Blannabers
Active member
I don't necessarily know if this is the correct place to put this, but I'm sure that someone will find it.
Very very recently, I have been having these thoughts of complete loneliness. Not just regular loneliness (though included), but I have been having lonely spells, as if looking for a significant other. What I wouldn't give to lay next to someone, cuddled up, watching a movie or some tv, just chilling out of the night, being lazy together. I know that I could be a fantastic girlfriend, or maybe a wife. I am 24 years old and I'm starting to hear the marriage bells. Maybe not for the reason that I want to be married, but just because I want someone to call my own.
Here's my problem though. I developed the dreaded wall. The shield that keeps people at bay. It's not like anyone is asking me out or anything, or have been for a while, but whenever I feel (when I think it happens) that someone is trying to break into that closeness, I shut down. I block myself in and dig in my heels. I somehow keep them at bay. I have good reason to develop that reflex though. For my past 3 'relationships', everytime I completely let go, let them all the way in or sleep with them (sex is very sacred to me), they disappear, literally, the day after. I'm left confused, broken-hearted, and very upset.
Now, I really want to fall in love and I feel like I deserve to, granted seeing all those douchebags with nice girls or sluts with the nice guy. The last time someone tried to 'come in' it got messy. I was terrified, I instantly put myself down really hard, and I buried myself underneath a rock, pretty much.
I'm sure alot of you out there feel the same way about wanting someone for yourself, right?
Very very recently, I have been having these thoughts of complete loneliness. Not just regular loneliness (though included), but I have been having lonely spells, as if looking for a significant other. What I wouldn't give to lay next to someone, cuddled up, watching a movie or some tv, just chilling out of the night, being lazy together. I know that I could be a fantastic girlfriend, or maybe a wife. I am 24 years old and I'm starting to hear the marriage bells. Maybe not for the reason that I want to be married, but just because I want someone to call my own.
Here's my problem though. I developed the dreaded wall. The shield that keeps people at bay. It's not like anyone is asking me out or anything, or have been for a while, but whenever I feel (when I think it happens) that someone is trying to break into that closeness, I shut down. I block myself in and dig in my heels. I somehow keep them at bay. I have good reason to develop that reflex though. For my past 3 'relationships', everytime I completely let go, let them all the way in or sleep with them (sex is very sacred to me), they disappear, literally, the day after. I'm left confused, broken-hearted, and very upset.
Now, I really want to fall in love and I feel like I deserve to, granted seeing all those douchebags with nice girls or sluts with the nice guy. The last time someone tried to 'come in' it got messy. I was terrified, I instantly put myself down really hard, and I buried myself underneath a rock, pretty much.
I'm sure alot of you out there feel the same way about wanting someone for yourself, right?