Were you a Least Favorite Child?

[MikeyC]

Yeah same. I can go weeks without saying a word to my dad. Whenever we're together which isnt very often,we sit in complete silence with nothing but the incredibly forced remark about the latest sports result every 20 or so minutes.

Then of course when my sister is around he completely changes from a drabbish 1 dimensional man to the life of the party. Happy and chatting for hours on end. I usually just hang my head at that point and go up to my room.

That's sad, mate. :: Have you tried talking to him or is this an issue more to do with you than him? Mine is mostly me. Dad and I took a drive a few weeks ago and in the car I barely had anything to say and neither did he. It's quite awkward. With my brother it's a little different because he seems a lot more open around them.

 

[bardock]

I know i was, being the middle child in family, i always got the least attention and got hit the most for misbehaving

 

[Invisibleman]

Have you tried talking to him or is this an issue more to do with you than him?

Ive tried to talk to him lots of times but I dont know he just never seems to be interested or really care.

 

[MikeyC]

Ive tried to talk to him lots of times but I dont know he just never seems to be interested or really care.

That's really sad. I'm sorry. ::

 

[lilmutegirl]

Yeah same. I can go weeks without saying a word to my dad. Whenever we're together which isnt very often,we sit in complete silence with nothing but the incredibly forced remark about the latest sports result every 20 or so minutes.

That sounds like me and my dad, except I don't even know enough about sports to talk to him about that. We used to talk about our cats (who have passed away) and now the subject is usually my son. Once, I asked my dad, "how is your donut?" and he didn't even answer that.
My dad talks to my brother more, and my mom talks to me more (we mostly gossip about other people-it's like that's the only way we can communicate with each other).
I don't know if my parents have a favorite of the two of us, but I think they are disappointed in both of us. We both also have exes that my parents hate (my bro has 1, I've got 2), but they love my sister-in-law and my boyfriend. I think maybe they're the favorites...

 

[Shyangel]

Nope. I don't think I am even close to the least favorite. I'm a emotional wreck, and my family seems to recognize that and, in turn, give me lots of love and understanding.
Because of my obvious problems, I think I might have got more attention then I deserve.

 

[MikeyC]

I don't know if my parents have a favorite of the two of us, but I think they are disappointed in both of us.

I'm sorry you think that. I hope it's not true. I think my parents are disappointed in me for not doing something with my life. I'm 25 now and I think I'm a bit of a failure in their eyes, especially dad.

Nope. I don't think I am even close to the least favorite. I'm a emotional wreck, and my family seems to recognize that and, in turn, give me lots of love and understanding.

That's great that you have a very supportive family. It would help you immeasurably.

 

[spring]

I am the first child and only have one brother.His upbringing was more sheltered and my parents both have a stronger bond with him,partly due to my attempts to make them undrestand their parenting methods-used on me-were wrong.
until lately I was perfectly fine with the fact that they liked him better and always protected him because I did the same thing most of the time,treating him like my own child.

in the last couple of months though,I'm starting to feel bitter about this,I feel like he has stolen the love and attention that was meant to be mine.

I know they love me ,but they have a closer relationship with my brother,because unlike me,he has not been involved with their marital issues or their personal ones.he is an eternal child who gives them comfort.I'm the one who is the emotional garbage can in the family,they bring their misery to me and share their happiness with my brother.

that's what I get.

 

[theslowesthand]

I voted no. I have no evidence to suggest I am an LFC and still don't, even though my brother seems to have the upper hand with them. I think I disappoint my parents but I don't think they love me less than my brother.
What makes you think you're an LFC, smallestloser?

There have been quite a few "pointers" that i've had, but as i said, i was simply too scared to "confront" or "accept" the (almost certain) truth that not only have i always been the LFC, but also that they haven't really "loved" me "properly" (you know, like how you see on tv, or maybe read about, or hear about)

Here's just a few of some such pointers (or "clues") i have received over the years... (not all may be true, but altogether they form a very convincing body of evidence)
• mother always very excited/animated/happy whenever see MFC (brother), but never me
• i argued quite a lot with mother over the years, but never once did i hear any arguments (or even remotely to) between her & MFC
• some really quite nasty rage has emanated from her (& father), in certain heated situations (ie built-up anger at me)
• no photos of me in their home displayed (but photos of all other relatives, & of MFC)
• a few times father has said he 'doesn't understand me'
• mother called me a 'monster' once (as an adult)
• all the names/mocking/"stick" i've got from parents my whole life
• i seldom make any eye-contact with them (which has affected things with all people i come accross), am afraid to pick up on their negative/disapproving/angry-at-me/disliking-me vibes
• ...

Basically tho, its just the overall feeling of certainty i have that i am the LFC.