be fit and well muscled (I'm not very fit or well muscled)
*A man has to be confident and determent (doesn't describe me very well)
*I like geeky guys (ok this actually fits me, but nothing else she said does)
*I like guys that rides a motorcycle (I don't even have a drivers license)
*I like tall and hairy guys (I'm not tall, and not hairy)
*I like though guys who aren't afraid to speak their mind or defend their values (I only speak my mind when asked to and keep my values to myself)
*I like guys in armor (Ok this one was weird, I probably could wear armor but..)
*Guys should have a place to live, a steady income and a secure life situation (I do have a place to live and a steady income, but I can't say I have a secure life situation)
*I like guys with a talent for music (I have an interest in music, but a talent no.)
*I want a guy with a great career/education (Don't fit me very well)
*I just want a normal guy without issues (I have several mental disorders so no)
*I want an experienced older man (Although I'm older than most of these girls I don't think I'm "experienced", at least not the kind of experience they were talking about)
*I want someone who can teach me new things everyday (I don't think I could teach someone new things EVERY day, but some days sure)
*I want someone that is a good kisser/good in bed and other variations (I don't think I have enough experience in these fields to qualify)
these are just those I remember from the top of my head, they had plenty of other things to say about their former experiences with relationships and flings, but I can't quite say I scored high in any of the categories they proposed.
I was surprised at how much focus they had on the physical qualities in a potential partner be it looks or performance wise. I would have thought most of my friends were beyond such shallow expectations.
They were more preoccupied with these notions than most of my male friends who are perfectly capable of looking beyond the physical and social.
Are these expectations representative of how the majority of women at this age thinks, e.g do grown women in their late twenties/early thirties think appearance and physical and social merit to be that important or is this just meaningless banter with little to no truth in it?
*A man has to be sexually experienced (not very true for me, my experience is mostly limited sometimes with years between experiences)
*A man has to be fit and well muscled (I'm not very fit or well muscled)
*A man has to be confident and determent (doesn't describe me very well)
*I like geeky guys (ok this actually fits me, but nothing else she said does)
*I like guys that rides a motorcycle (I don't even have a drivers license)
*I like tall and hairy guys (I'm not tall, and not hairy)
*I like though guys who aren't afraid to speak their mind or defend their values (I only speak my mind when asked to and keep my values to myself)
*I like guys in armor (Ok this one was weird, I probably could wear armor but..)
*Guys should have a place to live, a steady income and a secure life situation (I do have a place to live and a steady income, but I can't say I have a secure life situation)
*I like guys with a talent for music (I have an interest in music, but a talent no.)
*I want a guy with a great career/education (Don't fit me very well)
*I just want a normal guy without issues (I have several mental disorders so no)
*I want an experienced older man (Although I'm older than most of these girls I don't think I'm "experienced", at least not the kind of experience they were talking about)
*I want someone who can teach me new things everyday (I don't think I could teach someone new things EVERY day, but some days sure)
*I want someone that is a good kisser/good in bed and other variations (I don't think I have enough experience in these fields to qualify)
these are just those I remember from the top of my head, they had plenty of other things to say about their former experiences with relationships and flings, but I can't quite say I scored high in any of the categories they proposed.
I was surprised at how much focus they had on the physical qualities in a potential partner be it looks or performance wise. I would have thought most of my friends were beyond such shallow expectations.
They were more preoccupied with these notions than most of my male friends who are perfectly capable of looking beyond the physical and social.
Are these expectations representative of how the majority of women at this age thinks, e.g do grown women in their late twenties/early thirties think appearance and physical and social merit to be that important or is this just meaningless banter with little to no truth in it?