THE-INTROVERT
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so ill leave
i feel hated on here
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Falkor
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I don't hate you 
, i don't think people with SA will judge you ,
because why should be, we know how that feels ...
you should ask the people here , if it is true that they hate you
without asking, you dont know reality, right?
reality is always different its our own little mind what tells us !!
, i don't think people with SA will judge you ,because why should be, we know how that feels ...
you should ask the people here , if it is true that they hate you
without asking, you dont know reality, right?
reality is always different
its our own little mind what tells us !!
Who hates you? Seriously?
Do tell a mod and they can help!!
Are you just trying to get attention following the past few 'I'm leaving posts'? (perhaps subconsciously) Or maybe it's just something that sort of 'spread'? I'm seriously thinking maybe it would be good to put a ban or at least a limit on such posts (eg contact a mod first and try to work things out, and get permission for posting it?) I think those kind of posts may just increase anxiety and paranoia, what do you guys think?
I seriously feel anxiety when people say they'll leave: I think, not again!! Nooooo!!!
If it's only one person or two, know there's a ton of posters who might seriously like you or at least would, given a chance!!
If you leave too early, you never give us a chance to get to know you better! And we might really LIKE you if we did get to know you better!!
Personally I cannot respond to all messages, if you feel there's a thread or issue you'd really like to talk about, feel free to let us know...
How can someone hate you if they don't even know you? Maybe they were just having a bad day? Or were joking and it came across bad? And from just a few posts online how well can that person know you after all? Or they just didn't think through their replies fully and just posted off the top of their mind, while wrestling with a cat or something?
I have given a lot of time and thought into my replies sometimes, and have sometimes felt really betrayed sort of if that person just left a few days later.. So that's why I may not post so much sometimes too.. Or I just think others may post and reply better.. And some posts may just 'slip by'... So it's not really personal.. Feel free to bump stuff up or ask directly.. Also, people here may not have the most splendid communication skills, we are all still learning.. It's a SA site, sigh..
Anyway, hope you decide to work this through and stick around or at least return now and then!
Do tell a mod and they can help!!
Are you just trying to get attention following the past few 'I'm leaving posts'? (perhaps subconsciously) Or maybe it's just something that sort of 'spread'? I'm seriously thinking maybe it would be good to put a ban or at least a limit on such posts (eg contact a mod first and try to work things out, and get permission for posting it?) I think those kind of posts may just increase anxiety and paranoia, what do you guys think?
I seriously feel anxiety when people say they'll leave: I think, not again!! Nooooo!!!
If it's only one person or two, know there's a ton of posters who might seriously like you or at least would, given a chance!!
If you leave too early, you never give us a chance to get to know you better! And we might really LIKE you if we did get to know you better!!
Personally I cannot respond to all messages, if you feel there's a thread or issue you'd really like to talk about, feel free to let us know...
How can someone hate you if they don't even know you? Maybe they were just having a bad day? Or were joking and it came across bad? And from just a few posts online how well can that person know you after all? Or they just didn't think through their replies fully and just posted off the top of their mind, while wrestling with a cat or something?
I have given a lot of time and thought into my replies sometimes, and have sometimes felt really betrayed sort of if that person just left a few days later.. So that's why I may not post so much sometimes too.. Or I just think others may post and reply better.. And some posts may just 'slip by'... So it's not really personal.. Feel free to bump stuff up or ask directly.. Also, people here may not have the most splendid communication skills, we are all still learning.. It's a SA site, sigh..
Anyway, hope you decide to work this through and stick around or at least return now and then!
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THE-INTROVERT
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because i feeli gnored nobody replies to my post i just feel like there saying oh there he is again im used to being the one in the background so perhaps im jumping the gun sorry people
Hey Introvert, which post are you referring to? Give me a link and I'll look and reply! Have dinner now, I'll take a look after that, okay?
Oh, and I also have a few threads where almost nobody posts (except me) I just figure maybe I wrote it too complicated so it might be difficult to read or another title would be better, or the problem is so complex people don't really have the experience to give advice or insight in that direction, I've gotten some excellent replies and advise elsewhere!! I still feel 'loved' because there are some really cool people up here that I like and we 'talk' in other threads etc. Maybe just start replying to others and asking questions and they will talk that way?
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fife_girl
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hey SA makes us feel all kind of ways and i can see why you might feel that way, get a little paranoid n things, try not let that get to you(its only ur negitive thoughts). what about sending a PM to some people for a proper chat? id love to chat if you want a chin wag
dnt leave just cause your feeling a bit unsure
fife_girl
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kihira
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Hey!
I've got a few blank posts, its no big deal. Often its in the wording, so double check how you have written posts and ask yourself if it reads well. and give it time
ilmatross
Well-known member
that's absolutely not true introvert
youre letting your negative thoughts get to you
if people dont respond to you you've got to remember this is an SA forum and most of us are very timid.
if you ever want a reply quote me and ill talk nonsense at you all night
My first post on this forum was about my bullying experience.It took me half an hour to write it (english isn't my first language).And wanna know how many replied to my posts? Only one, and the person who replied was the moderator)).Yesterday I searched this post and nobody replied since then.Yes, I felt somehow bad at first but I continued to post.Now I can say I met some great people due to I'm a little more confident now.Even if last night I annoyed unintentionally Jake123 hint hint.Btw, I'm sorry if my yesterday post sounded sarcastic or smth...guess I will never be able to express myself without being perceived as a stupid person or without offending smb.
