Hating others, who are having fun

[Argentum]

I get how you feel, OP. I don't normally see myself as a hateful person and legitimately want the clients I work with to succeed, but I've started to hate seeing other people happy. They can make friends and fall in love without having to make any significant changes to themselves, even if they have many flaws, while I've worked hard to improve myself and overcome anxiety for many years with the only result being that I've gotten worse.

They were born blessed, and I was born cursed. Of course I resent them to a degree.

 

[greggy]

I hate people untill they are nice to me

 

[greggy]

I hate the life ive been given, everything i do goes wrong, people around me have everything and i get dumped on, i have a friend who was seeing 3 gorgeous girls and had to choose between them, as apossed to me girls dont even acknowledge me! They pretend i dont exist, that's what im thinking more and more that i should't exist, im evennangry that people even had the misfortune to know me! I WANT TO DIE!

 

[greggy]

So sorry for that outburst just javing a bad day

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

hey I know how you feel. I think this feeling might actually help motivate you to try to make some more connections. Okay there's nothing wrong with hanging out with your mom and her friend. the problem seems to be that you don't have other people to hang out with that makes you happy. I had a similar experience with eating icecream with my mom and her brother and feeling bad because everyone else was around my age but I didn't know how to communicate with them. now I have a couple more friends and don't feel bad hanging out with my mom because I have other people to think about too. I don't have many friends and experience being alone a lot too but at least there's a couple. I'm still trying to build more friends. Not everyone is nice so you can't just be friends with anyone. Quality is important. Don't give up! Also some people have no friends to hang out with, not even one family member to meet and are homeless, so also try to appreciate what you have now in the process.

 

[Kiwong]

I don't hate people, I'm happier when they are not around.

I don't want to be anyone else, I can have fun, especially in my own company.

 

[Sacrament]

I hate the life ive been given, everything i do goes wrong, people around me have everything and i get dumped on, i have a friend who was seeing 3 gorgeous girls and had to choose between them, as apossed to me girls dont even acknowledge me! They pretend i dont exist, that's what im thinking more and more that i should't exist, im evennangry that people even had the misfortune to know me! I WANT TO DIE!

Girls like confidence. If you're able to build upon yours (which doesn't mean getting rid of your anxiety but knowing how to tame it - everyone feels anxiety and it's a normal thing), you'll be more confident toward yourself, family, friends, your everyday things/life, and girls too. Even if a girl gave you the attention you want, what would you do afterwards? Wouldn't you be way too nervous and fidgety to have a normal conversation and show her confidence?

 

[theoutsider]

The only time I feel anything like hatred towards people who are having fun is when I'm at work and something has gone horribly wrong for me. While I'm wallowing in anxiety and despair, I hear them laughing and whooping it up, totally unconcerned or unaware of the misery I am in. At that point I always feel like standing up and yelling, "SHUT UP!!! If you aren't going to help me at least have the decency to SHUT UP and stop being so happy!!!"

 

[R3K]

ooooo I hhhhaaaaaaate happy people... :veryangry: :veryangry: :veryangry:

they have so much, and they just keep getting more and more and more and all the ladies and cute girls and money and cars....

I played roller hockey with my brother-in-law and all his buddies. we'd be in the locker room getting geared up, and all these guys talking about their hot girlfriends and what pornographic things they do in the bedroom. i'm sitting there trying to make up something to say if they ask me if I have a girlfriend, but they won't ask, because they all know i'm a loser who couldn't get a chick to save my life. and they know I know it also, which makes it even more poignantly hurtful.

 

[greggy]

Girls like confidence. If you're able to build upon yours (which doesn't mean getting rid of your anxiety but knowing how to tame it - everyone feels anxiety and it's a normal thing), you'll be more confident toward yourself, family, friends, your everyday things/life, and girls too. Even if a girl gave you the attention you want, what would you do afterwards? Wouldn't you be way too nervous and fidgety to have a normal conversation and show her confidence?

Thanks for replying, i agree with you that confidence is a very important factor in the whole girls showing interest, and you are right i am very nerious and have real trouble making eye contact with people, i know ihave to work on myself first before i can think about a girlfriend.

 

[greggy]

ooooo I hhhhaaaaaaate happy people... :veryangry: :veryangry: :veryangry:

they have so much, and they just keep getting more and more and more and all the ladies and cute girls and money and cars....

I played roller hockey with my brother-in-law and all his buddies. we'd be in the locker room getting geared up, and all these guys talking about their hot girlfriends and what pornographic things they do in the bedroom. i'm sitting there trying to make up something to say if they ask me if I have a girlfriend, but they won't ask, because they all know i'm a loser who couldn't get a chick to save my life. and they know I know it also, which makes it even more poignantly hurtful.

I can so relate to this, i feel like im doomed to be a loser forever, hang in there mate!

 

[Sacrament]

It is crucial for all of us to create the person we want to be, and take advantage of each day to get closer to it.