this sucks! i never had a girl in my whole life!

[Claude]

Just like many of you, I'm really frustrated as well. I'm 18 and have never had a girlfriend. It sucks, knowing that ALL (and I mean all) of your friends have at least been on one date and all you have ever had is lonliness. When my friends asked me if I had a special someone for Valentines day they were thoroughly suprised to find out that I've never even come close to having anyone! But of course I figure if I haven't had any experience at all by this age, I should just pretty much accept the fact that loneliness and isolation are the conditions of my life, no matter how hard I work or how kind I am, I will always be alone. I think I am an involuntary celebate. It's either that or I'm ugly (which I'm not), out of shape (which I'm the far opposite of), or a big loudmouth jerk (which I would shoot myself if I were). I have plenty more to get off my chest but this will do for now :evil: .

 

[Warlock]

I just got a girlfriend. She is so wonderful.

 

[Claude]

Good job Warlock! I'm very happy for you! It's good to know that there are many people finding happiness in their lives!

 

[albatros123]

Maybe this website will help some of you out. I hope so;

www.nolongerlonely.com

Its a website I discovered. Its a dating/ freindship website for people suffering form stress or mental illness- depression etc.

Again hope it helps.

Nat

 

[spikefan777]

Wow, @ all of the "I'm __ years old and have never had a ______ friend!

Well here's another. I'm 16 and have never had a boyfriend. I don't know about you guys but most of the people I know have been "dating" since 2nd grade! :roll:

 

[Oli025]

never had one either

 

[shipost]

I had my first when I was 9, technically I cant see it as a girlfriend but we said we were etc... you know what its like, we didnt even kiss... well if we did it would just have been her kissing my cheak :lol: Then she finished with me, I cried over that... how pathetic lmao

 

[someoneelse]

I would say that many people have experienced being single and not just a person with sp. I have had moderate success with dating. I would say moderate just to make it sound better to myself but it is a pain to say the least to be single. Yet knowing that there others that are experiencing this is comforting in a way. That it is more common then I think it is. If I pursue a relationship it opens me up to anixiety so I do not. So I wait until someone pursues me. Would there be any comfort in a sp dating a sp?

 

[Quixote]

Hey someonelse, that was my previous avatar. nice choice

 

[thequietone]

an quiet unconfident man is a MAJOR turnoff for women,ironicly most men find shy,quiet girls cute and sweet i know it sucks thats just the way it is :x

I don't think this is always true....I often find quiet guys attractive, I just don't say anything. I think that maybe they understand what I'm going through. The problem is, we're both too shy to start up a conversation!

 

[chear15]

Hi I am new here, I know how it feels, although I just got out of my first relationship with a girl about 2 months ago. I am 22 now 21 when I met her and it lasted 4 months, and problems with me and her didn't let it work out. She kind of just left, and hasn't talked to me which hasn't help my already low confidence and feelings I get. It was great while it lasted though, I thought I would never have a girlfriend. I believe there will be someone out there though for everybody.

 

[Lee47]

Hey im new here too and ive never had a gf and im 19 now.
although im trying to turn things around now ive started uni and ive been trying to go out to pubs with people.
come to think of it the first night i came here i went out with a load of other guys on the same course and some girls came over and started chatting to me but i screwed it up and couldnt talk very much.
one left and the other eventually got bored and started talking to one of the other guys who had no prob talking :/

 

[frustr4t3d]

xx

 

[red_reagel]

I have the same problem except I'm a girl. Arrrgghh i just dont get it! I can understand people thinking i was too flat and too quiet in jr. high. But in High school I actually talk to people now. They just dont think i'm interesting or anything. I have to watch my friends have boyfriends/girlfriends and just pretend to be happy. I do like one boy, but he probably only thinks of me as a friend.

 

[frustr4t3d]

xx

 

[red_reagel]

I do like one boy, but he probably only thinks of me as a friend.

Maybe he likes u too, but he's too shy to admit it. Kinda like my situation. I know someone who likes/liked me for a while now (i was never told that she likes me, it's just obvious that she does/did) and she has no idea how much I like her. I don't have the balls to talk to her but at least I give her signs that i'm interested. (probably why she hasn't given up yet, hahah). Whenever u get a chance, try to do nice things for him and when u see him by himself go up to him and try to start some small-talk. That's what this girl is trying with me, but as always i screw things up!

Maybe! I have my doubts though. People think I'm really weird lol. They look at me one minute and they know. I think he just talks to me because he knows I'm lonely.

That's awesome that someone likes you though. You should definetly go for it

 

[eggbe4thechicken]

I suggest we all meet up! I'm 18 and never been asked out. Now that i have left it so long (no offense to anyone older) that it has become an even bigger deal. When you are 14/15 it's normal to have never kissed before, maybe expected, but now, if ever *fingers crossed* someone asked me out, they would expect me to be all experienced, but i've never kissed anyone, i bet i would be crap at it As for anything else, how on earth do you have sex with SA? i don't understand Anyone else have this problem?

 

[mylifesucks]

I'm almost 23 and never been even close to being in a relationship either. I have kissed a girl once, but I was so wasted I barely remember it. Being intoxicated is the only way I can easily communicate with people. Well actually, even then it's sometimes hard it initialize a conversation, but it's easier to keep it going.

 

[eggbe4thechicken]

I'm almost 23 and never been even close to being in a relationship either. I have kissed a girl once, but I was so wasted I barely remember it. Being intoxicated is the only way I can easily communicate with people. Well actually, even then it's sometimes hard it initialize a conversation, but it's easier to keep it going.

I've never been drunk either, I don't really go out. And even if I did i wouldn't drink much for fear of making a fool out of myself

 

[emmdee]

Completely can relate. Never been on a date, never came close to the first kiss, don't have any guy friends..
And i really don't want to go there.
And that's the problem with SA/AvPD.