I think we have much in common:
- i've been anti-social and never going out with anyone for decades (my entire life in fact)
- i've had problems with BDD, & still do on occasion
- i live in the south pacific also (your neighbour - new zealand)
- i can only handle jobs where my mind's energy is focussed on mental tasks (it keeps my mind "out of mischief" & on positives & off negatives & off personal matters & people shlt); for you, you can focus your energies on physical tasks & be okay
- i've gone overboard on my diet, obsessively recording eg every single finger of nutella from the jar! (in the end, it was too much work & too hard to keep up with my constant snacking/nibbling - like a rabbit!)
- very low success with relationships (for me, i have had zero relationships of any kind, not even short-term ... so 0% success for me)
- i tend to overwork myself (workaholic; can't stop; get obsessed with perfection/pedantism)