my lifes over

[THE-INTROVERT]

i ii have no porpose anymore theres no point i just cant bare it im unemployed an unemployable i dont want thier money anymore everyone looks down on me even my own parents why is life like this ii have no motavation i have barely left my room since sunday night ive avoided my parents since then i dont want to speak to anyone i want to die i just want it to end im a burden for everyone theres nothing were i live only unemployment and drugs and fighting people on here will say move i cant move if i have little money all i want to do is sleep and i cant to that at times sleep is the best escape imo

 

[EasySkanking]

Hey man, don't give up. Things look like crap right now, but that's how things are with SA. For what it's worth, life sucks for most [normal] people as well. Life is hard, but that's life. What are you gonna do about it? Cry? Why? When you can make something of it, have some fun (even in a ****ty way).

"Giving up" is unnecesary, and such a waste of a life. You're still young dude it seems, things will get better . But like I said, life sucks anyway for most people, so don't feel like you're the only one

 

[Feathers]

Honey, take a rest if you need it...

You said drugs - I hope you're not using them-??

Unemployment can suck, a lot of people worldwide have problems with that..
Know you are not the only one, many on this forum or on other forums have had that problem too.. And most other people 'out there' too, at one time or the other...

Is there anything that could make you more employable? Like taking a course or something? There are programs for people who have been unemployed for a while (1 year in my country, and the employer also gets a lot of money to employ you, so that's their incentive) is there something like that over there? Can you check?

Even if you don't officially work right now, you can do volunteering or 'build your empire' and knowledge about biz or freelancing or such..

Also, this will sound really crazy but hey, it's an option - some guys get 'sugar mamas' or look for them openly on Plenty of Fish or other dating sites? (Some women also might not mind supporting a man, apparently.)

You can even go travel with little or no money, check out Hospitality Club or Couchsurfing or such.. Of course it's good to research it well and use wisdom in where you stay and how.. Ideally go with someone or stay with someone you know a bit, at least from online.. (There are forums there too, so you can get to know people a bit...)

So, the world is full of options.. Just take a nap or go see a Japanese drama or something and maybe tomorrow it will feel all better?

 

[panicsurvivor]

Sometimes life is overwhelmingly negative isn't it? We get dealt ****ty cards, and others get dealt good ones. Its like there are so many things wrong with your life it doesn't seem like there is any way that can fix it. There is no way you can move without money. There is no way that you can get money with out a job. There is no way you can get a job without going out. There is no way you can have any friends without going out. There is no way!!!
I am very sorry. I have been there.
What you need to do, is think of it like a room that needs to be cleaned that is completely trashed. I mean Trashed!!! Dirty clothes everywhere, Stains on the sheets and cutains, gum in the carpet, cigarette burns on the walls ect...ect..
You are not going to be able to clean this room fast. You are going to have to take one step at a time. And it is going to be hard. I am sorry but from what you have explained about your situation it is definately going to require some work. Its is not going to be easy. But if you are strong and take one step at a time, you will feel pretty good about yourself for having done it. Lets face it the best kinds of heroes are the ones that overcome huge odds, to survive and win.
Back to the room. You need to start somewhere right? Well in a room like that I would say the first thing to do would be to get rid of all the big garbage first. This would seem to me that you should start by leaving your room. Start small, just go for a walk around your house. But to get anything done, jobs, school, friends, moving, happiness, anything, the first step is to start getting out. The first step is always the hardest. But keep trying. Find something inside you, and hold it close to your heart.
I hope you can try.
I hope you will.
Once you take a few steps, you will start to build momentum it will get easier.
But you have to want to do it first. Good luck.

 

[THE-INTROVERT]

but all my friends look down on me i dont want to be around people like that anymore i give up completly ill never be anything i miye aswell die what is the point i live in a ****ty country oh and by the way all everyone thinks about is drugs and themselves im telling you the sort of people im dealing with im dealing with the sort of people who dont want to know you unless you got what they want i guarentee if i used drugs they would be around me like a pack rats looking for some you see no one cares society sucks ive had enough watch me rot

 

[Feathers]

Then you just need to meet some different people!!

My ex boyfriend used drugs and lied to me, that's why I dumped him!!

A friend also used drugs, I was very sorry for him, but I was told for the ex bf already that I can't help him alone, he needs expert help, the best you can do is to not let'em drag you down..

Do you have relatives in a different city? Or somewhere you could study and maybe get a scholarship? (I don't know how old you are)

You can totally change places and can totally meet new people and start living differently!!

 

[DekKO]

I guess I don't have it as bad as some people...

 

[doubleM]

i know how u feel. but remember there are much worse places to be.

 

[Sial Axetder]

Cannot help much here. Anything said has a high probability of being ripped into negativity.

Clear the mind. Don't think. Clear it. Relax. Thinking, stop, clear, relax. Eyes closed works better for me. At best you may have a few moments of clear consciousness.

Keep fighting.

 

[lunaticbinge]

killing your body will not end your existence you will just got to a place you never seen in your worst nightmares and you will be there for ever

Yeah....i'm gonna have to go ahead and disagree with you there.

Religion is an opinion not a fact.

 

[Iseesky]

Stop feeling sorry for yourself...Right now! You're not a burden to other people, you're a burden to yourself. YOU are making your life hard. YOU are your worst problem!

People don't get anywhere in life by being negative. Clearly you have a bad situation going for you right now, but that doesn't mean you have to be defeated by it. It could be MUCH worse! You have parents and a home to live in...That's more than many people have and a reason to be very grateful!

