I Never Get Any Attention From The Girls...

[spect01]

You ARE invisible to girls. I am myself. I've never gotten any interest from girls my age EVER. NO friendships with them either. The only way you will get acknowledged is if YOU do something. Otherwise you are invisible and you will continue to be. It's hard for me to do something, so I will always stay invisible.

 

[userremoved]

I see it every day. But I refuse to be an ******* and I don't know of any other way.

What is it that you're seeing exactly? Because I've been a bastard plenty of times and it's never worked for me lol. Our perception of reality is warped because of our problems so you'll have to excuse me if I'm a little sceptical on what you've seen these guys do.

 

[Interzone]

Yeah yeah yeah, whatever, nothing's changing anyways.

 

[userremoved]

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to call anyone out. It's just that you can't really fix a problem until you've identified exactly what it is. And a lot of people in the past have claimed the problem to be them not being mean or inconsiderate enough. But the problem is obviously the fact that most of us dont actively pursue women. And thats it. If you've got a social phobia, it's understandable if thats a difficult thing to do, but people have to realize its got little to do with this good/bad thing that keeps popping up. And I know that knowing where the problem is isn't going to make it easier to deal with, but at least when the time comes that you're ready to tackle it head on you wont get started in the wrong direction. I hope Im making sense here.

 

[Lexus199]

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to call anyone out. It's just that you can't really fix a problem until you've identified exactly what it is. And a lot of people in the past have claimed the problem to be them not being mean or inconsiderate enough. But the problem is ovbiously the fact that most of us dont actively pursue women. And thats it. If you've got a social phobia, it's understandable if thats a difficult thing to do, but people have to realize its got little to do with this good/bad thing that keeps popping up. And I know that knowing where the problem is isn't going to make it easier to deal with, but at least when the time comes that you're ready to tackle it head on you wont get started in the wrong direction. I hope Im making sense here.

This times one thousand. I think we can now all go home since that's been settled. In all seriousness though I really think jneal25 hit the nail right on the head. I mean I know that's often been the case with me in regards to girls.

P.S. Cool avatar btw, jneal25.

 

[Lionheart]

I do get sometimes attention of girls but I dont know what this means.I mean if they just talk about you when you are around them this doesnt mean they like you.they always say thinks like "Hey,(my name)is here and they smile or someting"

 

[Kiwong]

I don't mind being invisible to the opposite sex. I think I'd like women to act in a neutral way towards me. My interaction with the opposite sex has caused me a lot of pain over the years, and I am keen to be put it all behind me.

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

I don't wanna be an *******, which is what most guys seem to do in order to attract women.

Men who act like *******s do not get the right kind of attention. Last Saturday, while I was on my way out of the pub, a guy shouted out, "Hey, baby! Do you want some c***!?". The only thing attracted to him was my middle finger and I guarantee you that none of the other women around were planning on giving this guy their number even if he was very good looking.

 

[Remus]

Sounds like a drunken brit

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

Sounds like a drunken brit

He was a sober American. lol

 

[userremoved]

P.S. Cool avatar btw, jneal25.

Haha thanks

 

[mismeek]

Well, yeah, I've never really gotten any attention from any girls out there in the world. They all seem to just pass by, most of the time without even a look of acknowledgment. Sometimes I feel like I am invisible to the opposite sex.

I do have some self-confidence and self-image issues but I don't think I look that bad. Nor do I think I go about the world with a bad attitude. I try to look up, I try to keep a friendly demeanor most of the time yet I get nothing.

In the end, this lack of attention from the opposite sex only further hurts my self-esteem. I don't know what I am doing or not doing. I am not saying I want to be a "chick-magnet". But at least some genuine interest in me from opposite sex occasionally would be nice. I can't even get any on dating websites. Go figure.

