Post your random thoughts/feelings etc

[MikeyC]

Renovations start in 8 days. I have a lot of work to do between now and then, and fear opening my world up to someone else even if it is my sister.

If it's your sister, and the two of you get along quite well, then I see no reason why anything bad can come out of this. Opening up a world you keep hidden will be scary, but you may feel better afterwards. Good luck with it.

 

[singing-love]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uKBtuw7nQws



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Stupid youtube name I know but it was my daughter's idea. Video's were taken at work but my name and company name on my shirt are masking taped over for anonymity purposes.

That's funny . You have an awesome accent by the way [emoji106]

 

[Kiwong]

If it's your sister, and the two of you get along quite well, then I see no reason why anything bad can come out of this. Opening up a world you keep hidden will be scary, but you may feel better afterwards. Good luck with it.

Thanks MikeyC and you're right, it will dig me out of one big hole. Once I get through this, I won't be embarrassed to open up my place to other people as well.

And it opens up the potential to sell and move somewhere better.

Politically and in terms of interests we're poles apart. And she loves to throw things out. I on other the hand attach sentimental value to things. So I have a lot of work going through things sorting out want I want to keep and what I don't, and to be strong about that.

I've spent most of today getting rid of old clothes, books, magazines, boxes to the charity bin and recycling bin. There is also a lot of rubbish in the bin.

 

[MikeyC]

Thanks MikeyC and you're right, it will dig me out of one big hole. Once I get through this, I won't be embarrassed to open up my place to other people as well.

And it opens up the potential to sell and move somewhere better.

Politically and in terms of interests we're poles apart. And she loves to throw things out. I on other the hand attach sentimental value to things. So I have a lot of work going through things sorting out want I want to keep and what I don't, and to be strong about that.

I've spent most of today getting rid of old clothes, books, magazines, boxes to the charity bin and recycling bin. There is also a lot of rubbish in the bin.

Are you planning to move out of Coffs? Isn't that a beautiful part of the coast? Or maybe you're too close to see it. I met a woman in Canberra who said she loves Wollongong, which I found strange, but I'm possibly too close, haha.

If your sister is demanding you throw out highly valued items, stick to your guns and tell her you want to keep them. While they may seem like insignificant bric-a-brac to others, they hold value to you. It's all up to you, though, what you want to keep and what you want to discard.

 

[Kiwong]

Are you planning to move out of Coffs? Isn't that a beautiful part of the coast? Or maybe you're too close to see it. I met a woman in Canberra who said she loves Wollongong, which I found strange, but I'm possibly too close, haha.

If your sister is demanding you throw out highly valued items, stick to your guns and tell her you want to keep them. While they may seem like insignificant bric-a-brac to others, they hold value to you. It's all up to you, though, what you want to keep and what you want to discard.

The possibility is to move somewhere better in Coffs, maybe a house, somewhere with more privacy.

 

[MikeyC]

The possibility is to move somewhere better in Coffs, maybe a house, somewhere with more privacy.

I hope you can make that happen, mate.

 

[Hoppy]

Stupid youtube name I know but it was my daughter's idea. Video's were taken at work but my name and company name on my shirt are masking taped over for anonymity purposes.

Nice to see you. Also good to see you can do stupid things as well.:bigsmile:

And she loves to throw things out. I on other the hand attach sentimental value to things. So I have a lot of work going through things sorting out want I want to keep and what I don't, and to be strong about that.

I went through a massive cleaning out a two years ago, and one piece of advice I read that has helped me a lot: "Only keep things that are useful, beautiful or loved."

The people who inherit my stuff will probably wonder why there are stones in a box, but I am keeping them.

 

[dottie]

It's so weird. At work I did not feel shy/anxious tonight. I even had a confrontation with a thief who then had security called on her LOL. It's weird how comfortable I feel there in that public place... I love it! For someone who struggles with SP (I still do, in most situations) it's just crazy to be able to say that. It has a lot to do with my peers, really. A year and a half ago I was trapped in a bad job with an evil boss, feeling sick everyday... now, I am having fun at work.

 

[jc972]

Renovations start in 8 days. I have a lot of work to do between now and then, and fear opening my world up to someone else even if it is my sister.

That's gotta be kinda scary but I have faith in you :thumbup:

 

[jc972]

Politically and in terms of interests we're poles apart. And she loves to throw things out. I on other the hand attach sentimental value to things. So I have a lot of work going through things sorting out want I want to keep and what I don't, and to be strong about that.

I've spent most of today getting rid of old clothes, books, magazines, boxes to the charity bin and recycling bin. There is also a lot of rubbish in the bin.

