Darker Than Black
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never..am i ok?
........................case closed, your judge
........................case closed, your judge
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how often u think about getting a gf/bf?
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mitchellb999
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Too much 
El.Sonador
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all the time, night and day
NickyNacker
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too much. but then when a guy shows interest i get uncomfortable and nothing comes of it. -,-
Nicholas
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Exactly. Almost every day, especially at night before falling asleep. I can't help thinking how good it'd be to have someone in my bed who loves me, to love, hug, and fall asleep together.
Or whenever I see a pretty girl, or whenever I see a couple. I often feel like "see? That's what you've never had and god only knows when you'll have it, if ever".
It's always been a big problem for me, at least in the past couple of years. But now I know I have to avoid thinking about it if I don't want to feel depressed, and I must try to feel optimistic and understand that if I keep improving my life and myself, maybe in a couple of years I'll find someone special too. Another couple of years or more alone is a lot though, but I need to accept that if I want to feel good.
BlackKids
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All the time, its my main motivation. Its not just going to happen, you have to make it happen. People want to be in relationships, its their nature and its not your decision to decide your not good enough for someone.
Aim outta your league, make a fool outta yourself. When you find the right person you'll know and the only way thats going to happen is by been yourself.
Aim outta your league, make a fool outta yourself. When you find the right person you'll know and the only way thats going to happen is by been yourself.
Flowers-Of-Bloom
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I often think about how much I don't want it, and am nervous around the men who fancy me.
Off The Wall
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Yeah usually at night or in the morning, having someone next to you when you fall asleep would be awesome, and then to wake up to that person each morning.. hmm maybe oneday, probably not :s.
Off The Wall
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actually it doesn't even have to be a relationship, just a friend to keep you company to be able to hug someone good night and good morning would be amazing.. we don't ask for much do we..
this_portrait
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All the time. Le sigh.
TheLonelyArabian
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Not much, I also"accepted my AKA "Fate""
but I do think about having sex every once in a while...I'm still a virgin::
but I do think about having sex every once in a while...I'm still a virgin:
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Moonie
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I’m in a relationship- have had 4 others before this one. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but being in a relationship with SA is not all good. Because of my SA and severe low-esteem, I have trouble staying in a committed relationship. I start to doubt that the person I am with really loves me – or if he is just in love with the idea of being in love. I start to think how great my partner is and feel bad that he is stuck with someone like me. I start to wonder if he'd leave me if someone with a better personality came along and shows interest in him. In almost all of my past relationships I get to a point in which I like to call my ‘sense of impending doom.’ It’s where I feel and think that the relationship will end soon. I never expect my relationships to last long. And sometimes I just want out before the new person gets tired and annoyed and embarrassed by my SA.So I find fault in him, so it won't hurt when it ends. I detach myself.
I keep meaning to take time off for me. But, I usually fumble into another relationship. And as cliché as this may sound, but you really can’t love someone before you can love yourself. It’s so hard. Even though my partner (and past partners) have tried hard to make me feel good and beautiful, I never feel it for myself. And it becomes a big problem.
I keep meaning to take time off for me. But, I usually fumble into another relationship. And as cliché as this may sound, but you really can’t love someone before you can love yourself. It’s so hard. Even though my partner (and past partners) have tried hard to make me feel good and beautiful, I never feel it for myself. And it becomes a big problem.
FountainandFairfax
in a VAN down by the RIVER
Continuously.
I've been in 6 serious relationships spanning the past 7 years combined (from age 18 upwards). It's been enormously interesting to me and I've learned a hell of a lot about myself.
The biggest recurring obstacle for me is that I often feel guilty and incompetent in relationships, because I will invariably lean on my girl for companionship and to get things done in the real world. In that sense, I struggle with wearing the proverbial pants, even at times when I really feel I should be stepping up and taking the lead in certain areas. So even though I do okay financially and everything, I still feel like dead wood, simply because I oftentimes can't cope with the world and am not sociable. This frequently leads to big arguments, whether it's my refusal to attend a family event of hers, or to get something pragmatic done by myself. There have been phases where I've had to have my girlfriend at the time make all my phone calls for me simply because I'd get too nervous, screw up my sentences, and hang up on whoever it was. Of course, my frequent mood swings, irritability and generally imbalanced emotional state have never helped matters.
To say that SA or depression has been the killer in my relationships is exaggerated though. Mostly it's just a plain incompatibility issue. I don't struggle with jealousy or trust. It's just a men are from mars, women from venus type thing, usually. So I can't say I think about relationships a lot; I've been too busy with them since adulthood that I've hardly had any downtime (ie. being single). But again, that's more of a weakness on my part - having a dependency on the opposite sex for whatever needs I have. It's not my partner's job to be my caretaker, and I fully realize that, but breaking that cycle is easier said than done.
The biggest recurring obstacle for me is that I often feel guilty and incompetent in relationships, because I will invariably lean on my girl for companionship and to get things done in the real world. In that sense, I struggle with wearing the proverbial pants, even at times when I really feel I should be stepping up and taking the lead in certain areas. So even though I do okay financially and everything, I still feel like dead wood, simply because I oftentimes can't cope with the world and am not sociable. This frequently leads to big arguments, whether it's my refusal to attend a family event of hers, or to get something pragmatic done by myself. There have been phases where I've had to have my girlfriend at the time make all my phone calls for me simply because I'd get too nervous, screw up my sentences, and hang up on whoever it was. Of course, my frequent mood swings, irritability and generally imbalanced emotional state have never helped matters.
To say that SA or depression has been the killer in my relationships is exaggerated though. Mostly it's just a plain incompatibility issue. I don't struggle with jealousy or trust. It's just a men are from mars, women from venus type thing, usually. So I can't say I think about relationships a lot; I've been too busy with them since adulthood that I've hardly had any downtime (ie. being single). But again, that's more of a weakness on my part - having a dependency on the opposite sex for whatever needs I have. It's not my partner's job to be my caretaker, and I fully realize that, but breaking that cycle is easier said than done.
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