Really, is this so much to ask for? And no, I do not smell bad and no, my appearance is not intimidating or anything.

are you attemping to attract their attention?

come on guys!! we arent some kind of mythical creature! we are just normal humans like you..which means that sometimes you need to get our attention.. stop assuming we just automatically see you.


i dunno about everyone else.. but im pretty oblivious to everything... >.>

 

[SeasonalBlues]

are you attemping to attract their attention?

come on guys!! we arent some kind of mythical creature! we are just normal humans like you..which means that sometimes you need to get our attention.. stop assuming we just automatically see you.

How do we get your attention? Give us some advice please.

 

[Feathers]

How do we get your attention? Give us some advice please.

Describe situation/s. It's different at school or at work or at a party or at a friend's flat...

Also describe girls you want to talk to - super hot girls or average or 'normal' or quirky or a tad geeky or SA/shy too or...? And what kind of interests do the girls have? What kind of guys they might appreciate.. All things to consider...

You approach a cheerleader differently than a musician... or mathematician.. Though some things can be general.. And books are written about these things, lol..

 

[mismeek]

Describe situation/s. It's different at school or at work or at a party or at a friend's flat...

Also describe girls you want to talk to - super hot girls or average or 'normal' or quirky or a tad geeky or SA/shy too or...? And what kind of interests do the girls have? What kind of guys they might appreciate.. All things to consider...

You approach a cheerleader differently than a musician... or mathematician.. Though some things can be general.. And books are written about these things, lol..

I agree.. all situations are different.. but sometimes simple "Hi" or "Hey cool backpack, necklace..etc."

I also have a couple of tips for picking up girls in the club... I dunno if these apply to you guys tho (do you guys club?). My guy friend created and perfected these moves and says they work nine times outta ten!

 

[SeasonalBlues]

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I also have a couple of tips for picking up girls in the club... I dunno if these apply to you guys tho (do you guys club?). My guy friend created and perfected these moves and says they work nine times outta ten!

I'm 18 in 3 months so i will then. Teach me now please

 

[SeasonalBlues]

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[mismeek]

Okay gents listen up! XD

So My best friend is a master player. I hardly ever seen him with the same girl twice. Hes not the most attractive guy in the world.. but he pulls chicks like nobodys business. He says that these fews tricks/tips are practically fool proof.

1.The worst she can do is say no Why agonize about going up to a girl and saying "hey wanna dance?" or "Can I buy you a drink?" The worst thing she can do is say no. and unless you live in a town with 400 people you will NEVER see that chick again. So always keep that in mind.

2. Buy her a drink and walk away This is his favorite move! Girls expect a guy to come up to them, buy them a drink and to try to talk them out of their pants. So when you just buy her a drink (you can even go so far as buying her girlfriend one too.. thats extra points) and say "you ladies have a nice night." and walk away.. the girl will be totally caught off guard, putting the ball in your court. He says usually within ten or fifteen mins. the girl will come find you and thank you and try to strike up a conversation. Boom you got her.

3. its all about body language If your talking to a girl, this tip will help you find out if shes really into you.
while youre talking to her, step into her personal space a bit. If she backs up..then shes not really feeling what you have to say. If she doesn't keep doing your thing!
So now that youre closer to her go ahead and put your hand on her waist.. NOTE make sure your in a crowed setting so you can make it look as if you were jostled and you were just trying to steady yourself. MAKE sure you apologize and say something along the lines "Oh sorry, its kinda crowded, "Im just trying to get closer to hear you better." and leave your hand there. If she doesn't move it away or step back from you... Boom you got her.

4. if a girl says no.. move on theres gonna be like 100 chicks out there.. if one girl doesnt want to dance with you, just turn around.. i bet you one of the 80 other girls on the floor will.

I can't remember all the stuff hes told me.. but if you guys want more i can always ask him again and send it to you lol just message me.

 

[Interzone]

One small problem. I don't like clubbing or parties. And I especially don't drink or smoke.

 

[mismeek]

for you i would suggest a bookstore. I see guys chatting up girls there all the time. Just ask them about a book they've picked up, or ask them to suggest a book for you. like "Hey I see you're looking at [insert authors name here], and i heard they were really good can you recommend any other books by them? then just continue the conversation from there. Or you can just do the classic move and ask them where a certain book section is and then try to start a convo that way.