It's hard for me to do this very thing. I have lots of books I've accumulated over the years that I couldn't bear to be rid of while they have no value to anyone but me. I have some sentimental things I won't ever part with, be it my favorite blue jeans from high school or a gift from someone dear to me that's dead now. I understand. I do believe that the more stuff a man owns, the more his stuff owns him. I've often thought about the minimalist lifestyle and one day I plan to pursue it when my kids are old enough to give them most of my possessions.

 

[jc972]

Nice to see you. Also good to see you can do stupid things as well.:bigsmile:



I went through a massive cleaning out a two years ago, and one piece of advice I read that has helped me a lot: "Only keep things that are useful, beautiful or loved."

The people who inherit my stuff will probably wonder why there are stones in a box, but I am keeping them.

You should see me on a motorcycle or on a dance floor lol. I second the cleaning out advice. :thumbup:

 

[jc972]

It's so weird. At work I did not feel shy/anxious tonight. I even had a confrontation with a thief who then had security called on her LOL. It's weird how comfortable I feel there in that public place... I love it! For someone who struggles with SP (I still do, in most situations) it's just crazy to be able to say that. It has a lot to do with my peers, really. A year and a half ago I was trapped in a bad job with an evil boss, feeling sick everyday... now, I am having fun at work.

Awesome! So proud of you! Did you tackle the thief and rough 'em up before the cops got there? ... I won't tell....

 

[BlackPuma]

It's so weird. At work I did not feel shy/anxious tonight. I even had a confrontation with a thief who then had security called on her LOL. It's weird how comfortable I feel there in that public place... I love it! For someone who struggles with SP (I still do, in most situations) it's just crazy to be able to say that. It has a lot to do with my peers, really. A year and a half ago I was trapped in a bad job with an evil boss, feeling sick everyday... now, I am having fun at work.

That's really great. The right influences can mean a lot.

Looks like something Fred Flintstone would be proud to own. :thumbup:

I feel his would be heavier, being made of stone and all.

So because we no longer live in the wild and no longer have to hide from hungry Lions or run from Grizzly Bears some of us need to find challenging life threatening experiences to keep the adrenaline flowing huh? :thinking:

"There is a risk of gagging on the cinnamon, especially if it forms a clump and clogs one's airways. Accidental inhalation of cinnamon can seriously damage the lungs[3] by causing inflammation and leading to infection."

......hmmm, I think I'll give that a miss.mg:

One would think something like skydiving would be a more unique, thrilling and admirable experience. Then again, I doubt most people consider the suffocation/damage aspect of the challenge.

But then there's also things like the Ice Bucket challenge, which I do like because it's essential a viral advert for charity.

 

[BlackPuma]

Man, I feel awful today. They painted the house yesterday and the place filled up with fumes. The fumes are mostly gone now, but now everything it came it contact with sticks quite heavily.

 

[kihira]

“Depression is humiliating.
It turns intelligent, kind people into zombies who can’t wash a dish or change their socks. It affects the ability to think clearly, to feel anything, to ascribe value to your children, your lifelong passions, your relative good fortune. It scoops out your normal healthy ability to cope with bad days and bad news, and replaces it with an unrecognizable sludge that finds no pleasure, no delight, no point in anything outside of bed. You alienate your friends because you can’t comport yourself socially, you risk your job because you can’t concentrate, you live in moderate squalor because you have no energy to stand up, let alone take out the garbage. You become pathetic and you know it. And you have no capacity to stop the downward plunge. You have no perspective, no emotional reserves, no faith that it will get better. So you feel guilty and ashamed of your inability to deal with life like a regular human, which exacerbates the depression and the isolation.
Depression is humiliating.
If you’ve never been depressed, thank your lucky stars and back off the folks who take a pill so they can make eye contact with the grocery store cashier. No one on earth would choose the nightmare of depression over an averagely turbulent normal life.
It’s not an incapacity to cope with day to day living in the modern world. It’s an incapacity to function. At all. If you and your loved ones have been spared, every blessing to you. If depression has taken root in you or your loved ones, every blessing to you, too.
Depression is humiliating.
No one chooses it. No one deserves it. It runs in families, it ruins families. You cannot imagine what it takes to feign normalcy, to show up to work, to make a dentist appointment, to pay bills, to walk your dog, to return library books on time, to keep enough toilet paper on hand, when you are exerting most of your capacity on trying not to kill yourself. Depression is real. Just because you’ve never had it doesn’t make it imaginary. Compassion is also real. And a depressed person may cling desperately to it until they are out of the woods and they may remember your compassion for the rest of their lives as a force greater than their depression. Have a heart. Judge not lest ye be judged.”
from here
Neurolove.me

 

[dottie]

Awesome! So proud of you! Did you tackle the thief and rough 'em up before the cops got there? ... I won't tell....

