Dead_on_Arrival
Well-known member
Does anyone else fear upsetting other people?
I dread making other people unhappy. I have to carefully think about what I am saying sometimes so as not to cause distress to anyone.
I get depressed when I have not heard from someone for a while and this triggers all sorts of thoughts about what I may have done or said to drive them away. It is a major relief when they see or speak to me again and I can finaly relax and let the thoughts go, that is, until the next time.
On the other hand though, if I push at them to see me or talk with me I feel I am pushing them away again by not giving them their space and alone time they need.
It's all very confusing this catch 22 milarky.
I dread making other people unhappy. I have to carefully think about what I am saying sometimes so as not to cause distress to anyone.
I get depressed when I have not heard from someone for a while and this triggers all sorts of thoughts about what I may have done or said to drive them away. It is a major relief when they see or speak to me again and I can finaly relax and let the thoughts go, that is, until the next time.
On the other hand though, if I push at them to see me or talk with me I feel I am pushing them away again by not giving them their space and alone time they need.
It's all very confusing this catch 22 milarky.