theslowesthand
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The Principle of Zero Effect: 99% of cures have a 99% failure rate (or 0% effect for 99/100 attempts, & 5% effect for 1/100 attempts).
Post your random thoughts/feelings etc
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theslowesthand
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'Change .. nothing stays the same' (apparently)
BlueDays
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Isn't there any new hobby/new interest you could take up? Or try some different things you think that you might enjoy, until you find one that could stir your interest for at least a while? To give your mind a break from your daily boredom?
I know that a lack of money can sometimes hold someone back from being able to take up a new hobby. That makes things more difficult. : /
theslowesthand
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One-by-one my interests have all gone by the wayside. Even porn barely interest me now. I figured that the cause is that my brain is becoming more boring, so that nothing external can stimulate/excite it anymore (but it was always mainly obsessions/compulsions that i've been "interested" in over the years anyways)
And lack of transport (as i live out in what-whats)
Somtimes i wonder if its due to lack of real social contact, as that seems to be a regular theme of my unmet desires. Tonight i just thought of a part-solution for boredom - go for a walk down my road in the dark; i just feel it would help. The only other solution i have in mind, is simply get drunk (& listen to hard rock music), which is what i'm doing right now.
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theslowesthand
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Megaten
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Maybe a pet could help. Sometimes other humans can be a lot of trouble lol...but yeah animals are smart enough to fill that interaction void plus they're a lot of work and can keep you busy. I want a dog, but unfortunately I still live with my folks and they loathe animals. Also dogs are great conversation icebreakers. If youre out with one, other animal lovers will want to engage you.
GraybeardGhost
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All of my friends, with only one exception, have failed me in the last 24 hours. I am alone in the world, and I don't like it. :sad:
theslowesthand
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I'm thinkin now, that perhaps why i drink (to feel better) is to blot-out the effects of neglecting certain basic emotional/social needs. Been reading up about boredom, and loneliness, and apparently it's common for people to use alcohol, drugs, diversions, work, comfort eating, .. to escape their problems, instead of trying to tackle them head-on.
But even if say, i know that i'm seriously lacking connection with people, my AvPD won't allow me to do SWEET F*CK-ALL about it!!! :kickingmyself:
But even if say, i know that i'm seriously lacking connection with people, my AvPD won't allow me to do SWEET F*CK-ALL about it!!! :kickingmyself:
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theslowesthand
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I sympathize with how you feel, it's the biggest reason I don't date at all. Social phobia is a big enough bias towards people, having that bias confirmed by people that actually do you wrong are just nails in the coffin.
There's no real advice I can offer you, I would if I had any success in the area. Just take it easy for now and try again whenever you have the mind and energy to do so.
Some definitely do, but at the same time there's also many that don't out of integrity. I've been sent from many a therapist because they simply didn't know what to do with me.
A lousy therapist will just spew what they've been taught based on symptoms, a good therapist will apply what they know about the structure of the mind and deduce not only how the patient thinks and feels. but also what it would take to undo the damage in an efficient way for doctor and patient.
But I can only imagine this requires a level of interpretation that not every therapist is able to achieve - at least not easily.
While billable hours make them money, so does a good reputation.
What's wrong, Gray? I know we're not exactly close, but if you want to get something off your chest or whatever, send me a PM. I mean, if you want.
SilentAndShy
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I made the decision to get married because I'd had enough of the questions and now with married life in full flow, I wished I'd stayed as I was. I miss my old life
Married life for me is normal. For my wife and other people, it's boring and introverted. I just can't break the cycle, too inhibited by the home environment and I just want to go on a train far away.. add in other issues..
Married life for me is normal. For my wife and other people, it's boring and introverted. I just can't break the cycle, too inhibited by the home environment and I just want to go on a train far away.. add in other issues..
Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
Apparently me lifting dumbell weights and doing my pedal exerciser for half an hour each per day is a bit obsessive? Or so my mum tells me. And there wus me thinkin' it's just me tryin' to keep fit. Wrong was I! 
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theslowesthand
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Nah, its not obsessive! What's she oan about? 30 mins is simply a good amount of daily exercise (i do 20-30 mins exercise (walking/steps) most days). That reminds me, i must get back to doing workouts.Apparently me lifting dumbell weights and doing my pedal exerciser for half an hour each per day is a bit obsessive? Or so my mum tells me. And there wus me thinkin' it's just me tryin' to keep fit. Wrong was I!
Pacific_Loner
Pirate from the North Pole
I've been watching a couple of crime documentaries lately and it appears that the media has been outrageously and repeatedly guilty of not double checking their facts and intentionnally misleading the people with sensational headlines and exagerated (or simply false) statements to sell more newspapers or get better ratings, since a very long time.
It's already obvious when you read most newspaper and double-check the facts yourself, but seeing the consequences caused by this lack of professionalism in these documentaries, it doesn't seem so innocent anymore.
It's already obvious when you read most newspaper and double-check the facts yourself, but seeing the consequences caused by this lack of professionalism in these documentaries, it doesn't seem so innocent anymore.
BlueDays
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That is in no way "obsessive", GraemeApparently me lifting dumbell weights and doing my pedal exerciser for half an hour each per day is a bit obsessive? Or so my mum tells me. And there wus me thinkin' it's just me tryin' to keep fit. Wrong was I!
h: You're doing healthy physical activity!
Maybe she feels guilty that she doesn't do enough healthy physical activity, so criticizing you for doing it makes her feel better. :idontknow:
Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
That is in no way "obsessive", Graeme
You're doing healthy physical activity!
Thank you... I've been tellin' her that, but she just dismisses me and says I'm "over-doing" it.
You're definitely right about the criticism, but I think that goes deeper, since my mum's a right dour-faced, control-freak at times. And she's only like that with me. Telling me what to do, treating me like a child all the time. Yet, she throws a hissy fit when or if criticism is leveled at her, but doesnae mind giving it out. Like to think she does no wrong - my sisters are the same.
And my mum doesn't get any physical activity, because she's overweight and doesn't want to take steps to change that, even in her 60s. Oh, she will walk around a supermarket for ages, buying nearly everything that's 2 for 1 or a half-price offer. Other than that, she just lies on the living room couch, either sleeping or watching TV. And accusing me of being buly when I ask her why she's not more active. Except, of course, when my older sister - the middle child - pay a visit from Ireland - then she's never off her feet. Always helping when asked and so on.
But with me, she can't be bothered. Or she just assumes help is expected since I'm disabled. :sad: :kickingmyself:
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Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
Ah don't know... Oh, and aside from the weights and pedal exerciser, I'm walking up and down a flight of spiral stairs, to use the bathroom and get something from the kitchen. And my mum always complains about this as well, as it hurts her legs. There's nae consideration for the strain on my legs, like - you'd think so with my cerebral palsy, but nah!
That's why ah don't complain about anythin', my family always make it about them, whenever I do.
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Opaline
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I feel kind of sad that I joined this site almost six years ago and it seems so different now - less active. Or maybe it's just that I've changed so much since I joined and coming here reminds me of how I was when I joined and it seems so strange. Or maybe both.
I've gotten a lot out of this site, though. The only other internet place I've met people that changed my life so much were two FB groups, and even those friendships didn't really last. I have friends from here who I think I will always be friends with, and I met my closest friend here - in person too (hello, if you read this by the way, FRIEND ).
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm............
I've gotten a lot out of this site, though. The only other internet place I've met people that changed my life so much were two FB groups, and even those friendships didn't really last. I have friends from here who I think I will always be friends with, and I met my closest friend here - in person too (hello, if you read this by the way, FRIEND
).Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm............
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