How are you feeling?

[MikeyC]

pretty low tbh, got christmas coming with more social situations, feeling pretty lonely, feeling reclusive since i feel none gives a stuff about me this tme of year, just hope new year brings light to the end of my tunnel.

Christmas is easily the worst time of year. Sorry to hear you're feeling lonely, though. Let's hope for a better 2012, for me and you.

 

[DeadmanWalking]

Sincerely I don't think life has any kind of meaning... you just have to live your life trying to enjoy it as much as you can. But the problem is this, I think I'm wasting time.
Having friends would help a lot, but it's not that easy, unfortunately... I don't have any confidence in myself. I simply can't talk to others to make friends.
Anyway, likely we wouldn't get along in any case...
Mhm I think it's pretty much difficult to deal with me

Well, when you're dead, you'll finally have an answer to that question. Until then, don't think about and move on with life.

With that attitude of failure, things will be out of reach. People want to be friends with those that are positive and seem like they will be fun. How can people like you when you don't like you? If you don't like yourself, then don't you think it's time to change those parts about you?

 

[Invisibleman]

Today I told an acquaintance that I had social anxiety and he said that its just an excuse for being overly sensitive and I just need to talk to people. I was extremely annoyed the whole day on...

 

[Fen]

Well, when you're dead, you'll finally have an answer to that question. Until then, don't think about and move on with life.

With that attitude of failure, things will be out of reach. People want to be friends with those that are positive and seem like they will be fun. How can people like you when you don't like you? If you don't like yourself, then don't you think it's time to change those parts about you?

You sure have a point about my behavior, Dead. Nobody can like someone who doesn't even like himself, but I really have no confidence in my possibility (especially socially speaking).
I don't like what usually others like, to begin with. I wouldn't know how to get to know others, but most of all how to keep the relationship afterwards.
And obviously I think others could judge my appearence, behavior, or whatever...
And online it's the same, too

 

[KiaKaha]

I feel a lot better today, I just spent the last two hours at the gym tearing my body apart. I love how exercise invigorates and elevates my mood.
I am pretty tired now though...

 

[Dead_on_Arrival]

Tired. Completed my final at 4am this morning after writing the final report through the night. Fingers crossed now for a good grade.

 

[strugling]

kinda sh*** right now ::

 

[DeadmanWalking]

You sure have a point about my behavior, Dead. Nobody can like someone who doesn't even like himself, but I really have no confidence in my possibility (especially socially speaking).
I don't like what usually others like, to begin with. I wouldn't know how to get to know others, but most of all how to keep the relationship afterwards.
And obviously I think others could judge my appearence, behavior, or whatever...
And online it's the same, too

You get to know others and maintain those relationships through those hobbies of yours. Expose your friends to your world, show them your hobbies and see what they think of it. You don't have to share the exact same hobbies to be friends since conversations would get boring fast. Friends with different hobbies offers more material to talk about.

Most people won't judge you based on those aspects. You've got to have some faith in humans Fen. Not everyone is out to hurt you; a lot of people at college would jump at the chance to make a friend. Find some bright points about yourself and enhance those points; for example, you're in college and making something of yourself, which is something not a lot of people can say about themselves. As I told someone else, you don't have to be Winston Churchill; all you need is the ability to speak what's on your mind. You can practice with us and, on a side note, we would never judge you.

 

[MrJones]

Awful and tired. When we have to make a project or we have an exam coming there is always someone calling me for answers, like I'm Wikipedia. I just finished a conversation of 1 hour and 53 minutes.... and I hate phone calls.... Funny thing is that the day we finish the last exam no one will bother to talk to me again until they need me again. "Hey MrJones, merry christmas/happy new year"? No. They don't care, they are just interested in what they need. I won't tell anyone anything either, if that's what they want. I used to do it and they just don't care.
And now I'm awfully tired and going to bed after ranting. Thanks and good night

 

[Silatuyok]

Jealous.
It's kinda scary how my mood can go to sh** in 2 seconds flat.
I'm surviving though.
I know it's just a feeling and it'll pass.

 

[DeadmanWalking]

Jealous.
It's kinda scary how my mood can go to sh** in 2 seconds flat.
I'm surviving though.
I know it's just a feeling and it'll pass.

What's up Marie?

 

[awkwardamanda]

This sounds like you're not really dealing with your anger in a healthy way. I know it's easier said than done, but if things are making you upset, you're best to let people know about it rather than bottling it all up and waiting for D-day.

My mate has recently started anger management because he told me he's not dealing with his anger properly. Is that something you've considered or is that not available at this present time?

I think anger management in itself would be merely a band-aid that would not solve the underlying problems.

 

[DeadmanWalking]

I think anger management in itself would be merely a band-aid that would not solve the underlying problems.

I may not be right in saying this, but don't you think, in keeping with this comparison, that band-aid is better than letting the wound fester and get worse? Besides, the anger management may help you get to the bottom of the underlying problems.

 

[MikeyC]

Came back from therapy after 3 weeks of absence. It's not making my mood any better but it's good to get some talking out there. I still think I rambled on about garbage for 50 minutes, though.

Tired. Completed my final at 4am this morning after writing the final report through the night. Fingers crossed now for a good grade.

Good luck, DoA!

I think anger management in itself would be merely a band-aid that would not solve the underlying problems.

Pretty much what Deadman said. Sure there's underlying issues, but it might help alleviate those, too. I'm no expert, but who knows.

Anger management or not, I hope you can get to the bottom of it.

 

[megalon]

Not too good. I'm being trained for some new responsibilities with my job that used to be handled by a different department. Basically, I'm sitting alone in a darkroom all day. At first I thought it would be fine because I'm so used to isolation anyway. My job used to be my only source of human interaction, now I have no contact with people and my former coworkers seem to have forgotten me.::

 

[awkwardamanda]

I may not be right in saying this, but don't you think, in keeping with this comparison, that band-aid is better than letting the wound fester and get worse? Besides, the anger management may help you get to the bottom of the underlying problems.

I actually don't think so. If I was going to get help, I'd probably need years of therapy to deal with all the crap that made me the mess I am now. I don't see the point in opting for anger management instead.

 

[Arthur_Dent]

Unlucky, nothing serious, though ::

 

[DeadmanWalking]

I actually don't think so. If I was going to get help, I'd probably need years of therapy to deal with all the crap that made me the mess I am now. I don't see the point in opting for anger management instead.

Well, you've got to try something since we both know that sitting around won't change it. You can choose whatever you want to since I don't personally know you and, therefore, can't make accurate predictions about you. However, just promise me that you'll do something to confront those demons. My talk about anger management was just a suggestion on something you could do.

 

[Srijita52]

Unlucky, nothing serious, though ::

^^I know the feeling....

 

[awkwardamanda]

Well, you've got to try something since we both know that sitting around won't change it. You can choose whatever you want to since I don't personally know you and, therefore, can't make accurate predictions about you. However, just promise me that you'll do something to confront those demons. My talk about anger management was just a suggestion on something you could do.

Well, I have a doctor's appointment in a few days. I'm scared as hell but I should probably mention I've been feeling anxious and depressed. We'll see. I guess that's a start anyway.::