ScaredToBreathe
Well-known member
I DISAGREE WITH YOUR POST!! first of all, u commonly state "they." how can u speak for the whole social anxiety community? im sure some people with SA have done all those things and still weren't able to get over their SA! maybe it worked for u, but with others its not always the same case.
1) i have severe SA as well as selective mutism. i realize my condition and that i am the one that can do something about it. no matter what i do, what course of action i take or how long i do it for, it barely helps.
2) i have been trying to go slow and help myself for years. I have gradually went out to social events, but still not talking or anythin. I have persisted to maintain eye contact with ppl which i am pretty good at doing now. sometimes i even push myself to make small talk or ask a question when its absolutely necessary in social situations, but barely ever. however many "baby steps" i take, it only seems to get worse.
3) social anxiety forces me to think negatively about myself. all the time i feel as if im worthless and the thoughts in my head wont stop from telling me that im dumb, fat, ugly, and a failure. u know wut i really think about myself? none of that! i think im cute, i love my body and myself, im smart and get good grades, im polite and responsible and a wonderful person. but even though thats wut i think and i accept myself for who i am, its like my thoughts r arguing with me and keep trying to bring me back down and make me believe all those awful things.. its a constant struggle against myself.
4) how can u "stop looking at other people"? even ppl without SA tend to compare themselves with others. wut about media? it has a way of controlling society by making people want to be exactly like others! look at ads for make-up to look like a fashion model, running shoes to be as good as sports players, clothes to wear to "fit in" with everyone else. people constantly compare themselves to others without even knowing it, and its pretty inevitable! i do think that its not right to say that someone is better than u r. we r all equal. however, humans r not perfect and many envy others.
5) i do not jump into relationships or do anything that might be too socially overwhelming for me. i take my time and it usually takes more than a year of constantly being with someone to become good friends with them. i set goals but even when goin slow they just seem to get farther away. not everyone can be happy being alone. some people with SA love to talk and be around others, but they just cant until they get to kno someone very well. being alone can make people depressed, and can led to them being even more socially withdrawn and miserable. they might even take their life.
6) to overcome SA, many people need to get therapy from a pyschiatrist. they participate in cognitive behavioural therapy and often have prescribed medication to take away some of the anxiety. it is good for a person with SA to constantly be around their family and close friends or people who strongly understand and support them, especially people with a lot of patience. some people are lucky and get over their SA and are able to live happy, "normal" lives. some people suffer from social anxiety for years and despite all efforts, they never get better. Stay Strong <3
1) i have severe SA as well as selective mutism. i realize my condition and that i am the one that can do something about it. no matter what i do, what course of action i take or how long i do it for, it barely helps.
2) i have been trying to go slow and help myself for years. I have gradually went out to social events, but still not talking or anythin. I have persisted to maintain eye contact with ppl which i am pretty good at doing now. sometimes i even push myself to make small talk or ask a question when its absolutely necessary in social situations, but barely ever. however many "baby steps" i take, it only seems to get worse.
3) social anxiety forces me to think negatively about myself. all the time i feel as if im worthless and the thoughts in my head wont stop from telling me that im dumb, fat, ugly, and a failure. u know wut i really think about myself? none of that! i think im cute, i love my body and myself, im smart and get good grades, im polite and responsible and a wonderful person. but even though thats wut i think and i accept myself for who i am, its like my thoughts r arguing with me and keep trying to bring me back down and make me believe all those awful things.. its a constant struggle against myself.
4) how can u "stop looking at other people"? even ppl without SA tend to compare themselves with others. wut about media? it has a way of controlling society by making people want to be exactly like others! look at ads for make-up to look like a fashion model, running shoes to be as good as sports players, clothes to wear to "fit in" with everyone else. people constantly compare themselves to others without even knowing it, and its pretty inevitable! i do think that its not right to say that someone is better than u r. we r all equal. however, humans r not perfect and many envy others.
5) i do not jump into relationships or do anything that might be too socially overwhelming for me. i take my time and it usually takes more than a year of constantly being with someone to become good friends with them. i set goals but even when goin slow they just seem to get farther away. not everyone can be happy being alone. some people with SA love to talk and be around others, but they just cant until they get to kno someone very well. being alone can make people depressed, and can led to them being even more socially withdrawn and miserable. they might even take their life.
6) to overcome SA, many people need to get therapy from a pyschiatrist. they participate in cognitive behavioural therapy and often have prescribed medication to take away some of the anxiety. it is good for a person with SA to constantly be around their family and close friends or people who strongly understand and support them, especially people with a lot of patience. some people are lucky and get over their SA and are able to live happy, "normal" lives. some people suffer from social anxiety for years and despite all efforts, they never get better. Stay Strong <3