)).Yesterday I searched this post and nobody replied since then.Yes, I felt somehow bad at first but I continued to post.Now I can say I met some great people due to I'm a little more confident now.Even if last night I annoyed unintentionally Jake123 hint hint.Btw, I'm sorry if my yesterday post sounded sarcastic or smth...guess I will never be able to express myself without being perceived as a stupid person or without offending smb.I knew you would say this,I am used to it,I have thought about it it too,too much butt kissing on this site,I doubt some people even have anything,if you arent in the butt kissing circle,no matter what you say, its going to be less likely to be answered...leave if you dont like this,it aint gonna change........
slowmotiondaydream
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i feel it too , you get ignored in real life and on here as well. i just get off and get on again in a few days to read up on things and be a just a number again
Adrox, not sure I know what kind of butt-kissing circle you talk about? It's good to be nice to people and tell'em what you like about them! It's called politeness & appreciation!
It's only 'butt-kissin' if it's hypocrisy and you don't really mean it, as far as I know? Otherwise, it's just plain good communication skills that everyone can learn, no?
Also, most people here get so much negative flak in RL, so it's good to combat it with some constructive or positive stuff? You may not know it, some people have posted in threads (that you might not have read) and said bad things about themselves, and it may be helpful to try to 'overwrite' those negative opinions with positive attitude!!
There are some people who may know each other better and comment more or talk more.. I'm fairly new here and while it does take some time to get to know people (like in real life!) I don't think there are any 'invisible walls' one couldn't climb (over or under)? Give it time and if you are genuine and mean well this'll show..
I think the problem is that so many new people can start exactly the same posts that you have answered a few times already - maybe it would be good to have a few posts FOR THE NEWBIES - 'please read before you post'?
Daydream, sorry to hear you feel ignored.. Maybe just try to jump in and join the fun? (In the story thread or wherever?)
If there is a long thread with lots of responses it's only natural you can reply to some, and not to everyone, especially if the opinions are similar..
Or some people post stuff that you don't really know what to say, and you may think about it for a few days, and by that time the thread may be 'lost'..?
So you reply to a few that stand out.. It's impossible to reply to EVERYTHING.. It would be more than a full-time job for a few professionals!! And we don't get paid for posting here, as far as I know moderators are volunteers too, who share their time and good will.. (I've been half-moderator elsewhere before so I know it can be tough sometimes! They deserve any appreciation that comes their way!!)
And everyone here can make the board better!! It's not just 'waiting for others' - go ahead and talk to people in threads by quoting them, and if they respond in a nice way or you see common interests befriend them or ask people stuff or whatever!
It's only 'butt-kissin' if it's hypocrisy and you don't really mean it, as far as I know? Otherwise, it's just plain good communication skills that everyone can learn, no?
Also, most people here get so much negative flak in RL, so it's good to combat it with some constructive or positive stuff? You may not know it, some people have posted in threads (that you might not have read) and said bad things about themselves, and it may be helpful to try to 'overwrite' those negative opinions with positive attitude!!
There are some people who may know each other better and comment more or talk more.. I'm fairly new here and while it does take some time to get to know people (like in real life!) I don't think there are any 'invisible walls' one couldn't climb (over or under)? Give it time and if you are genuine and mean well this'll show..
I think the problem is that so many new people can start exactly the same posts that you have answered a few times already - maybe it would be good to have a few posts FOR THE NEWBIES - 'please read before you post'?
Daydream, sorry to hear you feel ignored.. Maybe just try to jump in and join the fun? (In the story thread or wherever?)
If there is a long thread with lots of responses it's only natural you can reply to some, and not to everyone, especially if the opinions are similar..
Or some people post stuff that you don't really know what to say, and you may think about it for a few days, and by that time the thread may be 'lost'..?
So you reply to a few that stand out.. It's impossible to reply to EVERYTHING.. It would be more than a full-time job for a few professionals!!
And we don't get paid for posting here, as far as I know moderators are volunteers too, who share their time and good will.. (I've been half-moderator elsewhere before so I know it can be tough sometimes! They deserve any appreciation that comes their way!!)And everyone here can make the board better!! It's not just 'waiting for others' - go ahead and talk to people in threads by quoting them, and if they respond in a nice way or you see common interests befriend them or ask people stuff or whatever!
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Dronee
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Hmm... I think that it may be due to their anxiety. If you think about it, there's literally thousands of members here who have never posted. And those who post may still feel some anxiety, sooo... not all your posts will be responded to. I know mine often aren't.
Don't worry about it... I doubt anyone here hates you.
Don't worry about it... I doubt anyone here hates you.