I'm sorry to see this is happening to you, Mikey. Any time I was single and craving female attention I'd go through my list of girl's phone numbers and try to get something going. Or I'd go to a party and somehow start a conversation with one. If all else failed I would always go for a sure thing, even if I knew I'd regret it later. I'm afraid I don't have any good advice for you, dude. Do you have any girl friends? Girls as friends are awesome.
How to deal with loneliness?
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Doubiousness
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It's tough. Hell it is Friday night and I am not out with a girl right now. It is always times like these that I dropped. At least if I was on a trip for 12 hours I would forget how lonely I was. I miss it sometimes but it ruined me. I would still rather be lonely with a job than tripping and living out of my car.
They can smell it from miles, they have a sixth sense for it or something.
MikeyC
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Srijita, you're a lovely woman, so I don't think you'll have to wait long for a great guy, especially if you're already getting approached by many men.
Thank you.
Sorry to hear you're not dealing with it, either. You never mentioned it. I know you're right in that I've got good things coming my way (as do you!), so I'll just have to keep plowing along and be happy with other facets of my life, too.
Thanks for the compliments, Phoenixx. Fiona happened unexpectedly, so the next one may happen the same way.
I try not to mention my virginity to anyone, especially women, because of how I will be perceived.
This is good to know!
*books flights for everywhere*
I don't have that many friends to begin with, and the females aren't many. One ignores me (long story), another is a risky meet-up (another long story, but she's a lovely girl). I would like to go to a party and try to talk to girls. I've been thinking about going to a cool place in Sydney with live music and see what can happen there.
You said you would go for a "sure thing." Well, I've also been thinking about that, too. Hmm. :shyness:
MikeyC
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I think most people would feel this way, since we are inherently social beings.
Better start faking it! *puffs out chest* :thumbup:
Thanks to all that have replied so far. It's nice to know people care and are able to share their experiences with this.
I reckon I should've been more specific about the "sure thing" I mentioned. I was talking about some girls I used to know who were, um... easy. I feel bad that I don't have better advice to give you.
MikeyC
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Oh, haha. I was thinking more along the lines of escorts, which is something I'm kind of considering at this point. I don't have any "easy" female friends. :
:It's all good, mate.
Kiwong
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Oh, haha. I was thinking more along the lines of escorts, which is something I'm kind of considering at this point. I don't have any "easy" female friends. :
It's all good, mate.
An escort? I thought you were more of a Holden man.
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Mikey, have you tried having an online relationship? I know it's no substitute for hanging around the house with someone you love, but it could really go a long way to stave off the loneliness that you feel. Having someone to look forward to talking to every day and sharing parts of your life with is a big part of feeling connected to someone. Surely there are death metal forums or something out there where you can find a cute girl who shares your interests!
littlegrrr
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Not sure if itll count for much since everyone on this topics said it, but im awfully lonely too. The emptiness and lack of a connection or anything to look forward to is the worst part.
If itll make you feel any better, i have yet to have a person actually respond to any emails not just here but anywhere. Same pretty much goes for forum posts and i used to spend soooo much time trying to be helpful and even research and if i got a reply it was negative or neutral
I actually thought a person i (very briefly) chatted with on chacha wanted to correspond but i was wrong. Ive reached out to ppl specifically looking for an online friend that also has some sort of mental disorder or is a sympathetic.
As long as youre not like me and havent totally screwed up your credit, schooling, and just overall life and feel you have no real reason to still be here then your bad ice-cold chest pain will pass and youll keep on keepin on.
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If itll make you feel any better, i have yet to have a person actually respond to any emails not just here but anywhere. Same pretty much goes for forum posts and i used to spend soooo much time trying to be helpful and even research and if i got a reply it was negative or neutral
I actually thought a person i (very briefly) chatted with on chacha wanted to correspond but i was wrong. Ive reached out to ppl specifically looking for an online friend that also has some sort of mental disorder or is a sympathetic.
As long as youre not like me and havent totally screwed up your credit, schooling, and just overall life and feel you have no real reason to still be here then your bad ice-cold chest pain will pass and youll keep on keepin on.
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MikeyC
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Whoever made that first ad needs to lay off the LSD. The second ad was more normal, although I feel slightly Monaro after watching it! Also I wish cars were that cheap these days.
I don't think that would make me feel any better because I would still want to hug and kiss her, and I wouldn't be able to do it. Finding a girl into death metal is almost impossible, too - the male to female metal fan ratio is like 100:1, haha.
Thanks for the advice, though. I am still on eHarmony so I'll still have a shot there.
I'm sorry you're lonely, too. I'm sure there are people close by who want to chat with you.Not sure if itll count for much since everyone on this topics said it, but im awfully lonely too. The emptiness and lack of a connection or anything to look forward to is the worst part.
If itll make you feel any better, i have yet to have a person actually respond to any emails not just here but anywhere. Same pretty much goes for forum posts and i used to spend soooo much time trying to be helpful and even research and if i got a reply it was negative or neutral
I actually thought a person i (very briefly) chatted with on chacha wanted to correspond but i was wrong. Ive reached out to ppl specifically looking for an online friend that also has some sort of mental disorder or is a sympathetic.
As long as youre not like me and havent totally screwed up your credit, schooling, and just overall life and feel you have no real reason to still be here then your bad ice-cold chest pain will pass and youll keep on keepin on.
MikeyC
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littlegrrr
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Um, guess what ^ its called commiserating! Usually people find that helpful. What is it hijacking if you dont say oh you poor little baby i feel so sorry for you! Its way more helpful to show someone that you feel for them by illustrating your own shortcomings and similar feelings.
Guess people with high post counts like to "apologize" for things other people do that isnt even wrong.
MikeyC
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This sounds like a swipe at Kiwong for absolutely no reason....
megalon
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It looks like there was some misunderstanding and she thought Kiwong was referring to her post as threadjacking.:idontknow:
MikeyC
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Oh, I see it. :thumbup: Definitely not the case.
MikeyC
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Well, a quick update, if anyone is interested.
I am doing okay with this. It's still manifesting somewhere inside, even when I am not thinking about it exclusively, but the last two days or so it's been manageable. :thumbup:
On Monday it was not so good, but I think it was because I didn't have a lot to do. The rest of the week has been a little bit busier, which helps me. I've got things to look forward to tomorrow night and errands to run on Monday coming, so knowing that I'm going to remain active is a good thing.
The loneliness won't go away, but I can hopefully control its ferocity, at least for now....
I am doing okay with this. It's still manifesting somewhere inside, even when I am not thinking about it exclusively, but the last two days or so it's been manageable. :thumbup:
On Monday it was not so good, but I think it was because I didn't have a lot to do. The rest of the week has been a little bit busier, which helps me. I've got things to look forward to tomorrow night and errands to run on Monday coming, so knowing that I'm going to remain active is a good thing.
The loneliness won't go away, but I can hopefully control its ferocity, at least for now....
You hang in there dude, we've got your back! :thumbup: