Were you a Least Favorite Child?

[theslowesthand]

Recently i saw an episode on "Anderson" which was about "Did Your Parents Have a Favorite Child?", and so also naturally talked about being a LFC (Least Favorite Child).
Like Mr Anderson, i failed to see the truth that i wasn't the MFC (most favorite child). And for me, being only 1 or 2 siblings, that makes me therefore the LFC (for both parents). I kind of knew deep-down i suppose, but i've never really confronted it.
And i realise now that being the LFC has contributed to some of issues i have to this day (the main one being SA).

How about you?

I think this survey could be quite illuminating...


* Yes (both) ---> LFC for both parents
...Yes (one) ---> LFC for one parent
...Unsure
...No (neither) ---> LFC for neither parents

* Note that this is not a poll on MFC, but only LFC

 

[MikeyC]

I voted no. I have no evidence to suggest I am an LFC and still don't, even though my brother seems to have the upper hand with them. I think I disappoint my parents but I don't think they love me less than my brother.

What makes you think you're an LFC, smallestloser?

 

[Aletheia]

My mother preferred my brother.

Or at least I always felt she did.

 

[Kiwong]

My parents loved all of us. My brother and sister were adpoted.

I was a bit of a surprise, and arrived late on the scene. I think I gave my mother great joy.

 

[Invisibleman]

Yeah. I did a big rant about my sister a while ago.

 

[Nouveau]

I always felt and still feel my mother does like my sister more than me. They seem to be able to bond and talk like friends a lot more than I really ever have been able to do. I guess because they have more in common or because they had bonded well before I was born (I'm seven years younger than her).
Though my sister has made a lot of bad choices in her life, continue to do so, and has treated pretty much everyone in the family like trash (especially my mother), somehow, my mom still tends to pay more attention to her, be more friendly with my sister, compare us with me always being the one who is worse, and believes her a lot more than me.
She insists that she doesn't 'like' or 'love' my sister more, but... actions speak louder than words to me.

 

[Graeme1988]

I always felt and still feel my mother does like my sister more than me. They seem to be able to bond and talk like friends a lot more than I really ever have been able to do.

^ I'd say this is how I feel as well. Although, I have 2 older sisters.

 

[cosmosis]

Very oddly enough, I'm my dad's favorite child, my mom's favorite child, my sisters favorite and my brothers favorite. They are a bunch of reckless joy seekers who avoid pain and I'm the one that feels the pain for everyone and thats probably why they keep me around....

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Yes. I'm positive that I was a least favourite child.

Mom and dad were together for a few years and in that time they had my older sister (a gifted child of genius status) and me.
My sister was mom's favourite until she had my little brother- and since she ALWAYS wanted a boy, he became her favourite.
Dad's favourite was and still is my older sister.

I was just an unfortunate middle child who gave up trying to be as great as my sister because it's impossible.
I'm much more well behaved than my brother but that also means less attention.
Oh, well!

 

[vj288]

I said no. I have a brother and a sister, and I don't think calling any of us the "least favorite" or the "most favorite" would be accurate. We're all fairly different than one another in a lot of ways so my parents will treat us differently, but if they do have "favorites" they do a good job hiding it. I mean, looking at it objectively as the oldest and the first my mom has a sort of special connection with me I think, I mean we're not super close or anything but she looks at me differently. And my sister is the baby, youngest and my dad knows that and sort of treats her special for that reason a bit. That leaves my brother sort of in the middle, he gets lost in transition a bit, me and my sister tend to zone him out a lot and he's sort of the cliche trouble-making/acting out middle child in a lot of ways. Gets the worst grades, most amount of trouble at home, always competing for attention. And he's not a "perfect child" like my parents view me and my sister as. But there's a lot of positive things about him my parents admire I know too, it would be a little of a stretch to to call him the "Least favorite," you could make the argument though.

 

[Azael]

With regards my father? Yes, I was definitely the least liked. Though my father has clashed badly with my sister over the years, he does interact with her unlike myself. My two half-sisters are also preferred.

My mother does not openly prefer anyone. I get along better with my mother than my sister does but my mother has always been there for my sister and given her so much. I don't think either of us can claim she was biased in any way.

 

[twiggle]

I don't believe my parents have favourites. They insist they don't, and I believe them. I'm the youngest by 8 years, my sister is 8 years older than me and my brother is 10 years older than me. Being the youngest by so much, I was treated as the surprise of the family and they were all excited to have me here (hahaha), but by no means am I the favourite. My sister was always considered the pretty and stylish one who men were always tripping over for, and my brother was the independent charmer who gave them a daughter-in-law and is a great chef. I'm the one that still lives at home at 26... can only cook curry... was unemployed for long spells last year... they like the fact I'm free-spirited and into travels, but I think they wish I was moved out and with a long-term partner earning enough money to be self-sufficient like the children (who are my age) of all their friends. I don't resent the fact they wish that.

 

[1969]

Hi, I was the last of three children. I don't know if I was the least favorite, but I certainly got the least amount of attention that is for absolute certain. My sister got the most positive attention and was bound for success in my parents' story. My brother - the middle child got the most attention, but that was because he was the most domineering/negative/violent, and I got the least - trying to keep my head down essentially.

 

[Hoppy]

Second youngest of five children. I always felt my parents should only had three children.

Anyway, I was the most ignored.

 

[powerfulthoughts]

In my view, I was the scapegoat child (Google it), although all my siblings had it rough, some moreso than others.

 

[Iluv]

My brother always got the approvals, the attention and the time. I missed out on a lot of my childhood because they were so busy attending to my brother who ended up completely nuts.

 

[Aletheia]

^ Yeah, my brother was the problem child while we were teenagers and got all the attention, although that did let me get away with a lot.

 

[SilentBird]

I feel that I am the least-understood child.

 

[MikeyC]

I always felt and still feel my mother does like my sister more than me. They seem to be able to bond and talk like friends a lot more than I really ever have been able to do. I guess because they have more in common or because they had bonded well before I was born (I'm seven years younger than her).

My younger brother seems to be able to bond with my parents more than me. When I was younger I knew my dad and I were friends but we sort of drifted in recent times. Mostly because of me. These days he has bigger conversations with them.

In fact, I would go so far to say that while my parents don't have a favourite child, my brother doesn't really like me too much.

 

[Invisibleman]

When I was younger I knew my dad and I were friends but we sort of drifted in recent times. Mostly because of me. These days he has bigger conversations with them.

Yeah same. I can go weeks without saying a word to my dad. Whenever we're together which isnt very often,we sit in complete silence with nothing but the incredibly forced remark about the latest sports result every 20 or so minutes.

Then of course when my sister is around he completely changes from a drabbish 1 dimensional man to the life of the party. Happy and chatting for hours on end. I usually just hang my head at that point and go up to my room.