Hi everyone, talk to me!

[lily]

how r you doing, say anything!

 

[FountainandFairfax]

My tooth hurts and I have heartburn, I haven't slept well in a few days but the weather is nice and cool.

How are you?

If you leave me hanging I'll hunt you down.

 

[Graeme1988]

Hullo! There, ah said something. :bigsmile:

I'm not too bad... all things considered.

I think I'm getting the flu again, I'm tired cuz I didn't get much sleep. But other than that, I'm happier than I was 3 months ago when I kinda got into a depression that I felt stuck in. But now, I'm trying find enough things to do to keep my mind occupied. So, it's grand! :thumbup:

 

[theoutsider]

Hi Lily, how are you? Thanks for continuing to be one of the most consistent active members. It means a lot to know that, even with the dwindling activity, somebody still wants to communicate.

 

[BlueDays]

Hi, Nice to see you again. i joined SAS a while ago and now i seem to have been banned. i can't log in anymore. I also didn't get a 'you are banned or for how long I'm banned'. I didn't get a warning, it's just that after i read the rules i think i did something forbidden such as posting sth about what a mod said to me (in PM) but i still feel i should've gotten a warning and that the other two posters should've gotten sth then too for posting in my introduction post and not being discreetly doing it either and causing me to respond to it on the forum too. i feel it's unfair and unkind. it has been since Sunday. *angry* *hurt* *sad* *lonely*

Geez - banned with no warning is a bit harsh.
Was the thing that you posted about what a mod said to you in a PM, something that would have embarrassed the mod?

 

[lily]

Geez - banned with no warning is a bit harsh.
Was the thing that you posted about what a mod said to you in a PM, something that would have embarrassed the mod?

no it was just about my thoughts in response to what was said to me on the forum

 

[theoutsider]

Hi, Nice to see you again. i joined SAS a while ago and now i seem to have been banned. i can't log in anymore. I also didn't get a 'you are banned or for how long I'm banned'. how come? I didn't get a warning, it's just that after i read the rules i think i did something forbidden such as posting sth about what a mod said to me (in PM) on the forum in response to what others were talking to me about but i still feel i should've gotten a warning and that the other two posters should've gotten sth then too for posting in my introduction post and not being discreetly doing it either and causing me to respond to it on the forum too. i feel it's unfair and unkind. it has been since Sunday. *angry* *hurt* *sad* *lonely*
can someone console me or tell me what they know or feel about this forum? i like to interact there but i don't like what was done or is being done to me. i sent messages to the webmaster about if they know what is going on and if they can send me a notification of a possible ban but i got no reply so far.

Seems there's something going on behind the scenes they're not telling you about. I'm unfamiliar with SAS but have heard there are more troll-like posters over there. I don't need that. I come here as an escape from the trolls of the world. I don't think I would be joining.

 

[lily]

Seems there's something going on behind the scenes they're not telling you about. I'm unfamiliar with SAS but have heard there are more troll-like posters over there. I don't need that. I come here as an escape from the trolls of the world. I don't think I would be joining.

it's just odd

 

[PugofCrydee]

Hey Lily, are there any rules on SAS about quoting religion, or anything like that?
Did you read their site rules?
I've never been there.

 

[PugofCrydee]

I don't know. I can check LOL! I don't think so though as there's a section for religious posts and the only post i made about religion was in reply to a guy who was worried about sth.

Well if you only replied, and didnt say anything offensive.. its a bit weird why you would get banned. I wouldn't get it either.

 

[Pacific_Loner]

i still feel bad that I still cannot log into SAS so i take it that I'm banned and it's going on to two weeks and i was a new member. it's also the x-mas season. i didn't know what tricky way i was banned takes so long and they didn't even give me a warning.

Lily, you sound desperately lonely. Is there something you could do to meet new people out there? Dog park? Art classes? Volunteering? Religious group? (I personnally find that sport is an excellent way to meet new people without being stuck hanging out with them purposelessely)

 

[vj288]

For now I am as my mom has a very serious cold and i want to stay w/ her and help her. That's no support for how I've been banned for over two weeks, etc. Aren't you a loner too? What do you do? No there isn't anything to do for me with my condition. I've tried but there's none I'm interested in that's in the day time and i'm thinking you as a social anxiety sufferer would understand that? or perhaps not bc you're not me

What exactly do you mean by support? Loner just listed off a good list of possible activities, including specifically what she does (participate in sport). Personally, that's something I would put under support. It's offering her solution to a problem it sounds like you might be having. If they're not helpful, ok, but that's what I think it is.

