Anyways, I wanted to suggest or ask something but doing so will be taking the risk of offending you or being completely wrong and sounding dumb, but it was the first thing that came to my mind......Are you sure he is attracted to girls physically? As a 26 year old guy I can assure you that our libido is quite high and I would be lying if I said sex wasn't the only thing on my mind most of the time. When I am working out daily my libido is even higher than usual also and you mentioned he goes to the gym and maintains his looks.....I don't know to me that just made me wonder. I may be coming off as a homophobe here but I can assure you all I have nothing against gays or anything. That was just the first thought that went through my head after reading this.
I'm really not sure I should say this...which probably means I shouldn't...but **** it i'm gonna say it anyway...have you considered the possibility that your bf is in the closet? Or if you're sure he isn't maybe you should probably get him to a doctor to figure out what's wrong with him.
While I don't discount this as a possibility, I don't believe it to be true at this time. Unless, of course, he is not conscious of it himself.
The way he describes our problem is that he doesn't always feel able to act on his desires. There is just some sort of inhibition that somehow grew between us, and neither of us seems to know what is causing it. He insists that he is attracted to me, but I think he is confusing physical affection and appreciation for actual sexual attraction. He thinks I am beautiful and tells me so and does nice things for me, but seems to lack the need for intimacy.
It could be depression. It could be, simply, an uncommonly low libido for a 25 year old man. Or maybe there are other, deeper issues that we need to work out. He said he was going to look into couple's counseling, but hasn't mentioned it again since then. Perhaps I will ask him about it tonight.
At any rate, it's not something I want to leave him over. I've had lots of fun in the past and if I'm doomed to a boring sex life from now on so that I can live with my best friend, then so be it. I'd rather be happy with what happens between us naturally than to keep trying to force the issue. We'll see how that goes for now.