razzle dazzle rose
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It is still too early for me, and I won't express myself as eloquently as I want to, but there are just some things I have to address here and I just have to try.
So a girl is either a slut or a good girl. Yeah...that was my whole argument. That premise is so unfair. Not just for women, but for men as well.
A woman being seen as a "slut" is the equivalent of a guy being seen as a "nice guy". Both are seen negatively by society. Neither is fair, but in this comparison, women have it much worse. We have had to do a lot of fighting for the freedoms we now enjoy. Sadly, in many parts of the world, women still have second-class citizen status, and in some countries women are still seen as property that can be destroyed if the male in her life so chooses to. The amount of abuse women experience is unreal. Women are raped, beaten, murdered, forced into prostitution, many times by the very men they loved. Women experience a lot of violence. So is all that our fault? Like, really? Women don't have to dress slutty to get raped either. Rape is all about power. If you look at a lot of pictures from slut walks, the women are wearing normal "good girl" clothes, not even showing cleavage or exposing leg or anything. And they were still raped. A lot of people use that "slutty dress" to excuse the real perpetrators. Why do they get off the hook here? It is so baffling.
A woman can have self-respect and dress however she wants, and yes, even be a "slut" and sleep around if she so chooses. Some women may be more conservative in their dress and may choose to wait till marriage to have sex for the first time and that is okay too. Some may choose a little bit of both. To each their own. If some could have their way, all women would be in hijab garb...
Yes, Phocas, that is right on. This is what women are fighting for. There can be change. There is change all the time. Victims don't have to do the changing, the perpetrators do! We should focus on the abusers. They need to make the changes. They are in the wrong. Why all this focus on the victims? As a victim myself, it makes me incredibly sad and a bit disheartened that some people still place the blame on us. I suppose not all can have a change of heart, but we won't give up trying. The fight must go on.
I was this close to getting a degree in woman's studies but I majored in literature instead. This is a subject I am passionate about. I have been thinking about going back to school, and seeing how animated I got with this thread, I think I totally should go for it![Smile :) :)](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)
It depends on the girl you are after.
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It depend what girl you are looking for.
So a girl is either a slut or a good girl. Yeah...that was my whole argument. That premise is so unfair. Not just for women, but for men as well.
A woman being seen as a "slut" is the equivalent of a guy being seen as a "nice guy". Both are seen negatively by society. Neither is fair, but in this comparison, women have it much worse. We have had to do a lot of fighting for the freedoms we now enjoy. Sadly, in many parts of the world, women still have second-class citizen status, and in some countries women are still seen as property that can be destroyed if the male in her life so chooses to. The amount of abuse women experience is unreal. Women are raped, beaten, murdered, forced into prostitution, many times by the very men they loved. Women experience a lot of violence. So is all that our fault? Like, really? Women don't have to dress slutty to get raped either. Rape is all about power. If you look at a lot of pictures from slut walks, the women are wearing normal "good girl" clothes, not even showing cleavage or exposing leg or anything. And they were still raped. A lot of people use that "slutty dress" to excuse the real perpetrators. Why do they get off the hook here? It is so baffling.
Once a woman realise that she is worth a million and can say that to herself, she wouldnt be a slut. Its all about self-respect.
A woman can have self-respect and dress however she wants, and yes, even be a "slut" and sleep around if she so chooses. Some women may be more conservative in their dress and may choose to wait till marriage to have sex for the first time and that is okay too. Some may choose a little bit of both. To each their own. If some could have their way, all women would be in hijab garb...
I mean, it isnt going to change, if it was about rapist. Rapist aint going to stop because u suddenly dress even more slutty than usual, it just silly. But, like that lady mentioned in the vid, what isit they are really fighting for?
Yes, but it's unfortunate that people are victimised for being perceived as 'slutty', the issue should stand with the perpetrators, not the victims
Yes, Phocas, that is right on. This is what women are fighting for. There can be change. There is change all the time. Victims don't have to do the changing, the perpetrators do! We should focus on the abusers. They need to make the changes. They are in the wrong. Why all this focus on the victims? As a victim myself, it makes me incredibly sad and a bit disheartened that some people still place the blame on us. I suppose not all can have a change of heart, but we won't give up trying. The fight must go on.
I was this close to getting a degree in woman's studies but I majored in literature instead. This is a subject I am passionate about. I have been thinking about going back to school, and seeing how animated I got with this thread, I think I totally should go for it