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Phoenixx

Phoenixx

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vj288 said:
So last night, I went to bed around 1 am, a reasonable time for a Friday night. My newly acquired roommate then comes back around 1:30-1:45, and turns the light on. No big deal, he always keeps the light on until he's ready to go to bed, and while annoying I can still fall asleep. Then at about 3:30, after I was awoken to the sound of gunshots coming from his tv at a very high volume. Apparently he thought it would be a good time to play video games, despite the fact I was clearly sleeping literally 4 feet away. And he did not even make an effort to be considerate of the fact I was sleeping, at least turning it down a tad, maybe playing in the dark, eating a less noisy snack then cheese-it's.

After that, he had the nerve to close my laptop once he decide he was tired, because the backlight was on.

I mean usually here I like to think better me than some other guy who has to put up with this, but I'm trying to give myself some more worth and am not doing that here. He is not entitled to be passive-aggressive toward me for whatever reason he has. If I want to sleep, he should be damn well considerate of the fact I want to sleep. I used to feel bad with past roommates when I was up at 2 or 3 am, light off, headphones in because I thought my typing was to loud.

I don't know if he's doing it because he thinks his needs are more important than mine for whatever reason, or if it's some passive-aggressive attack. I know I'm difficult to live with, never leaving the room and probably appearing disinterested in him and stuck-up. Also from what I've picked up from phone conversation with his girlfriends he's clearly very whipped, maybe he's just taking it all out on me. I don't know, either way I deserve better.
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^ It's hard to live with roommates like that. That's how my roommate was last year. Don't get me wrong, she was a pretty nice person (Not at first. She was pretty rude to me, but I think it was just her way of coping with being nervous because she didn't act like that towards me later in the year), but she was a night owl. She would come in at late hours, then sit on her computer and watch movies, tv shows, or be on facebook with her bright screen lighting up the whole room, plus a light on, and I would constantly hear her crinkling food wrappers. She wouldn't get to bed until around 3 - 5am. It was annoying to get to sleep on those nights. Thankfully she didn't do it too often, but enough anyway.

The next morning when I was up and she was still sleeping, I used to be really quiet getting around because I didn't want to wake her, and yes, even I thought my typing would be too loud if I was on the computer. Some mornings though I would wake up so annoyed because I hardly got any sleep, so I would purposely make some noise, maybe wake her up a little. She was a heavy sleeper. I don't think I woke her up much. :rolleyes:

Anyway, maybe you and your roommate could work something out? Hopefully he's more understanding than my roommate was. Even though I told her that bright lights bothered me and I was a pretty light sleeper, she still did all those things. If you can't get anything worked out, and if it bothers you that much, then maybe get a different roommate?
 
coyote

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something i discovered many years ago when i was aboard an aircraft carrier, working nights, sleeping days, with jet aircraft landing on the deck above my bunk

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Shyangel

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^ Great suggestion. I should get some of those for when my niece refuses to sleep during the night and takes to crying and running around for hours...Good times.

I'm feeling bored....Who woulda thunk it.
 
vj288

vj288

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Phoenixx said:
Anyway, maybe you and your roommate could work something out? Hopefully he's more understanding than my roommate was. Even though I told her that bright lights bothered me and I was a pretty light sleeper, she still did all those things. If you can't get anything worked out, and if it bothers you that much, then maybe get a different roommate?
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Oh yeah I think you remember you posting about that a few time, having roommates can be rough. My goal is to take the high road and not retaliate, but I did opt out of using my headphones this morning for a little while. He seemed unphased though so I'm still in the clear ::p:

I mean I see I have two choices at this point, either talk to him about it like an adult or put up with it and just find a way to get my sleep in. When it was just the light the night mask idea Coyote suggested crossed my mind, and I think I may invest in getting one. (Plus it will make me go to the store, 2 birds). And over the weekend ear plugs could be great too, it's just if he makes noise during the week I'm stuck, because I have morning classes every day and need to be able to hear my alarm clock.

No roommate is sort of out of the question, This is already my second one this year (I scared the first away), and I don't really have a way to switch rooms. I mean my parents live 4 hours away and there's no real car to help me transfer my belongings. I don't want to move at this point anyway, I don't need more stress. It's only 4 more months anyway, not that long if you think about it.
 
Phoenixx

Phoenixx

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vj288 said:
Oh yeah I think you remember you posting about that a few time, having roommates can be rough. My goal is to take the high road and not retaliate, but I did opt out of using my headphones this morning for a little while. He seemed unphased though so I'm still in the clear ::p:

I mean I see I have two choices at this point, either talk to him about it like an adult or put up with it and just find a way to get my sleep in. When it was just the light the night mask idea Coyote suggested crossed my mind, and I think I may invest in getting one. (Plus it will make me go to the store, 2 birds). And over the weekend ear plugs could be great too, it's just if he makes noise during the week I'm stuck, because I have morning classes every day and need to be able to hear my alarm clock.

