I must be boring him to death. . .

[iwanttogetbetter]

to stop it from getting even more awkward. you know those conversations where you have to think really hard on what to say and its all small talk. and 100 percent of the time its me bcoz im socially inept online and real life so for them to think im not a bigger loser then i am i end the conversation quickly with a BLOCK saying i have to do something. I do have one person on my msn i talk to that keeps me sane so i stay online.

 

[this_portrait]

Part of me still has this little ounce of hope left in me that he'll still talk to me after that rather awkward night last night. I mean, it's not like I was just saying random things. We were mainly just asking each other questions about ourselves back and forth, and it got to the point where I was beginning to run out of things to say, so I asked a random question, and that's when he didn't reply at all.

 

[Nicholas]

Plenty of fish? LOL
I went there once just to check it out, and I got scared. I mean... no one there would like me. They all seem so outgoing, with no problems, etc. I remember reading an introduction where a girl said something like "I don't want any losers with no job, or who live with their parents, or who have no friends, or... "
I need to fix my life and myself first before I even try to meet a girl.

 

[Anomaly]

I'm so boring I don't even have a middle name!

Heh, I actually don't, either. It would be "Boring" if I did, though.

 

[freestylemonster]

Plenty of fish? LOL
I went there once just to check it out, and I got scared. I mean... no one there would like me. They all seem so outgoing, with no problems, etc. I remember reading an introduction where a girl said something like "I don't want any losers with no job, or who live with their parents, or who have no friends, or... "
I need to fix my life and myself first before I even try to meet a girl.

I made my profile look like I'm outgoing and completely happy all the time and stuff lol a little white lie never hurt anyone

Don't worry this_portrait! I've messaged like 50 girls on that site, gotten maybe 10 of them to reply back, and when I add them on msn the same thing always happens...they seem completely not interested in talking to me at all! :S

 

[Queen_Of_Pain]

Part of me still has this little ounce of hope left in me that he'll still talk to me after that rather awkward night last night. I mean, it's not like I was just saying random things. We were mainly just asking each other questions about ourselves back and forth, and it got to the point where I was beginning to run out of things to say, so I asked a random question, and that's when he didn't reply at all.

Theres no harm in being cautious. Just make sure the reason he isn't talking to you as often isn't just because he's talking to seven different people at the same time, thats just nasty. Hope thats not the case but it's hard to tell with those sites.
Maybe he just has a short attention span, or can't think of anything to say back quickly, are you sure he doesn't also have SA? anythings possible. Theres no harm in asking a few questions about his slow responses either if it continues, and if he doesn't like the fact you've pointed it out then maybe theres more to it. Just don't let him bore you to death lol.

Hope it goes well

 

[Emily_G]

Ugh 20 minutes? I wouldn't wait that long for a man to answer an MSN message

Personally, I'd be straight with him. I'd actually probably get kind of smart-alecy and say something like "well since I am too boring for you to answer, good night" and sign off for the evening. If it works, great...if not, he wasn't the one for you There are Plenty O' Fish after all

 

[Emily_G]

Plenty of fish? LOL
I went there once just to check it out, and I got scared. I mean... no one there would like me. They all seem so outgoing, with no problems, etc. I remember reading an introduction where a girl said something like "I don't want any losers with no job, or who live with their parents, or who have no friends, or... "
I need to fix my life and myself first before I even try to meet a girl.

No one wants to parade their problems when they are trying to find someone. THat comes later in the relationship.

 

[Mikefly]

Shake it off your being too sensitive about it, yeah but i know how you feel ive been there. I just joined that site today who knows how this is gonna go.

 

[this_portrait]

Hm, well, he logged on earlier this morning, but we didn't talk. He's on right now, but he's set as 'Away'. I really don't know what to think.

 

[agoraphobickatie]

i would probably just put up a front and act like nothing happened and nothing bothered me, haha... i'd say "hey what up?" or something along those lines.. acting nonchalant is usually the way to go, haha... don't sweat the small stuff, chika, and by the way - it's all small stuff ..kudos to robert eliot for that one! haha

 

[this_portrait]

Wow, I think I worried all for nothing. . . He ended up IMing me tonight, after all. . .

*Hits self*

 

[agoraphobickatie]

aww good seeee!!

"people gather bundles of sticks to build bridges they never cross."
-author unknown

...me and my quotes haha

 

[FountainandFairfax]

Plenty of fish? LOL
I went there once just to check it out, and I got scared. I mean... no one there would like me. They all seem so outgoing, with no problems, etc. I remember reading an introduction where a girl said something like "I don't want any losers with no job, or who live with their parents, or who have no friends, or... "
I need to fix my life and myself first before I even try to meet a girl.

You're not a loser though, you have social phobia. Unemployment, lack of friends, and an inability to live on your own are just psudo-symptoms or whatever of the disorder.

Real losers live with their parents and don't have jobs because they're slackass leeches who don't mind burdening and taking advantage of those closest to them. Most girls complaining about losers are probably thinking of an ex who fell into that category.

I do agree that you need to fix your life before seriously trying to find a lady, though. But do it by trying to be less hard on yourself and finding realistic ways of gradually improving your situation.

And by the way, Plenty of Fish SUCKS. I have a few non-SA friends who use it all the time, and they meet nothing but psychopaths on there.

No one wants to parade their problems when they are trying to find someone. THat comes later in the relationship.

Ha Ha Ha... That's funny, and true.

 

[iamthenra]

I've been on POF for about 10 years or so... And I have not found anyone to chat with me yet... So you must be doing something right!


"Cold be heart hand and bone, cold be travelers far from home... They do not see what lies ahead where the sun has faded and the moon is dead..."

Sorry, I had to quote something... Haha!

 

[Tiercel]

Talk about boring someone of the opposite sex to death. Nothing attracts chicks like a man quoting Tolkien.

And because quoting one's self is the surest way to attract the opposite sex:

"I only live to haunt the gloom
That waxes with the waning moon
And revel with a conscience free
Of virtue and debauchery!"
-Me