i feel hated on here

[Lea]

I knew you would say this,I am used to it,I have thought about it it too,too much butt kissing on this site,I doubt some people even have anything,if you arent in the butt kissing circle,no matter what you say, its going to be less likely to be answered...leave if you dont like this,it aint gonna change........

Haha, that's a good answer. I felt hated on here for a long time, like everybody wished this bitch was dead and didn't come to mess on this forum anymore. Of if not hated, then not liked for sure. Maybe it's also because I am fed up with myself so I think everyone else has to be. But surprisingly I also had my share of positive reactions to my posts for which I am very grateful to the people. If you feel hated, my advice is don't take it personally or leave, that's not a solution. And if you feel ignored, you have to think the same goes for most others. It's nothing personal. Some threads get a lot of replies, but that doesn't mean they are better than other threads - just perhaps easier. Sometimes it even seems to me the most stupid threads get most replies. But that's the way it is and always will be.

 

[Ignace]

Dude, nobody here hates you. You can chat with anyone on this forum, I bet my finger on it. If you wanna talk, you know where to find me.

 

[lunarla]

Throughout my time on this forum, I remember many posts just like this one of yours. People feeling ignored or left out by the other members. And I felt like it myself at one point! And I'll assure you as many others have, that it's not the reality. I'm sure no one goes out of their way to make you feel like that intentionally (or if they do, contact a mod as previously mentioned).

Personally, I start replying to some threads, and it may even be a very long and drawn out reply, but then I just delete it and don't even bother posting a lot of the time. I don't know why, really. I don't really think what I'm saying makes sense/is relevant sometimes. But maybe one of those deleted posts of mine was in reply to one of your threads or posts! Nothing personal of course, merely my own anxieties/insecurities.

 

[Waybuloo]

I knew you would say this,I am used to it,I have thought about it it too,too much butt kissing on this site,I doubt some people even have anything,if you arent in the butt kissing circle,no matter what you say, its going to be less likely to be answered...leave if you dont like this,it aint gonna change........

Yeah I second. It's sad that a support forum is dominated by some forward people who are nice to eachother but ignore the rest for the most part. I feel like most of my posts are ignored by these 'elites', but i'm not licking my wounds anymore. I post for those who need my words of encouragement or advice or anything they could gleam from it. The most you could do is contribute whole-heartedly for the sake of it. If people reply or take a liking to you then that's a bonus. If you really want to reach out to someone then contacting them directly would get the best results. They would most likely reply and if they don't then it's not worth your time and you can move on.

To the OP you're definitely not hated, if you do feel ignored it's either because your posts don't spark their interest, or they just genuinely dont know how to reply or have no experience of the subject. Just from my observation, posts that get the most reply are either those of vulnerable voices or the more 'jokey' ones because we know as is in the real world, comedy draw the crowds.

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

because i feeli gnored nobody replies to my post i just feel like there saying oh there he is again im used to being the one in the background so perhaps im jumping the gun sorry people

This is all most likely due to happenstance and nothing personal against you. I certainly don't hate or dislike you and can't say that I know or have heard of anyone who does.

 

[spect01]

I don't hate cha!

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

You may have seen members on SPW who regularly reply to one another's posts on the forum. This may be because they have formed a friendship or have become close. Who can fault anyone for that? I surely would not. I mean, we come here to look for friendship/companionship as well as support, right? Perhaps these individuals are drawn together by common interests and ideas or similarities in their characters etc...

Some people here form friendship circles and others form cliques. I can't complain when I see others doing so and not actively including me. You may see the behavior which I've described above and assume that some may not reply to your posts/threads because they dislike you when in reality their motivations are not spiteful at all. In reality, it may not have much to do with you at all. You may also assume that those people who often have replies are popular and well liked by everyone. That may not necessarily be the case either. Keep in mind that things are not always what they seem.

For instance, looking through the picture thread every now and then...I've seen many good looking people. Some of those people's pictures do not recieve any comments/compliments. This doesn't mean that they're unattractive. It doesn't mean that others don't find them attractive.

It's not so simple for most members to simply engage others or reply to their posts and threads. As I stated above, people not replying to your posts is probably nothing personal. I certainly don't have every single one of my posts replied to. This could be for many reasons. They could be good, bad or neutral. It could mean that someone doesn't like me or it could have nothing at all to do with me.

 

[Daz]

Don't worry. I feel the same way! I'm sure there will be others on here that will feel the exact same way!

I don't even post !!

SA just plays with our minds. Snap out of it!

 

[Felgen]

It seems like it's become a trend to make a thread about it everytime you choose to leave. I don't hate the original poster, though...

 

[Erick1]

No D:
I don't want a friend to leave

 

[panicsurvivor]

I can be almost one hundred percent sure no one hates you on here. If you are visitor messaging people and they are not replying they probably either are too shy to reply or they are busy in RL and will get to it. If you are not being answered on IM Join the club, that thing sucks and sometimes decides not to work. If someone is actively being hostile or nasty to you, Let one of the mods know. I for one would be happy to answer you if you wanted to talk.

 

[coyote]

because i feeli gnored nobody replies to my post i just feel like there saying oh there he is again im used to being the one in the background so perhaps im jumping the gun sorry people

dude, your "Some people think I'm a nerd" thread received 13 pages of support

that's huge

 

[Ignace]

dude, your "Some people think I'm a nerd" thread received 13 pages of support

that's huge

Good point.

 

[mads]

I see SPW like a train. Everyone is on the way to some place. Some is maybe getting of the next station, and some one are going a little further. In a train you will see a lot of different people, some is quiet, some talk to others, some tries to listen to others speaking, some just read the news paper, some do their home work. We are all different. When some is not replying to your post, it can be of a lot of reasons, maybe they didnt see it, maybe there is already a thread about the same subject. And with PM and IM, people could be shy, people could be busy, maybe they didnt see it, maybe they didnt feel talking right now etc. But that shouldnt make you feel bad and that certainly doesnt mean someone is hating you if they dont answer your posts.

 

[Dronee]

I see SPW like a train. Everyone is on the way to some place. Some is maybe getting of the next station, and some one are going a little further. In a train you will see a lot of different people, some is quiet, some talk to others, some tries to listen to others speaking, some just read the news paper, some do their home work. We are all different. When some is not replying to your post, it can be of a lot of reasons, maybe they didnt see it, maybe there is already a thread about the same subject. And with PM and IM, people could be shy, people could be busy, maybe they didnt see it, maybe they didnt feel talking right now etc. But that shouldnt make you feel bad and that certainly doesnt mean someone is hating you if they dont answer your posts.

interesting analogy...

 

[RelentlessHamster]

most people didn't even get a change to meet you, how could they hate you, lease try not to be over-think about what others think of you or feel towards you, not everyone is essentially evil

 

[mads]

interesting analogy...

Thanks 10 signs

 

[RelentlessHamster]

nobody hates anyone here, we however all seem to have one common foe social phobia!

 

[Silvox Black]

I would hazard a guess that you feel left out from all the going-ons in SPW? Do you feel like you have nothing to contribute?

I have no reason to hate you good sir and would implore you do not leave.

 

[harlseq]

Nobody ever responds to my posts/threads or takes me seriously either here.