this sucks! i never had a girl in my whole life!

[spect01]

I'm 19 and I never had a girlfriend or a female friend and yeah I'm still a virgin. It sucks. I really wanna meet someone. All I can do right now is work on getting my life together and meeting people along the way and all that stuff. I'm hoping I'll cross paths with someone soon......

 

[Richey]

the problem here is that they won't come knocking on the door, you have to really put in alot of effort and initiate alot before you get any sort of interest back.
yes! it is possible that if you are out and about that a girl may approach you and show interest but really you also have to insitgate some sort of conversation and interest and i've worked with guys who think "pick up lines" and cheesy sexual innuendos will impress women, that is a huge problem some guys have, they think that flirting is this forced act of approaching a female and they put on a cheesy act to try and impress....sometimes it works if the girl is after a "physical" relationship ...but if you want to date and find a girlfriend just be yourself and act like you would around a close friend or someone where you feel down to earth with.

 

[Kiwong]

I'm 47, still a virgin, never had a girl friend.

Do I win? Anyone older?

A real life 40 year old virgin, woohoo, I love it.

I'm single and plan on staying that way. Idependence has a lot going for it.

 

[ronnierocket]

22. Virgin. Never in a relationships. Kissed twice, both on a drunken night.
But most of my friends are girls, and I'm less afraid of them, maybe beacause women tend to be more caring (or because I was raped by an older boy when I was five).

 

[masterofpuppets]

I've never had a boyfriend, never kissed a guy, never gone on a date, I don't think I've even ever hugged a guy. also got HH too :: so yeah, i can relate a little lol.

I hate seeing everyone else experiencing all the things i doubt i ever will.

 

[Felgen]

I've never had a boyfriend, never kissed a guy, never gone on a date, I don't think I've even ever hugged a guy. also got HH too :: so yeah, i can relate a little lol.

I hate seeing everyone else experiencing all the things i doubt i ever will.

You probably will if you overcome your anxiety.

 

[mrb]

i got my first gf at 22 mate ..... plenty of time i dont think i even kissed a girl till then , theres something quite magical about your first kiss ...

 

[samber]

I'm 17 and I've had about 4 or 5 chances and I just freaked out or was too numbed by depression to realize someone was interested in me untill much later on.

 

[danyule]

I have never really asked a girl out, but there have been some girls interested in me. With my SA, however, I was unable to do anything. Talking to them was so awkward. Even though I might have liked them back, my SA made me seem dismissive and they eventually gave up.

That is EXACTLY what happens to me, despite actually being interested i come across as the opposite, or unfriendly. one of the main reasons ive missed so many of these opportunities.
soooo frustrating.

 

[Bones]

Thank The Lord, I thought I was the only one. I'm 18 and like some of the others, I've never had a g/f or even a close female friend, or even a female friend.

 

[Solo Dolo]

i am 18 and never had a girlfriend either and i have extreme HH!! it makes me really mad...im pretty sure my family might have thought i was gay....it sucks...A LOT

 

[theslowesthand]

I'm 38, and as with Bones, never had a g/f or close female friend or female friend (though not a virgin, by way of a large sum of money, and a large amount of alcohol!).
I'm just "going with the flow", the thing is the pipe's all bent and twisted!. I have had a fair number of opportunities, but for various reasons nothing happened (one of those reasons being of course SA). So the reason i'm still single is quite complicated.
But, speaking of "flow", i am currently thinking that maybe i might need to do some things that don't go-with-flow (such as make a real effort to try to get a g/f). I'm quite confident that i could get one, but the thing is I don't really want one, and would prefer to stick with my solitary/isolated life, but maybe i "need" one??. Who knows.

 

[dutchguy]

I'm 25 and never had a girlfriend, nor any female friend for that matter.

The thing is, I just can't talk to women. I guess I somehow feel like I'm not worthy of being with them due to a lack of confidence, and it always shows in my conversations with them.

It's become an obsession of me... I'm quite happy in most of the aspects of my life, but damn, I feel so unloved, as if nobody will ever appreciate who I am enough to want to spend their life with me.

 

[Falkor]

I did have some relationships, but i know everyone wants someone to love.
you want to share your love with someone, and experience love.
But you just should have a little patience, it will come your way, if you just keep have faith

xx

 

[userremoved]

I did have some relationships, but i know everyone wants someone to love.
you want to share your love with someone, and experience love.
But you just should have a little patience, it will come your way, if you just keep have faith

xx

Sorry but I don't buy it. Love doesn't just come my way. If there's anything important I've learned from life it's that. I'm sure other guys here can attest to that as well. Everything has to be worked for or you don't get it, the only thing thats free is life and death.

 

[dutchguy]

Sorry but I don't buy it. Love doesn't just come my way. If there's anything important I've learned from life it's that. I'm sure other guys here can attest to that as well. Everything has to be worked for or you don't get it, the only thing thats free is life and death.

I agree. I've been hearing this 'just wait and it'll happen' line my entire life, and guess what, it hasn't happened yet. I understand that girls are just as insecure and looking for love as us guys are, but in my experience a lot of girls don't have the patience to wait for that shy guy to open up to her.

 

[Felgen]

No, girls like *******s. The ones that abuse them physically, verbally and mentally.

All of them? I get the impression that most girls more mature than high school level don't.

 

[dutchguy]

No I was not stereotyping all girls. A bunch of my female friends are dating *******s, my sister is dating an *******. I don't understand it, it just appears that way.

I used to think the same way (and often I catch myself still doing it), but in the end I realized that my definition of an ****** was a bit skewed...

I mean, guys like us often see a couple argue or a guy make fun of his girlfriend and we think "What an ******, I would never do that to her, I would treat her as the perfect princess that she is". We see a guy who has a girlfriend chatting with another woman and we think "What a cheating bastard! I would never do that!". The truth is, I slowly discovered that while there are a lot of real sleazebags out there, a lot of the guys that I used to think were being unfaithful or abusive towards their girlfriends were actually just average and nice guys.

It's the cliché story of not putting women on a pedestal, and even though I understand how it works, I'm nowhere near putting my knowledge into practice... Whenever I talk to a woman I'm still afraid of even disagreeing with anything she says, no matter how much I want to. People say; "don't think of them as a potential girlfriend, just think of them as any friend", but the problem is, I can't... whenever I like a girl she's perfect to me and can't do anything wrong. What I need is some kind of technique to keep me from doing this, because that's definitely what's keeping me from actually getting a girlfriend.

 

[userremoved]

People say; "don't think of them as a potential girlfriend, just think of them as any friend", but the problem is, I can't... whenever I like a girl she's perfect to me and can't do anything wrong. What I need is some kind of technique to keep me from doing this, because that's definitely what's keeping me from actually getting a girlfriend.

Lmao I tend to do the same thing too. I thought it was just my effed up personality. And how on Earth do you think of someone as just a friend once you've become attracted to them anyways?

 

[dutchguy]

Lmao I tend to do the same thing too. I thought it was just my effed up personality. And how on Earth do you think of someone as just a friend once you've become attracted to them anyways?

Yeah, exactly. I've been trying to find out how to do it for ages. I've tried focusing on her negative qualities, pretending she already has a boyfriend or trying to think of her as one of my guy friends but it never works... So how do we get these women off their pedestals?