vj288, i don't want to come off as rude either when i wrote 'THAT'S ALL!'. i just felt that your post had come across as unfriendly even though you did say that you're sorry if you sounded rude. but perhaps you agree that i should not focus on the likely banning however, i felt happy on that forum and very fulfilled whereas i feel a nagging boredom and loneliness here a lot usually and i wanted to get it right/the unfairness that i won't get into all of my thoughts and there aren't a lot of forums to go to; in fact i can't find another forum i can relate to now and go to and have nothing outside, no group that i could do in the daytime and what you missed was that you could say those supportive things about the forum while defending Pacific_Loner and not say it before? that's why i thought it had come across as unfriendly. i like it when people say what you mentioned above. Sometimes people just want support bc they don't have any other choice.
I tend to joke a lot through my posts, so when I have a more serious point to make I try to be more serious, and I can understand how that can be unfriendly, my intention was to be helpful though. And I hope I didn't make you feel unwelcome, you're of course welcome to post your thoughts and feelings throughout this forum, like I said it's what most of us use this forum for and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.
I was just trying to look at the reality of things though. And I'm not talking about the banning, I don't use that forum and have no clue what happened. And expressing how you feel about it is completely ok. It's just this forum is what it is, there's only a handful of active posters, and most of the time no one else is online. When they are online, everyone may not be interested in offering support. Personally I'm worn out a lot, and don't feel I have a helpful thing to say, so I don't say anything. I worry people would depend on me when I know I am not dependable all the time. But other people do offer more support on a regular basis, but they are only human and have their own things to deal with.
I only say all that because it sounds like you are looking for a lot of support which this forum may only be able to provide some of. And unfortunately that other forum cannot provide that support right now. I offered the suggestion of other forums in the hope of there being one that could provide what you are looking for. I imagine loner suggested her activities for a similar reason.
I do read nearly all the posts people make, and I hope for you to find a supportive outlet if you don't have one.
And while I'm here and posting, I can give you one thought on your banning. One rule that a lot of forums tend to implement is a "spam post" rule. What that means is a person posts in a thread over and over without letting anyone reply, or if they make posts or threads that are all short without much substance, they'll ban them for taking away from other people's posts. On a forum like spw that is slow, it doesn't really matter if a person posts in a thread 5 times in a row because they're bored. But on a forum where there are hundreds or even thousands of other users online it makes everything a hot mess. I know you sometimes post like that here (which is fine, because the forum is so slow) and maybe if you did as well on the other forum they didn't like it.