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Is there anything necessarily wrong with being a loner?
Is there anything necessarily wrong with being a loner?
I think im a lonely loner.::
i think it's alright being a loner(i am) but you have to have some friends you know? like what if you're in trouble or something....you need friends that are there to help you...it's okay to live a "lonely" life but you must at least have SOME friends/friend....i'm trying though but since i'm TOO used to being a loner,it's sort of hard to socialise and make friends plus the fact that i have SA,it's even tougher for me to find one...
logically there's nothing wrong with being a loner. Realisticly, 99.9% of us are conditioned to be a part of society, social groups, friendships, etc by parents, school and our social environment, so you have to be extremely determined to be a loner and be 100% content with yourself
Is there anything necessarily wrong with being a loner?
Yes there is. Human beings are meant to have relationships where they connect with other people. When they don't get enough of these relationships, which is what a loner does, they become depressed and lonely. I'm a loner. People that tell you they like being a loner are telling you that because they know that being a loner is the easier and safer option if you have an anxiety disorder. But the truth is, it's impossible to like being a loner for a long time. Humans aren't made for that. I don't like being a loner, it's just easier for me and I'm afraid to try to make friends again.
Have it. I loved it.You all should read the Party of One: Loner's Manifesto By Anneli Rufus.. it will help you accept your lonerness and show that NO you are not a freak or a uni-bomber.. its a really great book
I agree with this. I get enough by just going for walks. The very few friends I have (about 2) I'm extremely close to. And by just talking to them time to time fills my "craving" for conversation.I dont really agree.. People who are true loners are not unhappy with the way they are. I get enough social interacting by just going to the grocery store or watching people at the park. I deeply enjoy my silence and solitude..i dont feel like an outcast or condemned just because i don't choose to hang out with people often.
I agree with one of the above post that it is nice to be alone sometimes but not all the time prob go insane after a while.