How Are You Sabotaging Yourself?

miserablecow

miserablecow

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I'm being told I am by not taking my anti-psychotic medication. So, I'm being forced to take them, as I was told if I refuse to then I can get sectioned.
 
Nanita

Nanita

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notacatlady said:
Sabotage is such an awesome word...very 007. But anyway, I think I've only just begun to realize that I am my own worst enemy and I sabotage myself in so many ways...Procrastination-holy shit, I'm the damn queen-I swear I'll be late to my own funeral. I also just put myself down every chance I have, I've NEVER been able to take a compliment. I can't even be in a real relationship because I truly don't understand how someone can like me enough to want to be with me for more than 10 hours. Does anyone else relate...to any of this? I'm new here and of course...I need some reassurance I'm not the only one.
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Hello! Oh yeah I can relate to that, all of it actually :) I guess it comes down to low self esteem and stuff
 
Angkorwat

Angkorwat

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I have a big problem with trying to please everyone. Not by catering to their needs but I try not to make any enemies. This involves me keeping my mouth shut in most situations because I don't want to make anyone angry. This is keeping me from being myself. I didn't even pick up on this until two years ago when I realized that this was something I need to change.
 
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jaim38

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Angkorwat said:
I have a big problem with trying to please everyone. Not by catering to their needs but I try not to make any enemies. This involves me keeping my mouth shut in most situations because I don't want to make anyone angry. This is keeping me from being myself. I didn't even pick up on this until two years ago when I realized that this was something I need to change.
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This is a big problem for me in the past. I am so afraid of offending people and making enemies that I kept my mouth closed a lot. I don't speak unless I have something positive or neutral to say. Regardless of how passive I try to present myself to other people, I still get hated, despised, disliked which baffled me. It's like, people/strangers hate me for being quiet and passive.

I attribute this to previous experiences. I feel so guilty when people cry because of me, even though I don't have any emnity/rivalry towards them, believe it or not! I remember having a row with an older girl, and all of a sudden my friend cried! I wasn't even arguing with her, wth! I looked and felt like the black sheep.

Partly because of experiences like these, I thought it might be better to just keep my mouth shut because I seem to say the wrong things at times. But, it doesn't have to be this way. I could have worked on my tactfulness and developed better soft skills. Too bad I was naive at the time.
 
Angkorwat

Angkorwat

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jaim38 said:
This is a big problem for me in the past. I am so afraid of offending people and making enemies that I kept my mouth closed a lot. I don't speak unless I have something positive or neutral to say. Regardless of how passive I try to present myself to other people, I still get hated, despised, disliked which baffled me. It's like, people/strangers hate me for being quiet and passive.

I attribute this to previous experiences. I feel so guilty when people cry because of me, even though I don't have any emnity/rivalry towards them, believe it or not! I remember having a row with an older girl, and all of a sudden my friend cried! I wasn't even arguing with her, wth! I looked and felt like the black sheep.

Partly because of experiences like these, I thought it might be better to just keep my mouth shut because I seem to say the wrong things at times. But, it doesn't have to be this way. I could have worked on my tactfulness and developed better soft skills. Too bad I was naive at the time.
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Yep. People will hate you no matter what you do. It's so much easier just being yourself to make true friends, but I've made it a habit to please everyone and nothing will change unless I do.
 
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