this sucks! i never had a girl in my whole life!
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SilentOutlaw
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CHE said:
Yeah, you don't have to talk a lot to get a woman if you are naturally good looking and only want a short term sexual relationship. Although talking is most likely needed for a long term relationship with a real woman.
The_9th_passenger
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Even though I got 2 gf before I'm not optimistic about love in my life. I'm a REAL loner.
Anyway, I try flirting with girls and I'm finding some of them seem to be interested... but I can't know for sure if they feel attracted to me or are just trying to be polite or nice just to be my friends, you know...
On the other hand, I don't seem to be able to find my girl... that magic person... I can't even imagine how could she be like. And therefore, as no girl seems to be the one-and-only, I refuse having a relationship with those girls as soon as I realize they are not what I'm searching for. So now it's me actually who rejects them 8) and that is improving my self-steem a lot -not because of me rejecting someone but because I feel strong enough in myself to reject a girl even when I think I could manage to fuck her (please excuse my rudeness
). I wouldn't like it anyway. I mean I wouldn't like hurting someone or "using" her just like a whore or something you know... i hope you'll understand what I'm meaning... I'm very careful with others feelings. I don't know why because other people is not always that careful with me.
However -and excuse my post length- I think the secret to happyness is no other than being self-content and being in-no-need-of-anything so if you don't need anything, you're just fine! That easy! :wink:
So... forget about it. Even more if you're just 17 or 19 :roll:
As somebody said before relationships and love is not so beautiful like in dreams or like in fairy tales or romantic movies :wink: usually it ends up with you crying and asking yourself why he/she did this or that etc
Anyway, I try flirting with girls and I'm finding some of them seem to be interested... but I can't know for sure if they feel attracted to me or are just trying to be polite or nice just to be my friends, you know...
On the other hand, I don't seem to be able to find my girl... that magic person... I can't even imagine how could she be like. And therefore, as no girl seems to be the one-and-only, I refuse having a relationship with those girls as soon as I realize they are not what I'm searching for. So now it's me actually who rejects them 8) and that is improving my self-steem a lot -not because of me rejecting someone but because I feel strong enough in myself to reject a girl even when I think I could manage to fuck her (please excuse my rudeness
). I wouldn't like it anyway. I mean I wouldn't like hurting someone or "using" her just like a whore or something you know... i hope you'll understand what I'm meaning... I'm very careful with others feelings. I don't know why because other people is not always that careful with me. However -and excuse my post length- I think the secret to happyness is no other than being self-content and being in-no-need-of-anything so if you don't need anything, you're just fine! That easy! :wink:
So... forget about it. Even more if you're just 17 or 19 :roll:
As somebody said before relationships and love is not so beautiful like in dreams or like in fairy tales or romantic movies :wink: usually it ends up with you crying and asking yourself why he/she did this or that etc
knglerxt
Banned
SilentOutlaw said:
I've been told by a lot of people that I'm good looking, but I've never had a gf. I get looks from girls and women all the time. But I've learned that looks only matter if you have the sociable personality to go along with it. Without that, you might as well be a troll.
knglerxt
Banned
The_9th_passenger said:
I think you can be alone and content for a certain period of time. But, eventually, it's going to get to you. I don't care who you are, or how happy you are with other areas of your life. Being alone sometimes is alright, but when that turns into almost 24/7,365 that's not good for anyone.
marshall1234
Member
hm...
Id like to know a little bit more generally about people with SP, for instance:
Are you generally considered intelligent (high IQ and all that shit)?
Did you go to a good school?
Do you pride yourself on your individuality (listen to metal for example)?
Where your parents very protective?
Are you very emotional/sensitive (i.e you could imagine yourself in that position / you think about peoples emotions on a level most people dont seem to?)
Do you almost "respect" the opposite sex to much and therefore are affraid you will seem a "lowly" offering?
Maybe these questions are a load of crap, I dunno, but Id be interested in a few answers. Mainly about the first few!
Id like to know a little bit more generally about people with SP, for instance:
Are you generally considered intelligent (high IQ and all that shit)?
Did you go to a good school?
Do you pride yourself on your individuality (listen to metal for example)?
Where your parents very protective?
Are you very emotional/sensitive (i.e you could imagine yourself in that position / you think about peoples emotions on a level most people dont seem to?)
Do you almost "respect" the opposite sex to much and therefore are affraid you will seem a "lowly" offering?
Maybe these questions are a load of crap, I dunno, but Id be interested in a few answers. Mainly about the first few!
loneEAGLE
Well-known member
yuanhuang said:
i know man its a living hell,butt you aint alone im 30 and have only been on 4 or 5 double dates and i was so nervous i could barely speak witch makes one on one dating almost impossible confidence is the key,an quiet unconfident man is a MAJOR turnoff for women,ironicly most men find shy,quiet girls cute and sweet i know it sucks thats just the way it is :x my dream is to find a girl with sa so at least she knows what im going through !!
keep fighting the good fight my friend !
thequietone
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19 and never had a b/f. There were maybe two or three guys who liked me in highschoo, but I'm so avoidant I usually just dodge away without stopping to think if I actually like them or not. Fear blinds you. It really does.
But I think it is disastrous to look for another person to "complete" you. When they leave you, you'll have nothing left of yourself....I guess having someone love you gives you confidence though.....it's hard to say. Everyone makes dating out to be such a big deal and for us with SA/SP, it really hurts. We feel weirder than we already are!
But I think it is disastrous to look for another person to "complete" you. When they leave you, you'll have nothing left of yourself....I guess having someone love you gives you confidence though.....it's hard to say. Everyone makes dating out to be such a big deal and for us with SA/SP, it really hurts. We feel weirder than we already are!
loneEAGLE
Well-known member
it makes you feel so much better that theres someone out there that really cares about you and misses you when your not around,butt yes its true if you need someone to complete you then its your own personal issues, i think people just feel the need to "fit in" with the rest of the worldthequietone said: