Some great posts here. Hopefully, they've been helpful to others and offered various points of view. I have just a few things to add on the topic:
1. Ugliness is way overused I think. Although children frequently use it to describe people, I think as we get older it should only be used to refer to someone's motives, personality, etc. Their physical appearance might not be perfect, but describing them as ugly is too black and white for me.
2.
I think attractive men and women in general do have the advantage of at least getting their foot in the door to meeting people and having more opportunities given to them. But long term, they will eventually need something deeper. I agree with the sentiments about this topic. I think "attractive" men and women with BDD/SA/
low self-esteem are in a similar boat, in that they may have more opportunities like above. However, they may eventually be limited due to their own insecurities and social problems.
3. On the other hand,I think a man or woman perceived as "less attractive" with
HIGH self-esteem and/or money, power will fare better in the long term by taking more chances with asking people out on dates and being more comfortable with themselves until people get to know them beyond their looks. And I think the "less attractive" men and women with BDD/SA
/low self-esteem face the toughest battle, due to the "double whammy" of having body-issues, etc and also not having the frequent compliments and general feedback of "looking hot".
Bottom line, no matter where you fall on the continuum, you have the choice of doing what you can to improve your situation. It will likely be more difficult as you face more issues, but the increase in confidence can only help.