No roommate is sort of out of the question, This is already my second one this year (I scared the first away), and I don't really have a way to switch rooms. I mean my parents live 4 hours away and there's no real car to help me transfer my belongings. I don't want to move at this point anyway, I don't need more stress. It's only 4 more months anyway, not that long if you think about it.
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^ Yeah that night mask is a good idea. I should've invested in one of those last semester. :rolleyes: Ear plugs were a must for me too when I lived on campus. Sucks though that they always fell out of my ears when I slept, so I would always wake up and have to put them back in. Still was a decent solution for me though.

Yeah moving would be pretty tough I think, especially if you live 4 hours away. At least it's only four more months, that's not too bad at all. I had my roommate for almost 5. Kinda makes me wonder how I put up with it for that long... Anyway, good luck with your roommate. Hope you can find a solution soon.
 
MikeyC

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Srijita52 said:
Well today I realised what I truly am! I'm pathetic, with no chance of improvement who never belongs to anywhere. Gee feels really good to know that!
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Why do you say that, Srijita? This simply is not true.

Graeme1988 said:
I regret every telling my mum I need help. Because she doesn't give a f*%k, doesn't care. No matter how many time I try to explain. I'm on my own, always will be. I'm always told I'm wrong, even when I know I'm right. Therapy won't make anything better, according my mum.

So... Don't think. Take a pill. Shut the f*%k up! And be happy.
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With the amount of posts you make about your mum's indifference to your situation, it seems to me that she's not the person you should be turning to. Is there anyone else you can talk to who will at least show compassion and/or sympathy?

vj288 said:
So last night, I went to bed around 1 am, a reasonable time for a Friday night. My newly acquired roommate then comes back around 1:30-1:45, and turns the light on. No big deal, he always keeps the light on until he's ready to go to bed, and while annoying I can still fall asleep. Then at about 3:30, after I was awoken to the sound of gunshots coming from his tv at a very high volume. Apparently he thought it would be a good time to play video games, despite the fact I was clearly sleeping literally 4 feet away. And he did not even make an effort to be considerate of the fact I was sleeping, at least turning it down a tad, maybe playing in the dark, eating a less noisy snack then cheese-it's.

After that, he had the nerve to close my laptop once he decide he was tired, because the backlight was on.

I mean usually here I like to think better me than some other guy who has to put up with this, but I'm trying to give myself some more worth and am not doing that here. He is not entitled to be passive-aggressive toward me for whatever reason he has. If I want to sleep, he should be damn well considerate of the fact I want to sleep. I used to feel bad with past roommates when I was up at 2 or 3 am, light off, headphones in because I thought my typing was to loud.

I don't know if he's doing it because he thinks his needs are more important than mine for whatever reason, or if it's some passive-aggressive attack. I know I'm difficult to live with, never leaving the room and probably appearing disinterested in him and stuck-up. I don't know, either way I deserve better.
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If you let this go on too long, you will allow him to continue doing that sort of stuff. Sounds like he was being rude for really no reason, but it's something you'll need to chat to him about because you can't live like that forever.
 
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Nathália

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I want to marry my room and bed. I am a huge loser.

I feel at peace and in my own world, when I come from the world. I just love laying on my bed after a hot shower and running away from my problems here. It has never let me down and it is peaceful away from everything and everyone.

Jk I don't want to really marry it. Yes I am very weird and very pathetic, maybe it's just the winter time thing and our relationship will be over March. Sigh, I hope so because I need to break up with it. <<<<<<<GAWD can't you tell how shelterd I am! Even terrorist get more air than me hiding under caves.
 
this_portrait

this_portrait

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Took another nap, so I still feel groggy from that. Also had a weird nightmare that someone was trying to kill me, so that was freaky.
 
MrJones

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'Cause sometimes you just feel tired,
Feel weak, and when you feel weak, you feel like you wanna just give up.
But you gotta search within you, you gotta find that inner strength
And just pull that s**t out of you and get that motivation to not give up
And not be a quitter, no matter how bad you wanna just fall flat on your face and collapse.
 
Graeme1988

Graeme1988

Hie yer hence from me heath!
MikeyC said:
With the amount of posts you make about your mum's indifference to your situation, it seems to me that she's not the person you should be turning to. Is there anyone else you can talk to who will at least show compassion and/or sympathy?
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My oldest sister sent me a text today, reaching out to me, saying if I want to talk she's there. So, I suppose, I'll talk to her. Though, not entirely sure how she'll react when, or if, we discuss my relationship with our mother - which isn't great. Despite my oldest sister saying that my sisters and I turned out well being raised by a single parent mum. And my oldest sister and I haven't been that close, recently. It could be awkward.
 
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