I'm not really sure what you are looking for any of use to do about your banning on the other site. I don't think anyone knows why it happened, or has any ability to do anything about it. We can tell you it's odd, it sucks, and that hopefully they unban you soon. Beyond that, I don't think anyone has any answers.

If you're looking for more forum activity, none of us can magically make that happen here. I can tell you there are literally millions of forums out there though, and if there isn't enough activity here there are other ones. If you don't feel comfortable going out in the world, there's a million other places within the internet to go.

I don't mean to come off as rude, and I'm sorry if I am, but I feel you are repeating yourself through your posts on the forum and don't seem to be finding any solutions. There's of course nothing wrong with venting or sharing how you feel, it's what most of use this forum for forum on a regular basis, but people being online and having something helpful to say just might not be the case a lot of the time.

 

[PugofCrydee]

I just felt it sounded condescending.. 'Lily, you sound desperately lonely'. it wasn't a support of what you mentioned. THAT'S ALL! otherwise, it's fine.

I felt Pacific loner saying "Lily you seem desperately lonely" was only showing empathy?

 

[Remus]

I felt Pacific loner saying "Lily you seem desperately lonely" was only showing empathy?

Yeah, she's been a very supportive warm person over the years.

 

[LoyalXenite]

I felt Pacific loner saying "Lily you seem desperately lonely" was only showing empathy?

I would say it came from a place of empathy in my view too, it didnt seem like an attack of any kind.

 

[Pacific_Loner]

Yes, I'm sorry if it sounded condescending to you Lily, what I meant is it's starting to be worrisome because you sound very unhappy and anxious right now. So I was trying to suggest things that you could do to entertain yourself, meet new people, and let go of this banning thing because it sounds like it's draining you in a bad way

 

[lily]

Sorry i thought that. Thanks for your support.

 

[LoyalXenite]

Have you tried just making a new account with a different email address and rejoining the site under a different name?

 

[vj288]

vj288, i don't want to come off as rude either when i wrote 'THAT'S ALL!'. i just felt that your post had come across as unfriendly even though you did say that you're sorry if you sounded rude. but perhaps you agree that i should not focus on the likely banning however, i felt happy on that forum and very fulfilled whereas i feel a nagging boredom and loneliness here a lot usually and i wanted to get it right/the unfairness that i won't get into all of my thoughts and there aren't a lot of forums to go to; in fact i can't find another forum i can relate to now and go to and have nothing outside, no group that i could do in the daytime and what you missed was that you could say those supportive things about the forum while defending Pacific_Loner and not say it before? that's why i thought it had come across as unfriendly. i like it when people say what you mentioned above. Sometimes people just want support bc they don't have any other choice.

I tend to joke a lot through my posts, so when I have a more serious point to make I try to be more serious, and I can understand how that can be unfriendly, my intention was to be helpful though. And I hope I didn't make you feel unwelcome, you're of course welcome to post your thoughts and feelings throughout this forum, like I said it's what most of us use this forum for and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

I was just trying to look at the reality of things though. And I'm not talking about the banning, I don't use that forum and have no clue what happened. And expressing how you feel about it is completely ok. It's just this forum is what it is, there's only a handful of active posters, and most of the time no one else is online. When they are online, everyone may not be interested in offering support. Personally I'm worn out a lot, and don't feel I have a helpful thing to say, so I don't say anything. I worry people would depend on me when I know I am not dependable all the time. But other people do offer more support on a regular basis, but they are only human and have their own things to deal with.

I only say all that because it sounds like you are looking for a lot of support which this forum may only be able to provide some of. And unfortunately that other forum cannot provide that support right now. I offered the suggestion of other forums in the hope of there being one that could provide what you are looking for. I imagine loner suggested her activities for a similar reason.

I do read nearly all the posts people make, and I hope for you to find a supportive outlet if you don't have one.





And while I'm here and posting, I can give you one thought on your banning. One rule that a lot of forums tend to implement is a "spam post" rule. What that means is a person posts in a thread over and over without letting anyone reply, or if they make posts or threads that are all short without much substance, they'll ban them for taking away from other people's posts. On a forum like spw that is slow, it doesn't really matter if a person posts in a thread 5 times in a row because they're bored. But on a forum where there are hundreds or even thousands of other users online it makes everything a hot mess. I know you sometimes post like that here (which is fine, because the forum is so slow) and maybe if you did as well on the other forum they didn't like it.

 

[PugofCrydee]

For my x-mas gift or even prior to it, i want to be unbanned (or the very likelyhood that I AM)

Maybe if you pray hard enough, god will unban you?