Needing a Girlfriend & a Job is the same

[mikebird]

Once you have one of those, it's easier to get the other.

Somehow, you can get one, if you're lucky, but rejection can happen at anytime.

It's not fair when you don't get a chance to nurture the relationship, when the other gives up easily, doesn't make any effort, and they think they can do better.

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

They do say that...especially right now in this job market. Prospective employers want to hire people that are already employed or have only been unemployed for a short while. Very disheartening for those that have been looking for work for years with no luck. Gotta keep trying though!

 

[Section_31]

Its not a fair system. Theres so much i could say but i dont feel this is the place for political venting.

Suffice to say, i unfortunately am forced to agree.

 

[Luke1993]

How will having a girlfriend make it easier to get a job? I can understand the opposite though.

 

[Tiercel]

Maybe having a girlfriend would give one a helpful boost in self confidence, which could definitely give one a better chance at finding a job.

Not to mention the feeling that someone actually cares about one, and that one is worthy.

 

[Section_31]

I think Tiercel put it the most accurately.

Knowing my hunny is with me makes me feel like i can accomplish anything.

Before that, i second guessed everything i did, and never took any risks.

They say you shuoldnt be dependent on a person. Maybe not, but given what we with S/A have been given, ill take whatever i can get and turn it into a strength.

 

[-lonestar-]

I think a job is necessary to live independently, thus money allows for the oportunity to date, can't date someone if you can't have fun. Fun = money atleast datingwise, I always wondered how awesome it would be to come home from such a harsh day at work dealing with all the dumb people to the safety of my own place and a girl there to cheer me up and give her the same love. To keep us both sane and apreciated in a world that barely makes sense.

 

[Richey]

All you can do is try and work towards a job. I agree that nobody is 100% assured steady employment at all, this is true in the current recession. This is what i have learnt and really its ideal if you can find a place to work and stay there as long as you can but that isn't always how it goes. If you can work for a family member its a bonus, if you have good networks even better, if you live in an area that has lots of opportunity and jobs then good.

I was reading a book the other say and it clearly states that people need no equate their self worth to their circumstances because if you do then your self belief is dictated by external uncertainties. Nothing is entirely certain. So you just have to rewire your mind to believe in yourself fully without your status/circumstances getting the better of you.

 

[Hamelech]

Who wants only a woman?

5. Madamina, il catalogo è questo - Allen, Te Kanawa (Don Giovanni ROH'88) - YouTube

 

[thor01]

I wouldn't want a girlfriend even if I could hah. Its enough to deal with myself. And although I have no experiene in this, I judt imagine that once you become "together" in that way, after a while you just get treated like normal rathr than it feeling special all the time haha, and the arguments start, and the girls will look for others hah. But I guess I know nothing in this area other than guessing and viewing others hah.

I know thats abit hypocrytical maybe in some peoples view to say that, and then complain that I don't get the things that come with having a girlfiend hah, but oh well.

If I had to get a job eventually i'd be fine with something small, even boring and repetetive, like lifting things hah, out of anything. These jobs are available. And it would suit me much better than a "career" type job. So that I could put my focus/energy into what I'm passionate about.

 

[JamesSmith]

I've been employed for a lot of my life and I've only had one g/f. I think the employment thing is overrated. I have friends that are chronic liars, thieves and are constantly unemployed yet they are always in a relationship with a woman.

Social confidence is far more important than employment for men to get women imo.

 

[thor01]

I've been employed for a lot of my life and I've only had one g/f. I think the employment thing is overrated. I have friends that are chronic liars, thieves and are constantly unemployed yet they are always in a relationship with a woman.

Social confidence is far more important than employment for men to get women imo.

True I guess.

About the second point though. I'm not interesed in even trying to be more "socially confident" even if thats what you need to do to get a girlfriend. I guess since I dont want a girlfriend anyway really I'll survive hah. If I dd want one, they would have to put up with/accept how I was anyway hah.

 

[recluse]

I've been employed for a lot of my life and I've only had one g/f. I think the employment thing is overrated. I have friends that are chronic liars, thieves and are constantly unemployed yet they are always in a relationship with a woman.

Social confidence is far more important than employment for men to get women imo.

My sister was married to a horrible monster of a man who bled her bank account dry, mentally abused her and soon after my sister divorced him he got jailed for sexually abusing the kids of his new girlfriend

It just makes me mad that alpha male/abusers always get women.

 

[Felgen]

Since when does alpha male equal abuser? In a large pack of animals, there's ONE alpha male and if he acts like a dick or deprives other members of their right to f*ck, he'll be overthrown.

 

[thor01]

My sister was married to a horrible monster of a man who bled her bank account dry, mentally abused her and soon after my sister divorced him he got jailed for sexually abusing the kids of his new girlfriend

It just makes me mad that alpha male/abusers always get women.

When I observe this I just try and disconnect from it more and just think......well they can have their idiots if thats what they want. We can only be us hah.
I understand its hard though.
The world seems to work in stupid ways sometimes. But it doesn't have to be that way I guess hah.

And yeah Felgen, I don't think they are all "abusers". But usualy "idiots" in some way or another to me hahah. Or atleast make me think, uggh I don't wanna be like that hah, Even if they're abit more intelligent. Overall hah.

 

[-lonestar-]

Sometimes I wonder if just getting girls to sleep with me is better than ending up in a relationship where EVENTUALLY you just become two people bored of the same rutine, where everything has been done to death and you miss being alone lmao.

I also try to hold on to the belief that the only person you should be with is the person who doesn't want to change you and just likes you as you are, probably hard to find, in wich case learn to be happy by yourself.

Just never settle for someone because you think being lonely is sad, being lonely is great if you feel comfortable with it.

Never follow guilines to how to live life just live it how you like it, or atleast to the most comfortable way you can live, because it eventually ends so why worry about perfection, perfection is a myth.

Being shy is a rote in te mind, jut be yu don't worry who likes whaat yo sy, part of living is trial and error! or so I try and tell myself lol

 

[schist]

Since when does alpha male equal abuser? In a large pack of animals, there's ONE alpha male and if he acts like a dick or deprives other members of their right to f*ck, he'll be overthrown.

Exactly. Alpha male =/= douchebag.

 

[TheRadicalAnxiousLefty]

I feel ya. I have trouble finding work, and I don't approach girls at all. I lack the enthusiasm, and I am too scared. I have this firmly entrenched belief in my mind that I am not good enough, and it would be a horrible burden on women if I approached them.

 

[thor01]

I agree -lonestar-! For me personally with most it

 

[fitftw]

I haven't had a job in 2.5 years. I've been with my roommate/girlfriend (we don't kiss, I think it's gross, that's another story) for a year now.

It's nice to have sex and not go to work.