Haha no my boss saw her stuff a bunch of stuff in her purse and told me to keep an eye on her. So I walked down the aisle right next to her cart and made it no secret I was watching her. SO SICK OF THIEVES IN OUR STORE. People will look you in the eye while they stuff things in their pocket and walk out the door. I had it happen again later that night. Don't you know liberals are entitled to all freebies? This is America, they not thievez, they victimz. Da po-leese and deez corprashunz keepin the man down, duh. Anyway, she got mad and had to be escorted out by security LOL

That's really great. The right influences can mean a lot.

Yes! Good people make so much difference.

 

[Lavinialuna]

“Depression is humiliating.
It turns intelligent, kind people into zombies who can’t wash a dish or change their socks. It affects the ability to think clearly, to feel anything, to ascribe value to your children, your lifelong passions, your relative good fortune. It scoops out your normal healthy ability to cope with bad days and bad news, and replaces it with an unrecognizable sludge that finds no pleasure, no delight, no point in anything outside of bed. You alienate your friends because you can’t comport yourself socially, you risk your job because you can’t concentrate, you live in moderate squalor because you have no energy to stand up, let alone take out the garbage. You become pathetic and you know it. And you have no capacity to stop the downward plunge. You have no perspective, no emotional reserves, no faith that it will get better. So you feel guilty and ashamed of your inability to deal with life like a regular human, which exacerbates the depression and the isolation.
Depression is humiliating.
If you’ve never been depressed, thank your lucky stars and back off the folks who take a pill so they can make eye contact with the grocery store cashier. No one on earth would choose the nightmare of depression over an averagely turbulent normal life.
It’s not an incapacity to cope with day to day living in the modern world. It’s an incapacity to function. At all. If you and your loved ones have been spared, every blessing to you. If depression has taken root in you or your loved ones, every blessing to you, too.
Depression is humiliating.
No one chooses it. No one deserves it. It runs in families, it ruins families. You cannot imagine what it takes to feign normalcy, to show up to work, to make a dentist appointment, to pay bills, to walk your dog, to return library books on time, to keep enough toilet paper on hand, when you are exerting most of your capacity on trying not to kill yourself. Depression is real. Just because you’ve never had it doesn’t make it imaginary. Compassion is also real. And a depressed person may cling desperately to it until they are out of the woods and they may remember your compassion for the rest of their lives as a force greater than their depression. Have a heart. Judge not lest ye be judged.”
from here
Neurolove.me

I just read an article yesterday about what happens to your brain when you are depressed (parts of it literally shrink ) No one should ever judge, this is a physical ailment, and it needs to be treated as such. We need to find the root cause, only then will we be able to fix it. Praying for a breakthrough!

 

[Hoppy]

An interesting fact:

patients with depression showed a significant impairment in the ability to recognize facial expressions, and that the impairment was most pronounced at subtle, but clearly recognizable emotional facial stimuli representing low arousal. Furthermore, depressed patients were found to make more misattribution errors of neutral and low arousal facial expressions in the direction of high arousal emotions. We conclude that the inability to accurately recognize nonemotional and emotional facial expressions along with the tendency for more attributions to the high arousal emotions can represent 2 basic contributing factors to the well-documented social problems of patients with depression.

 

[Lavinialuna]

OMG, I just read this and the symptom list could have directly been written about me. It's scary. It is possibly the cause for social withdrawal in some. I think I may have solved a riddle, and I will take the supplements and let all of you know ASAP. There is a quiz if you're interested. I actually have 1/2 an ounce of hope right now.

Pyroluria - A Hidden Disorder

 

[Kiwong]

I hope you can make that happen, mate.

Thanks MikeyC

It's hard for me to do this very thing. I have lots of books I've accumulated over the years that I couldn't bear to be rid of while they have no value to anyone but me. I have some sentimental things I won't ever part with, be it my favorite blue jeans from high school or a gift from someone dear to me that's dead now. I understand. I do believe that the more stuff a man owns, the more his stuff owns him. I've often thought about the minimalist lifestyle and one day I plan to pursue it when my kids are old enough to give them most of my possessions.

Yes, my accumulations are similar, I have belongings that link me bank to memories of my parents, I still own all my toy soldiers that remind me of my peaceful childhood, I have results and newspaper clippings of my running races from over 20 years ago, I keep shoes and clothes that I used in my favourite races and fun runs.

Sometimes the future is so painful that is good to escape for a while into memories of the past that were kinder to me.

I went through a massive cleaning out a two years ago, and one piece of advice I read that has helped me a lot: "Only keep things that are useful, beautiful or loved."

They're good criteria Hoppy. Things I find beautiful and loved might be hard for people to understand. Like the old white carry bag that is in a photo of me and my mum at the end of the City to Surf race in 1984.