this_portrait
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Portrait of a _portrait
I figured I'd start one of these, just for the hell of it, and to see what others think of the things that come to my mind as well.
I'll start by posting a journal entry I wrote earlier.
Lately I’ve been asking myself the question, “What is a real friend?”
I’ve been pondering it quite a bit, and I find that the definition might be a bit subjective. It varies from person to person. What a good friend is to one may be a bad friend to another. My own answer to this question may even be rather subjective, since I’m going by how I would want a friend to treat me.
To me, a real friend is a few things. For one, they are very direct with you; they’re completely honest with you and are constructive in their criticism of you. They don’t hint at anything, expecting you to read their mind, because they know you can’t. NO ONE can read minds.
Second, they are supportive of you. They will not tear you down by making you feel like scum of the earth. They won’t be condescending and make you feel like you’re not good enough to be around them. They won’t impose high standards that you can’t in any way live up to.
Third, they will try to understand you. Even if they CAN’T understand you, no matter how many times they try, they will still stick around. If they don’t, then they evidently don’t care enough about you.
Finally, and this ties in with the third point, a real friend can handle you at your worst. A real friend will not abandon you during hard times. They won’t wait until you’re finally feeling well to start giving a **** about you. They’ll stick it all out with you, and when you’re finally out of your own personal hell, that friend will definitely deserve to experience you when you’re at your best. In a way, they love you unconditionally.
These are the qualities I would want in a friend, and especially a boyfriend. Obviously I would have to be the same way if I was to consider myself someone’s friend or girlfriend, and I know I need to work on some of these things (especially being direct). I’ve just come to realize that this is what I want from people I choose to include in my life. Unfortunately, it took going through quite a few people who were NOT willing to be this way towards me in order to realize this.
Just my thoughts for the day.
I figured I'd start one of these, just for the hell of it, and to see what others think of the things that come to my mind as well.
I'll start by posting a journal entry I wrote earlier.
Lately I’ve been asking myself the question, “What is a real friend?”
I’ve been pondering it quite a bit, and I find that the definition might be a bit subjective. It varies from person to person. What a good friend is to one may be a bad friend to another. My own answer to this question may even be rather subjective, since I’m going by how I would want a friend to treat me.
To me, a real friend is a few things. For one, they are very direct with you; they’re completely honest with you and are constructive in their criticism of you. They don’t hint at anything, expecting you to read their mind, because they know you can’t. NO ONE can read minds.
Second, they are supportive of you. They will not tear you down by making you feel like scum of the earth. They won’t be condescending and make you feel like you’re not good enough to be around them. They won’t impose high standards that you can’t in any way live up to.
Third, they will try to understand you. Even if they CAN’T understand you, no matter how many times they try, they will still stick around. If they don’t, then they evidently don’t care enough about you.
Finally, and this ties in with the third point, a real friend can handle you at your worst. A real friend will not abandon you during hard times. They won’t wait until you’re finally feeling well to start giving a **** about you. They’ll stick it all out with you, and when you’re finally out of your own personal hell, that friend will definitely deserve to experience you when you’re at your best. In a way, they love you unconditionally.
These are the qualities I would want in a friend, and especially a boyfriend. Obviously I would have to be the same way if I was to consider myself someone’s friend or girlfriend, and I know I need to work on some of these things (especially being direct). I’ve just come to realize that this is what I want from people I choose to include in my life. Unfortunately, it took going through quite a few people who were NOT willing to be this way towards me in order to realize this.
Just my thoughts for the day.
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