I hope I don't offend anyone with this. For me I find a lot of women attractive, if any woman has quite a nice figure I could definitely be interested in them if I like their personality. The only turn off in terms of looks in women are women who are significantly obese. It doesn't put me off if they are a bit overweight, but it does when they are lot overweight.
The two women I have liked the most in recent times, at first sight I was not attracted to them by how they looked at all. They were just average looking women. But they had the most amazing personality, just so cool to chat to, interesting, nice natured, intelligent, etc. After a while I just thought they were so cool and desirable.
But from what I have seen, most people seem to be a lot more particular about looks than what I am. I've seen so many examples of men and women equally only interested in people who they were very attracted to purely by looks.
I have this friend at work who is a good looking guy and I am not joking, at least 6 women have emailed him at work (they had never spoken to him before) and asked him out saying they thought he was hot.
I just cannot believe that looks isn't what its all about for people. Its like this woman I used to work opposite, she was nothing special in terms of looks but she admitted she was shallow and she said she would only ever date guys who were in her eyes gorgeous looking. She said any guy who is just a nice guy but she didn't find great looking are just friends. That to me seems like the reality of what I have seen and experienced.
I know guys who think the same about women too. I am not for a minute implying women are any more shallow than men, I think its equal.
But me believing this that looks are so important combined with the fact I was always put down about how I looked in the past, it just makes me feel so inadequate and not good enough. I just don't believe I am good enough for anyone. I hate thinking this way.