Ditch your friends who don't appreciate you. It's impossible to live in a place where everyone is so...sketchy. You're saying that everyone in your town is a) addicted to drugs b) unemployed or c) into fighting? I don't think that's the truth. I'm sure there are plenty of people around like you. People who want to leave town and move somewhere else, but they just don't have the money and tools to do so!

You have no motivation, you say. Obviously you do because you've made this topic! You're motivated enough to come on here and seek help and that's fantastic! Clearly you want to meet new people and move out of the town that you hate so much. There you go! That's your motivation for living! Think of the steps to get there. To meet people you'll need to be more social. To be more social, you'll need to learn how to talk to people. To learn how to talk to people, you need to start by talking to your parents! Why not talk to them? I can understand why you wouldn't want to talk to them if they're awful people. But, let's assume they're fair, good parents. They've raised you up until this point. Get out of your house and do SMALL things to be more social. I don't know what your degree of anxiety is, but you need to get out of your comfort zone to make progress. Scare yourself silly by doing things. Each one will get you further and further in the right direction.

Same thing with earning money. Why are you unemployable? If they're legitimate reasons, then fix them! It may take time, but it's what you must do! Nothing is going to be easy! You don't need much to be employed at a fast food restaurant or grocery store.

You said you haven't left your room much since sunday. Why not? Make more of an effort to do so! Go downstairs and mingle with your family for a few hours. You don't have to talk to them, but be amongst them. Be pleasant to them. Be positive and kind.

I'm not sure what else to say...But to me, you seem like a functioning person who has potential to be what you want to be. You just aren't pushing yourself hard enough. Everyone struggles...Some more than others. You have to keep on keeping on. It's the only way you'll get anywhere. And I know you do want to get somewhere. Everyone on this site wants to better themselves and be the person they've always wanted to be. We have that and probably many other things in common.

 

[Solo Dolo]

Yeah....i'm gonna have to go ahead and disagree with you there.

Religion is an opinion not a fact.

LOL i totally agree with this

 

[Sial Axetder]

Yeah....i'm gonna have to go ahead and disagree with you there.

Religion is an opinion not a fact.

Correct, would give rep points. Spread the wealth.

 

[Silvox Black]

I recall that when I was depressed and troubled, hearing such positive comments telling me to cheer up or watch and the situation will improve drivel annoyed me. So I shall spare you the words that you most likely have already heard plenty of. However, I would like to learn more of your familial situation in order to give proper advice. Would you be willing to perhaps inform me? If not, I understand. I am not the most "warm" person anyone has ever met.

 

[coyote]

i ii have no porpose anymore theres no point i just cant bare it im unemployed an unemployable i dont want thier money anymore everyone looks down on me even my own parents why is life like this ii have no motavation i have barely left my room since sunday night ive avoided my parents since then i dont want to speak to anyone i want to die i just want it to end im a burden for everyone theres nothing were i live only unemployment and drugs and fighting people on here will say move i cant move if i have little money all i want to do is sleep and i cant to that at times sleep is the best escape imo

this is all going to sound like crap, but it's the truth:

things will change

they always change

nothing ever stays the same

that's the nature of our existence

you are very young - even though it doesn't feel like it to you

if my life had ended at any of the points I thought I wanted it to, I wouldn't be alive now to enjoy the many beautiful things I have now

you have no idea what lies beyond tomorrow - none of us do

but instead of looking back in sorrow at the past - work on preparing yourself for that brighter future you want

envision what it looks like, feels like, tastes like, to be the person you want to be

what does a person like that do? how does he act?

now start behaving that way

the rest will follow

 

[Diend]

i ii have no porpose anymore theres no point i just cant bare it im unemployed an unemployable i dont want thier money anymore everyone looks down on me even my own parents why is life like this ii have no motavation i have barely left my room since sunday night ive avoided my parents since then i dont want to speak to anyone i want to die i just want it to end im a burden for everyone theres nothing were i live only unemployment and drugs and fighting people on here will say move i cant move if i have little money all i want to do is sleep and i cant to that at times sleep is the best escape imo

Lose the drugs. Create your own purpose. Don't let society mess with you.

 

[EasySkanking]

this is all going to sound like crap, but it's the truth:

things will change

they always change

nothing ever stays the same

that's the nature of our existence

you are very young - even though it doesn't feel like it to you

if my life had ended at any of the points I thought I wanted it to, I wouldn't be alive now to enjoy the many beautiful things I have now

you have no idea what lies beyond tomorrow - none of us do

but instead of looking back in sorrow at the past - work on preparing yourself for that brighter future you want

envision what it looks like, feels like, tastes like, to be the person you want to be

what does a person like that do? how does he act?

now start behaving that way

the rest will follow

Wise, truthful words

Correct, would give rep points. Spread the wealth.

Okay, I'll do it then

 

[THE-INTROVERT]

I seeky in this day and age you actually need qulifications to work in a fast food place and i never will becuse its depressing if you cant be around people you cant be around people you cant be around people simple as that

 

[THE-INTROVERT]

Oh and get your facts right as i said theres unemployment not every one is unemployed name me one town un the world were every one is unemployed

 

[Aussie_Lad]

Only good part about work is the money, seriously. My parents don't want me living at their place, and the only way I can get by is to work a job that is the same old sh*t day in day out. If you can find a job that motivates you and inspires you then great, but you may find it is a case of "the grass is greener on the other side of the fence".