How do you avoid getting into an argument with someone? Lately at my house there have been little arguments every single day, which eventually lead to big arguments when the tension has built up and people flip out on each other. Since my other sister moved back and it's added one more voice/opinion to the house, I've made it my goal to try to put my pride aside and not react to petty things like people's tone of voice or little jabs, but sometimes I still lose my cool because I can only take so much.
You can't avoid every argument I suppose, but I'm pretty sure I could avoid 99% of them if I just knew what I was doing wrong. Even when I say explicitly I want to avoid an argument or I don't want to talk about this anymore, the other person gets pissed off. Should I just ignore that, too? Then I look like the bad guy (er... girl). If they're pissed off and I'm not reacting to it, that isn't an argument, but I still feel guilty. Sometimes when I've kept a completely neutral expression and said in a flat voice, "I'm not going to say anything," that's seemed to work, but again if the person gets pissed off about it I feel guilty. Not my fault... right?