IamThisOne
Well-known member
This is sort of an update to the thread I posted a few days ago entitled Potential Friends.
So I did it. At lunch today I went up to the girl and I sat with her and talked to her.
I went into the cafeteria and OH GOD! was I nervous. I got my food and I was filling my glass with some coke and I was thinking, "maybe I shouldn't do it". Then I started thinking about how bad I felt the other day when I got scared and backed out. I knew I would beat myself up over it if I didn't do it. So I just took a deep breath and walked over to her. I acted like I was looking for a table, then I looked at her and said, " Hey, would you like some company?". The words just came out like I had no control over them.
She said, "sure". So I sat down and for a few seconds I just looked around and ate a few of my fries. Then I asked her if it was her first year at college. We talked about school and stuff. She seemed to be quite friendly to me (I think that is good). She said that she didn't know anyone at college, except for some people that she went to high school with. Now, I might be wrong, but the fact that she is always alone suggests that she might not have too many friends, so me talking to her might have been good. My brother told me that all girls like attention, so I guess it's good that I gave her some, I'm not sure though. When I left I said, "see you later, have a good day". She said, " you too". One thing that I forgot to do is introduce myself, so I still don't know her name and she doesn't know mine. I plan on sitting with her again Tuesday, so that will be the first thing I do. Do you think I screwed things up?
What was good was that my voice didn't break or anything. I sounded a little nervous, but not that bad. My brother told me not to sound scared and pitiful and to be confident. I think I sounded quite confident, at least more than normal. Now, don't get me wrong, I was nervous, and shaking a bit. Another thing was that when I was eating, I was worrying about the way I was eating. I had a slice of pizza and some fries because I didn't want to get something too messy or greasy. I was worrying like, "am I eating too fast, is she disgusted, do I have stuff on my mouth". When I was finished eating I left. I would have stayed longer but I was nervous and anxious which caused me to not be hungry anyway (I usually stuff myself when I eat).
I saw her again when I was coming out of class. I told myself I would wave at her if I saw her again, but didn't have time to talk to her. She was waiting for class and I had to get going, but anyway she kind of scared me because I was not expecting to see her. I quickly swung my hand up, but she didn't respond. I think it might have been because of the quickness of the wave that she didn't really see it, but I felt kind of bad, like she didn't like me. However, because of the way she talked to me at lunch I can tell she seemed to not think I was a bad person or a creep. However, I DON'T KNOW.
Judging by the information I have given, do you guys think that it went well? I would like some input on the matter, as well as any advice for the future.
When I left class after seeing her waiting for her class, I went to the bathroom and as I was walking back through the hall I saw her sitting at her desk writing. She was hunched over her desk with her head really close to the paper and I thought that was so cute because I do the same thing when I write.
I told myself that I need to make this work.
So I did it. At lunch today I went up to the girl and I sat with her and talked to her.
I went into the cafeteria and OH GOD! was I nervous. I got my food and I was filling my glass with some coke and I was thinking, "maybe I shouldn't do it". Then I started thinking about how bad I felt the other day when I got scared and backed out. I knew I would beat myself up over it if I didn't do it. So I just took a deep breath and walked over to her. I acted like I was looking for a table, then I looked at her and said, " Hey, would you like some company?". The words just came out like I had no control over them.
She said, "sure". So I sat down and for a few seconds I just looked around and ate a few of my fries. Then I asked her if it was her first year at college. We talked about school and stuff. She seemed to be quite friendly to me (I think that is good). She said that she didn't know anyone at college, except for some people that she went to high school with. Now, I might be wrong, but the fact that she is always alone suggests that she might not have too many friends, so me talking to her might have been good. My brother told me that all girls like attention, so I guess it's good that I gave her some, I'm not sure though. When I left I said, "see you later, have a good day". She said, " you too". One thing that I forgot to do is introduce myself, so I still don't know her name and she doesn't know mine. I plan on sitting with her again Tuesday, so that will be the first thing I do. Do you think I screwed things up?
What was good was that my voice didn't break or anything. I sounded a little nervous, but not that bad. My brother told me not to sound scared and pitiful and to be confident. I think I sounded quite confident, at least more than normal. Now, don't get me wrong, I was nervous, and shaking a bit. Another thing was that when I was eating, I was worrying about the way I was eating. I had a slice of pizza and some fries because I didn't want to get something too messy or greasy. I was worrying like, "am I eating too fast, is she disgusted, do I have stuff on my mouth". When I was finished eating I left. I would have stayed longer but I was nervous and anxious which caused me to not be hungry anyway (I usually stuff myself when I eat).
I saw her again when I was coming out of class. I told myself I would wave at her if I saw her again, but didn't have time to talk to her. She was waiting for class and I had to get going, but anyway she kind of scared me because I was not expecting to see her. I quickly swung my hand up, but she didn't respond. I think it might have been because of the quickness of the wave that she didn't really see it, but I felt kind of bad, like she didn't like me. However, because of the way she talked to me at lunch I can tell she seemed to not think I was a bad person or a creep. However, I DON'T KNOW.
Judging by the information I have given, do you guys think that it went well? I would like some input on the matter, as well as any advice for the future.
When I left class after seeing her waiting for her class, I went to the bathroom and as I was walking back through the hall I saw her sitting at her desk writing. She was hunched over her desk with her head really close to the paper and I thought that was so cute because I do the same thing when I write.
I told myself that I need to make this work.
